Sooner or later, everyone one of us will have to experience rough times. When they come, how do we respond? Does it make break or make you a better person? Can one acquire skills that will make us master over life circumstances?

1. REMEMBER THESE THINGS WHEN LIFE BECOMES ROUGH
No matter who or where you are, you will go through a crisis one day that will make it feel like you have
been hit by a truck. For some, these events happen simultaneously; and you wonder if all hell has been
unleashed against you. We all have our bad days, and it is helpful to remember that no matter how bad
things may be now, it shall soon pass away. There is no use struggling with a storm while it is raging, the
best thing you can do is to remain calm. The storm will soon pass. Things do go wrong no matter what
we do; no one is above it for it is peculiar to us all.
Is anyone going through bad days? Then, think on these things:
.Things are not usually as bad as they seemed. So don't be overly consumed by the "rough" times as
they are inevitable. Anyone who lives long enough will encounter bad times sooner or later.
.Life is a mixture of fruitful and dry times, just like the way we have winter, autumn and summer times.
No matter how we hate the winter season, you can't wish or pray it away; we just have to wait it out.
Sooner or later, it will give way for the summer. Likewise, the rough times of life are seasons we have to
endure and go through.
.No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere
else is desperately fighting for theirs.
.Periods of hardship are rare moments when we should pause and learn some life lessons. We should be
honest enough to admit to ourselves where we went wrong, become wiser from the mistakes and make
amendments where necessary. For instance, some people found themselves in financial hardships
because of frivolous spending and lack of proper financial education. No matter the size of a fortune, it
will grow wings and fly away if it is not wisely invested.
. If you don’t get something you want, it might be an indication that something better is coming. Yes,
believe it. If you look back at your life journey, you would see that it was good that some things you
desperately wanted didn't turn out as you expected. I remember the story of two guys who were
interviewed for the job of a pilot. Only one of them was successful in the interview. The other guy was
so devastated that he locked himself indoors for two days. Later, report came that the successful
candidate died in a crash while he was test running one of the aircrafts which they never knew had a
technical fault. At the news, he snapped out of his depression and became thankful that he did not get
the job after all.
.No matter what happens, choose your reaction. You may not be able to control the event, but you have
total control on how you respond to it. You can face the worst things in this world, but if you decide not
to be affected by them, you won't be.
.Think on the way forward. Take action. In so doing, you are not a passive recipient, but a conscious
creator.

2. .When we are tested by the fire of rough times, our real self comes forth, that is when we get to know
the stuff some of us are made off. In such times, maintain your integrity don't change who you are , do
not abandon your beliefs and convictions for momentary relief.
.Determine to overcome it. Within us lies the latent ability to overcome and subdue any contrary
situation. Make use the power within and gain confidence as you overcome one challenge over
another.
.Laugh through it. One of the things that makes an eagle unique and named the king of birds is its ability
to laugh through storms. Whenever there is a storm, what an eagle does is to face the direction where
the storm is coming from and face it, rides through it and laugh over it. It is only trials, challenges,
difficult situations that usher in triumphs, breakthroughs and celebrations. When life is bland and same
every day, we become lazy, relaxed in our comfort zones and bored. But when we face hardships once in
a while, we are jolted out of our complacency, and reach out for the greatness ahead of us. I know
people who became better and stronger after a stormy situation. I came to discover myself, my
strengths, gifts and abilities after a so called rough period. You can also.

3. It is preferable to be alone than being stuck with the wrong people. Who you finally come to be in life
has a lot to do with the kind of people you surround yourself with.
For most of us, fate determines who walks into our lives, but we must decide who stays, who we go
after, and who we let walk out.
Essentially, you should surround yourself with friends who make you a better person and do away with
those who don’t.
Below are the indications that you are in the wrong company.
They Judge you by your past
We all make mistakes, learn from them and move on, But, some people will find it difficult accept the
fact that you are no longer who they used to know. They are unable to see the new person who has
emerged from the old and cannot stand the knowledge that you’re growing and getting better by the
day.
So they try to dig out your past to rub it on your face every now and then. Ignore them and keep moving
forward.
Clinging to the past which cannot be changed is a waste of time and resources which cannot in any way
create a better today. If someone continuously judges you by who you used to be , you should have
stand for your future by leaving them in the past.
They influence you to be judgmental of others
As a matter of fact, no human being is superior to another irrespective of faith, race, size or shape.
Judgments and criticism about others on the basis of race, color and religious beliefs are wrong and
unacceptable.
By Judging others by their skin color, body size, and physical beauty, you will get never get to discover
who they really are. You will be amazed at the quality of people you will learn about and come across if
you can get over the fact that some people will not dress, think and live the way you do.
Avoid people who influence you to judge or hate others as they are as bad as bad company gets.

