Parents need to work together to solve the challenges of online safety, stopping online predators, teaching about cyberbullying, etc. This presentation helps parents keeps up with the latest digital safety issues.

1. Enabling Digital Savvy Parents
Digital Safety 401

2. Sport’s injuries replaced
by “digital” injuries
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How Times Have Changed

3. Most of us have or know of “digital
injury” stories
Many unprepared or aware until it
happens
What’s Your Story?
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4. Digital Safety Parenting Skills Differ
Digital safety savvy parents
Parents working hard to learn and navigate digital
safety issues
Parents who need help or have
given up

5. Today’s Agenda
Real World Challenges
2017 Challenging Apps
Teenage Issues Ampified by Smartphones
Proactive Monitoring Ideas
Tips and Conversation Starters

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Kids are Bombarded from All Sides
Inside
the
house
Outsid
e the
house
Inside
their
body
Each day a new story i.e. “roasting” newest cyberbully concern

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Cyberbullying
Supplements face-to-face
abuse and too often leads
to severe complications
Online World
Gives teens a false sense
of security that they are
safe behind their screen
Online predators
Are sophisticated
and relentless
Endless Digital Dangers While at Home
On-line predators can be sex offenders, pornographers or sextortionists

8. Sexting more dangerous version of truth-
or-dare
70% sext with their girlfriend or boyfriend
Reputations destroyed in the instant a user
hits send
One mistake with sexting can lead to even
more trouble if it turns into “sextortion”
Dangers at Home
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9. Smartphones mean all the digital troubles
go wherever the tweens and teens go
At school or with friends parents can’t be
there to guide
Devastating challenges of texting and other
distracted driving
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Dangers Follow Outside Home

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Challenges Amplified Inside our Teens
Lack of
Judgement
Depression

11. Teenage Issues Ampified by Smartphones

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How Tech Takes its Toll on Teens
57% 62% 21%
Of Teens Text While in
Bed According to a study
by Seton Hall
Phones in the Bedroom
62% of teens say
they use their
smartphones after
their bedtime
Sleep Interrupted
21% say they wake up
if they receive a text
66% of teens say smartphones affect their sleep

13. 50% American teens admit that they feel they
are addicted to their smartphones
56% of parents acknowledging that they are
aware of their teen’s addiction
78% of teens admit to taking a peek at their
phone every hour
Screen Addiction Debate
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14. The Interconnected App Cycle
https://www.slideshare.net/TeenSafe/teen-safe2017appblacklist-slideshare
Utility
Social
Dating
Messaging

15. Proactive Monitoring Ideas for Digital Safety Savvy Parents

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Perception of Digital Protecting
50% 43% 74%
Of tweens don’t mind
being monitored
Are aware that their
parents check their
phones occasionally
.
Of children rely on their
parents for information
about protecting
themselves online
Many parents feel it’s their duty to monitor

17. Ideas on What to Protect
82%
Of parents believe it is their
responsibility to protect their
children’s online presence*
* Survey by Ipsos MORI on behalf of eTruste

18. Digital Savvy Parents Talk about Protecting
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19. ‘Bad Mom’ Crown
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“I was able to
see my
son…going
through
depression”
“Put down
parents for
‘spying’ But not
me. Make me a
‘bad mom’
crown and I’ll
wear it proudly
while kids safe
in my arms.”

20. What Digital Savvy Parents Said in Survey
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“We found it to be much
more convenient and
‘less weird’ than
physically taking a
teen’s phone and
reading their [texts].
“Electronic devices
and social media
have opened a
Pandora’s box of
mature content and
capabilities that
young teens did not
have access to.”
“We identified problems based
on text exchanges and were
able to take proactive
action. Safety and monitoring
is really complicated for
parents today, but TeenSafe
is a real help.”
More convenient … able to take proactive action … a real help
“My son is
happier knowing
he can keep his
devices, even
though they are
being monitored.”

