Developing the skill of decision making in marriage 2
1. DEVELOPING THE SKILL OF DECISION-
MAKING IN MARRIAGE
PRESENTED
BY
SCOTT ODIGIE
TO
NCCF (NYSC) BATCH ‘C’
PASSING OUT CONFERENCE
ON
7TH OCTOBER, 2012
2. REFERENCES: Heb 5:14 & 1 Cor. 13:11
(KJV)
14
But strong meat belongeth to them that
are of full age, even those who by reason of
use have their senses exercised to discern
both good and evil.
11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I
understood as a child, I thought as a child:
but when I became a man, I put away
childish things.
3. OBJECTIVE
To redefine the concept of
marriage and empower
participants to develop
the skill of choice-making
in marriage.
4. INTRODUCTION
Marriage is as easy as anything we choose
to be a success in.
One of our greatest challenge in marriage is
in the place of choice-making; we desire to
choose, but do not know how.
Decision-making in life; marriage inclusive,
is a foundational skill every single must
develop in other to build a healthy and
excellent home.
5. PRINCIPLE
1. Prioritize your ‘relationship with God’
than marriage, money, beauty. This
could also be termed your love of God.
Pro. 19:14. (Abraham & Lot, Peter &
fishing).
6. PRINCIPLE
2. Understand your own ‘personal style’
of communication with God. This
answers the question of assurance and
conviction in knowing HIS ‘will’.
Exo.6:3, John 10:3-5.
7. PRINCIPLE
3. Understand your sexuality differences.
Male and female are different in the
following:
Emotional difference (menstrual cycle
every month).
Physical differences (muscle, breast).
Hormonal difference (testosterone &
estrogen).
8. PRINCIPLE
4. Understand what love is not.
1Cor.13:1-8.
Sexual feelings do not equate love.
Love affairs in romance books,
magazines, and movies are not genuine
love.
9. CONT’D
Love is not blind.
Real love is not infatuation.
Love is not having sex before
marriage.
Courting an unbeliever is not genuine
love.
10. PRINCIPLE
5. Learn to define your relationship with
the opposite sex. Not anyone you meet
can be your spouse. Gen.2:23.
11. PRINCIPLE
6. In your choice-making, let God’s ‘will’
be your most priority rather than
materialism, tribalism, intellectualism.
1 peter 3:2-4.
12. PRINCIPLE
7. Choose your
friends/associates/partners. It is your
choice and by compulsion. Acts 4:13,
Pro.13:20, Pro.12:26.
13. PRINCIPLE
8. Learn to make and develop friendship
with the opposite sex. Avoid being
suspicious and defensive. Pro.14:7.
14. PRINCIPLE
9. Go for knowledge through literatures,
seminars, conferences, and audio-
visual materials. John 5:39, Pro.11:14.
15. PRINCIPLE
10. Look for a mentor, a spiritual father
or mother that you can confide in.
example is the relationship between
Naomi & Ruth, Mordecai & Esther.
16. CONCLUSION
Decision determines destiny. Thank you
for listening.