This document discusses personality type 4, known as the individualist. It provides information on unhealthy relationships, signs of stress, signs of growth, and signs that self-care is needed for this personality type. It concludes by offering several self-care and mindfulness exercises for type 4s, including meditation, reality checking intense emotions with others, cognitive behavioral therapy, accepting others may not want to share intense emotions, exercise, and taking up a low-pressure hobby.

1. Practical Emotional Intelligence
Volume 12: Personality Type 4:
The Individualist
(part 2 of 2)
Adopted from the book ‘Stop Being
Your Self’ by Ronan Gallagher

2. Today’s
Content:
Type 4: The
Individualist
(part 2 of 2)
Type 4: Unhealthy Relationships
Type 4: Signs of Stress
Type 4: Signs of Growth
Type 4: Self-Care Signs
Type 4: Self-Care & Mindfulness Exercises

3. Type 4: Unhealthy
Relationships
Type 4 relates to others in a
neurotic and unproductive
way, when:
 They subject others to
their mood swings and
emotional tantrums.
They have an
expectation that others
will indulge and facilitate
their extreme emotional
episodes.

4. Type 4: Signs of Stress
When Type 4 feels that life is not going as planned, in times of stress or uncertainty,
they will:
Become overly involved in others’ lives, whom they believe ‘need’ their help.
Exaggerate their own importance in others’ lives.
Focus on becoming indispensable to the recipient of their help- seeking to make them
dependant, whilst also becoming possessive of the person.

5. Type 4: Signs of
Growth
When a Type 4 has made a conscious
decision to leave behind the unhelpful
aspects of their personality and to
deepen their self-awareness through
mindfulness practices, they:
Move from an individual that is jealous
and emotionally demanding to
someone that is morally astute,
discerning and balanced.

6. Type 4: Self-Care
Signs
A Type 4 needs to plan some Self-
Care, when:
The emotional charge of a
negative feeling starts to
increase.
They spend much of their day,
reflecting on and feeling the
emotional pain of an issue.

7. Type 4: Self-Care & Mindfulness Exercises
Meditate 5 weekday mornings
per week for 5 mins. Meditation
or mind training, is the only way
we can permanently change our
ability to regulate our emotions,
without external help.
You are prone to self-amplified
emotional states- ask someone
you respect to reality check your
views and emotional states.
Do Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
to help you find a more
grounding perspective on the
problems in your life.
Learn that others that do not
want to share your emotional
state, are only protecting
themselves and are not as
comfortable as you are with
emotions.
Start to do some form of aerobic
or cardio exercise regularly.
Take up a hobby that doesn't
require your painful artistic input.

8. Thank you
very much
for reading!
Next week the focus is on
Type 5- The Observer.