5. Resiliency for Life
re·sil·ience
My Definition
4. The ability to change the quality of our experience
to create more positive experiences and outcomes.
Lessen the pain. Increase the positives in the journey.
18. Threat / Shrink Opportunity / Stretch
X
Stuff Happens
Acceptance
Mastery / Learning
Helplessness
Hopelessness
Bitter Better
Visit here normal
Live here is not good
Live here is key
HOW?
25. ReActive Thinking/Feeling ~ Active Thinking/Feeling
X
~ Stuff Happens
Acceptance
Mastery / Learning
Helplessness
Hopelessness
Bitter Better
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Process
26. ReActive Thinking/Feeling ~ Active Thinking/Feeling
X
~ Stuff Happens
Acceptance
Mastery / Learning
Helplessness
Hopelessness
Bitter Better
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Live here is not so
good in short term
Live here is key
Process
27. Threatened ~ Opportunity
X
~ Stuff Happens
Acceptance
Mastery / Learning
Helplessness
Hopelessness
Bitter
Lack of wisdom
Does not always
equal lack of
knowledge but of
application.
What blocks you?
Better
Wisdom =
Knowledge Learned
& Applied
What builds you?
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Live here in the long
term we can feel trapped
Life can get ugly!
Live this way is goal
Process
28. Loss of Resiliency ~ Gaining Resiliency
X
Process
Focus
What hurts?
(Past / Future)
Focus
What am I missing?
Next steps?
(Present)
Normal Range
For coping
and thriving
29. Loss of Resiliency ~ Gaining Resiliency
X
Process
Normal Range
Of being human
What type of behaviour builds or tears our resiliency
Frozen
Flicker
Frenzy
Floppy / Relation
Flow / Mindfulness
Fright and Fun
30. Loss of Resiliency ~ Gaining Resiliency
X
Process
Increased Range
of Resilience
Less F-3’s
Frozen
Flicker
Frenzy
Increased F+3’s
Floppy / Relaxation
Flow / Mindfulness
Fright and Fun
31. Loss of Resiliency ~ Gaining Resiliency
X
Process
Focus Past / Future
Resisting
Avoiding
Assuming Outward
Demanding
Normal Range
For coping
and thriving
Focus Present Big Stuff Little Stuff
32. Loss of Resiliency ~ Gaining Resiliency
X
Process
Focus Past / Future
Normal Range
For coping
and thriving
Focus Present Big Stuff Little Stuff
Acceptance
Yielding
Observing Inward / Outward
Cruising (Time Out)
Implementing / Innovating /
Delegating
Follow Up / Tune Up
33. Reactive / Loss of Resiliency ~ Active / Gaining Resiliency
X
Process
Focus Past / Future
Normal Range
Focus Present
Big Stuff Little Stuff
Personal Audit
Awareness Inwards and Outward
Self Leadership
Vision & Values
Relationships
Energy Management
Life Long Learning
34. Reactive / Loss of Resiliency ~ Active / Gaining Resiliency
X
Process
Focus Past / Future
Normal Range
Focus Present
Big Stuff Little Stuff
Personal Audit -
Awareness Inwards and Outward
Self Leadership
Vision & Values
Relationships
Energy Management
Life Long Learning
35. Reactive / Loss of Resiliency ~ Active / Gaining Resiliency
X
Process
Focus Past / Future
Normal Range
Focus Present
Big Stuff Little Stuff
Personal Audit -
Looking to understand includes
What are your:
- types of intelligence
- personality styles
- problem solving & creativity skills
- self
36. Reactive / Loss of Resiliency ~ Active / Gaining Resiliency
X
Process
How did we get here?
What keeps us here?
Normal Range
How do we achieve this?
What helps keep us here?
37. Reactive / Loss of Resiliency ~ Active / Gaining Resiliency
X
Process
How did we get here?
What keeps us here?
Normal Range
How do we achieve this?
What helps keep us here?
38. Reactive / Loss of Resiliency ~ Active / Gaining Resiliency
X
Process
How did we get here?
What keeps us here?
Normal Range
How do we achieve this?
What helps keep us here?