21. Issue frequently debated on TeenSafe Facebook page
Privacy vs. Protecting
“This app
could actually
save a child’s
life!!!!!”

22. Tips and Conversation Starters

23. Start the conversation with concerns
- Use news stories about kids affected by
cyberbullying, sexting, online predators
Ask your child…
- Why do you think this happened?
- What did the victim do wrong?
- How could they have prevented the
situation?
- What could their parents have done to help?
License needed to drive a car, shouldn’t smartphone
use also require a type of license
Discuss Digital Protecting
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24. Discuss digital safety situations, what to do if:
- You see or experience cyberbullying
- Someone asks for sexts or nude photos
- Someone you don’t know contacts you online
- An online friend wants to meet you in person
Pick out something that you saw from their
smartphone and give them feedback:
- I love how you answered that person when they
were mean to you
- Next time they say that, what else could you do to
respond?
- Give options to help them build decision-making
skills instead of making the decisions for them
Ways to Discuss Digital Safety
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25. Proactive, planned conversations about digitalsafety. Sign
a smartphone contract.*
Keep educating yourself. Walk child step-by-step
through privacy settings. All social profiles set to
private. Turn off geo tagging
Set the rules and be diligent about following:
- No apps downloaded w/out permission
- Place and time restrictions
- Lead by example
- Give them flip phone as “punishment” phone
Teach and remind them about creating and maintaining a
good digital reputation
Use parental controls and monitoring tools. Walk the
fine line between safety and stalking
* Example smartphone contract on Helpful Links slide
Top Digital Safety Tips
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Ideas to Get Your Teens off their Phones
At Night
All smartphones are
scheduled to pause use,
enabled in the morning.
Plan Phone-Free Activities
Whether it’s while hiking,
biking, boating, fishing,
board games, listening to
music, watching movies or
TV, spend it together off the
phone
No Phones During Meals
The statistics on the positive
effects for families who have
regular meals together are
undeniable. But, only if
they’re talking together
rather than watching phones.
No-tech Tuesdays, No-Phone-Family-Day

27. 1. No phones during family meals
2. No phones in the bedroom without being paused at night
3. Any apps you want on your phone must be approved by mom or dad first
4. No one-on-one communication with someone you’ve never met in real life
5. Parents must know everyone in your contact list
6. No aggressive or threatening messages should be sent via text or social media
7. No sending pictures that you wouldn’t want grandma to see
8. No sending texts with sexual or provocative language
9. If you are being bullied, show the message to us right away
10. No using apps with disappearing messages (like Snapchat)
11. Smartphones can only be used during designated hours (for example: 8 AM – 8 PM)
12. No Smartphone use during school unless given special permission by a teacher or
parent
13. Understand that your smartphone is a privilege, not a right
14. Understand that we reserve the right to take your phone away if we suspect it is being
misused
15. Understand that we, as parents, have the obligation to monitor your phone activity to
keep you safe.
Some Smartphone Rules
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28. Helpful Links for Parents
https://www.teensafe.com/blog/smartphone-contract-2/
https://www.teensafe.com/blog/ultimate-guide-protecting-kids-online/
https://www.teensafe.com/blog/smartphone-etiquette-guide-kids-mealtimes/
https://www.teensafe.com/blog/smartphone-etiquette-guide-kids-weekends/
https://www.teensafe.com/blog/spring-break-safety-how-to-monitor-your-teen-when-theyre-on-vacation/
https://www.teensafe.com/blog/teen-using-uber-follow-10-uber-safety-tips/
https://www.teensafe.com/blog/16-smartphone-rules-teens/

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THEIR BEST MEMORIES
WILL NOT INVOLVE
SCREENS

30. Deeper Dive

31. Next Step: Study Sessions*
Concerns about Cyberbullying
Sexting and Sextortation
On-line Safety from Predators
Social Media – Keeping up with Apps
Smartphone Addiction
*contact Ruth.doering@TeenSafe.com for Study Sessions