4. They are Jealous of you
A little envy is in place, but when someone is excessively jealous of what you have and who you are,
there is danger in keeping company with such.
Those who are excessively jealous of others show how much they hate their lives and who they have
become. You can try to help, but be careful that they don't drag you down to where they are. But I
doubt if you can help because no amount of love, or encouragement from you will ever make them feel
better about themselves. So avoid their company at all costs.
They want you to be another person
Be in the company of those who see you the way you are, and not as they want to think you are.
Befriend those who know about the real you, and still love and respect you anyway.
Withdraw from anyone who expects you to be someone you’re not . It is better to lose relationships by
being you, than keeping them intact by acting like someone you’re not. It is better to have a little
heartache and meet someone new, than it is to put together your own broken identity. It’s easier to fill
an empty space within your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space within
yourself where you used to be.
Their negativity rubs off on you.
The negative people around you don’t just behave negatively towards you, but also towards everyone
they interact with. What they say and do is a prognosis of their own reality and their state of mind. If
they make a personal comment against you or insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you, but a
reflection of their inner battles.
Note that what these people say and do should not be taken to heart. Though you have no control over
what they say and do; you have control over choosing listening to them or not and prevent their
poisonous words and actions from invading your mind. If you feel these people are getting to you, avoid
them at all costs as they will sap your excitement, kill your passion and burn out your resources.
Avoiding them doesn't mean you hate them, you are simply respecting and adding value to yourself.
They continually lie to you
If someone continually lie to you, they are disrespecting you and don't have your best interest at heart.
When you keep someone in your life who is a congenital liar, and you keep giving them opportunities to
be trusted; then you have a lot in common with this person. You’re both lying and being unloving to
you!
Those who leave out the truth and say only what you want to hear do so for their own benefit, not
yours. Don't allow it.
They don't value your dreams, passions and abilities
If you allow others to define your dreams and abilities, then you empower them to limit you. What
you’re capable of achieving is not a function of what other people think is possible for you, but on what
you choose to do with your time and energy.
People will advice to you about what is possible or impossible. Look beyond the opinions and limitations
of others, and ride with your own vision of how your far you can fly with your dreams. Life is an open-

5. ended journey, and what you achieve depends on what you expect and believe to achieve.
Care less about what everyone else thinks. Keep living your dreams and passions. The only people who
will be angry at you for doing so are those who want you to live a lie.
They see you only when when it’s convenient
Any relationship without frequent interaction and communication is going to have problems, especially
when there’s a lack of commitment on one side.
Don’t waste your time with someone who only wants you around when it’s convenient for them. You
must not force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they truly care about you they
will gladly create space for you.
Being in a relationship with someone who does not value your worth is not loyalty, it is stupidity. Never
beg someone for attention. Know your self-worth, and move on if you must.
You feel trapped
Great relationships keep the doors open. Plenty of air is flowing and no one feels trapped. Relationships
thrive in this kind of healthy environment. Anyone can come and go anytime, but you choose to stay
because you are where you want to be.
If you want to be a part of someone’s life, all the open doors and gates in the world won’t make you
leave. But, If someone has closed the doors in an effort to trap you into something you don’t want to be
a part of, it’s time to find the strength to kick open the door and get out.

6. ended journey, and what you achieve depends on what you expect and believe to achieve.
Care less about what everyone else thinks. Keep living your dreams and passions. The only people who
will be angry at you for doing so are those who want you to live a lie.
They see you only when when it’s convenient
Any relationship without frequent interaction and communication is going to have problems, especially
when there’s a lack of commitment on one side.
Don’t waste your time with someone who only wants you around when it’s convenient for them. You
must not force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they truly care about you they
will gladly create space for you.
Being in a relationship with someone who does not value your worth is not loyalty, it is stupidity. Never
beg someone for attention. Know your self-worth, and move on if you must.
You feel trapped
Great relationships keep the doors open. Plenty of air is flowing and no one feels trapped. Relationships
thrive in this kind of healthy environment. Anyone can come and go anytime, but you choose to stay
because you are where you want to be.
If you want to be a part of someone’s life, all the open doors and gates in the world won’t make you
leave. But, If someone has closed the doors in an effort to trap you into something you don’t want to be
a part of, it’s time to find the strength to kick open the door and get out.