1. THE POWER OF THOUGHTS
As a child growing up, I wanted things I could not have as a child, because I was
a child, although I had been exposed to things that created these strange
desires that at the time didn’t feel so strange.it was all a result of growing up
around naughty older cousins who always used to be caught with men under a
tree or in their bedrooms. Now as child I wanted to be kissed, to be touched,
to get married and have children etc. It was all I thought about, I spent most of
my time thinking about having a boyfriend! The boys that I liked in primary
school always ended up liking the cool girl and paid me no attention. I wanted
to be treated like the cool girl but no! No boy would look at me. I was very
untidy and my uniform was torn and my white socks brown most of the time, I
had dandruffs in my hair and my hair was always messy. Coming from a very
poor background this was expected.
It did not end there, during my first year of high school I experienced the same
thing, the boy I liked didn’t notice me, and instead he went for the cool girls
from the rich homes, the neat and clean looking ones. I was skinny and
perhaps not very good looking at the time. So at home I would spend most of
my time day dreaming aboutbeing so pretty and that the boy I like would want
to be with me and we would live a complicated love life with him being
involved in another relationship, but wanting to be with me, he was always
stuck in confusion somewhere. And I pictured myself crying in despair at the
tragedy, I imagined that I would be left in my beautiful apartment crying and a
few hours later he would call me wanting to come back and I would let him. To
top it off, I fed my fantasy with the kind of music that spoke to this scenario
and I would ponder and sing to these songs as I imagined myself in this drama.
I would listen to; “What makes her so better than me”, “Come back to me
shawty”. Never for once in my life did I ever imagine myself in a loving
relationship with someone who loves and wants only me. I was always the girl
he left and wants to come back to. I was always the other woman. There was
always another woman and he was always cheating in my dreams and
fantasies and for some reason I was always the forgiving one and the one
allowing it.
On the other side of my thoughts and fantasies, I always saw myself become
very successfulin my future; I was always the achiever, the dreamer and the go

2. getter. The beautiful woman with the big house and a car, in my secondary
school days I saw myself on TV and I saw myself in leadership positions. In my
second year of high school, when I started to clean up well and my beautiful
face was now flourishing and puberty kicked in so my beautiful slender body
started to show as well as my beautiful features, I started to attract the boys I
wanted, even the ones that I didn’t want and I would obviously go for the cool
good looking one, the Player. And as expected I would be with him and be
insecure and expect him to cheat because he was all of that and I wasn’t. After
cheating on me I would expect him to come back crawling to me, crying and
begging me to come back in my life and I would dump him and beg him back
and be all dramatic and all that unnecessary staff. Well he came back, he came
back and he left and came back again and left and the cycle would go on and
on. But I would love him and only him. Chaaai! Anyway, I did end up in
leadership positions in school and outside, I did a few interviews for both TV
and radio, I also completed my secondary school with flying colours and went
off to varsity as I imagined and become the educated girl I always wanted to
be. I also went on to graduate from university and got a good paying job. I fell
in love with my dream guy and we had a loving relationship, it was different
because he treated me like a queen, he believed in me and loved me very
much. He would do things for me and listen to me, this was very strange to me
because we were not fighting and there was no other woman, it was not
dramatic enough, it was nothing like I imagined, this was beautifully strange?
Of course I still expected him to cheat but only this time I wouldn’t tolerate it
so I had to find out and deal with him accordingly. So I started digging, I began
to insinuate and question his every move, I became very paranoid because I
was expecting him to cheat, I told myself that there was no way he could not
be cheating, it was too good to be true, he just had to be cheating, after all I
am not all that. Guess what? He ended up cheating and left. I was devastated
but not shocked, I expected it, I was looking for results and I found them. It
was confirmed, all men cheat, they will cheat and I will never be the only girl in
a man’s life just as I thought.
My point here is that, our thoughts have creating power. When I look back at
the events I attracted in my journey of life today, none of them where new,
they were all familiar from my thoughts back then. My life played out just the
way I imagined it would. The details may not be exact, but the fact of the

3. matter is that they are similar and they talk to each other. Think about where
you are today, your way of thinking how your life turned out. They all draw
back to the way you thought of yourself as a child. If you were always the
victim, I’m sure you are a victim today of some sort of circumstance. If you
were the evil witch that always got her way no matter what the cost, then you
are probably sitting next to someone’s husband right now. You create your life
with your thoughts and feelings. Whatever you think and feel creates the
experiences and events that occur in your life, it creates your words, actions
and reactions.
The bible says,”as a man thinkethinhis heart so is he”. So as a young person I
want to encourage you to start thinking positively about yourself, it doesn’t
matter what your present circumstance is, think of where you want to be, how
you want to be. Dream it. Imagine it every day and begin to behave in that
manner. Live it. If you want to run a successful business one day, begin to
think, imagine yourself in a successful business, read books that talk to that
dream, hang around successful business men and woman. Spend the entire
time of the day thinking about business ideas or reading biographies of people
who are successful in business today.
Only you can stop yourself. The limits you see today only exist in your head.
You are the only one that can move yourself from point A to point B. Stop
blaming others for things that didn’t go right. Every day that you wake up is an
opportunity to make your dream come true, but you need to have a dream
first. Dreaming is free, God has given each and every one of us the power to
live and make our dreams come true. But take note however, that you cannot
produce what you don’t have. For you to have the right thoughts (positive
thoughts) you will need to feed your mind with positive words, positive
pictures and you have to see a positive world. See love, feel love and live love.
You need to see a possibility. There is a life out there for you. Go out and live
it. Change your thoughts today.