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Things we fight about
- 2. James 4:1-2 What is causing the quarrels and fights among you? Don’t they come from the evil desires at war within you? 2 You want what you don’t have, so you scheme and kill to get it. You are jealous of what others have, but you can’t get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them.
- 3. Reason 1 We forget about a mess called US.
- 4. James 4:1-2 What is causing the quarrels and fights among you? Don’t they come from the evil desires at war within you?
- 6. Your brother and sister are not your enemy!
- 7. Things we fight about… 1. Worship wars. 2. Prolonged minutia meetings. 3. Facility focus. 4. Inwardly focused budget. 5. Greater concern about change than the gospel. 6. Inordinate demands for pastoral care. 7. Program driven. 8. Anger and hostility. 9. Evangelistic apathy. Thom Rainer: I Am a Church Member (p. 38).
- 10. Five reactions to conflict 1.Silence. 2.Direct agression. 3.Indirect agression. 4.Escape. 5.Assertive.
- 12. Reason 2 We forget its not about US.
- 13. James 4:2 You want what you don’t have, so you scheme and kill to get it. You are jealous of what others have, but you can’t get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them.
- 14. Key Questions 1.Who is the church for? 2.Who does the church belong to?
- 15. Only 15% of kids born after 1980 are Christians. (Thom Rainier)
- 17. Reason 3 We forget to fight fair.
- 18. The objective is not to stop fighting, but to fight fair when we do fight.
- 19. Three tips for conflict resolution: 1.Ask, don't interpret, assume or take for granted. 2. Pray before. (We end fights like we start them.) 3. Concentrate. Stick to the real problem and stick to one problem at a time.
- 20. Proverbs 18:19 (NLT) An offended friend is harder to win back than a fortified city. Arguments separate friends like a gate locked with bars.
- 21. John 8:36 So if the Son sets you free, you are truly free.
Notes de l'éditeur
- Worship wars. One or more factions in the church want the music just the way they like it. Any deviation is met with anger and demands for change. The order of service must remain constant. Certain instrumentation is required while others are prohibited. Prolonged minutia meetings. The church spends an inordinate amount of time in different meetings. Most of the meetings deal with the most inconsequential items, while the Great Commission and Great Commandment are rarely the topics of discussion. Facility focus. The church facilities develop iconic status. One of the highest priorities in the church is the protection and preservation of rooms, furniture, and other visible parts of the church’s buildings and grounds. Program driven. Every church has programs even if they don’t admit it. When we start doing a ministry a certain way, it takes on programmatic status. The problem is not with programs. The problem develops when the program becomes an end instead of a means Anger and hostility. Members are consistently angry. They regularly express hostility toward the church staff and other members. Evangelistic apathy. Very few members share their faith on a regular basis. More are concerned about their own needs rather than the greatest eternal needs of the world and community in which they live. Rainer, Thom S. (2013-04-04). I Am a Church Member: Discovering the Attitude that Makes the Difference (p. 38). B&H Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.