19 September workshop

1. Welcome To Family Matters -------------------- 19 September 2010 ROFC Psalm 127:1

2. Building New Bridges Towards A Better Communication in our Marriage Presented by: MVK

10. THE NUMBER ONE CHALLENGE WITH COMMUNICATING WITH OTHERS IS THAT WE ALL SEE THE WORLD AND MOST THINGS DIFFERENTLY BECAUSE WE ARE ACTUALLY DIFFERENT

11. And The ONLY Reason Most People end up seeing things from The same point of view is Simply because They AGREE to do so, so that they may ACHIEVE certain goals and this does not take away their being Different Amos 3:3

12. AND EVEN THOUGH THEY REMAIN DIFFERENT Every time they tackle issues they ARM themselves with the same Mentality and perspective that is needed for the common purpose of achieving the goal at hand This makes it easy for them

13. THE TOWER OF BABEL Genesis 11:6 The Lord said, "If as one people speaking the same language they have begun to do this, then nothing they plan to do will be impossible for them”.

15. Since Communication is The main Culprit I have opted to Rephrase all The above Challenges and interpret them as follows

16. My reason for this is because there are other couples who have exactly the same challenges but they are able to tackle them using better Communication methods than the others

17. Instead of – Financial Problems can we use – Lack of Proper Communication in Finances THE BIG QUESTION is it Possible that some couples use their Finances as a means of communication in their Marriages

18. Instead of – Problems about Children can we use Lack of Proper Communication about how to react to challenges posed by children BIG QUESTION is it possible that some couples use their children as a means of communication

19. Instead of – Neutrality can we use Lack of Communicating one’s feelings or standpoint THE BIG QUESTION is it possible that some people use Neutrality as a means of communicating with their partners

20. Instead of – Spiritual Problems can we use – Lack of Proper Spiritual Communication THE BIG QUESTION is it possible that some people use their Spirituality or lack of it as a means of communicating with their partners

21. Instead of Sexual Problems can we use lack of proper sexual communication THE BIG QUESTION is it possible that other people use deprivation or provision of sex as a means to communicate their stand or feelings about other issues

22. Divorces at Different Years

23. THE BIG QUESTION Communication Is it Skill or Gift?

24. BETTER COMMUNICATION Research shows that about 80% of problems don’t even have to be solved when the couple talks through the issues and reaches MUTUAL understanding And only the Most difficult problems will require the use of problem solving methods

25. PROBLEM SOLVING 1 THE TWO MOST DANGEROUS WORDS TO AVOID WHEN TRYING TO SOLVE A PROBLEM ARE….

26. YOU ALWAYS! And YOU NEVER!

29. BARRIERS TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION There will always be barriers to our effective communication and these are based on a few things

30. SUGGESTION INSTEAD OF PROBLEMS WHY NOT LOOK AT THEM AS PUZZLES?

31. IT IS EASIER AND ITS ALWAYS A PLEASURE TO DO PUZZLES THAN TO SOLVE PROBLEMS AFTER ALL WHO WANTS TO BE STUCK WITH APROBLEM

32. Is it true that men and women are not equal when it comes to communicating?

33. The American Psychological Association Believes That Men and women are not actually as different as we might think. A review of dozens of studies found out that both sexes are basically alike when it comes to personality, Thinking ability and leadership The differences that may exist may reflect Social expectations and not Biology

40. FACT A woman speaks between 22,000 and 25,000 words a day A man speaks between 7,000 and 10,000 words a day This explains why women feel that men don’t want to listen and men feel that women never stop talking

44. FEAR GOD, AND DO HIS WILL AND HE WILL ESTABLISH YOU AS A STRONG FAMILY MVK

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