This document discusses developing resilience through emotional and cognitive awareness. It is a presentation on resilience by Shalini Bahl, a social entrepreneur and mindfulness consultant. The presentation covers what resilience is, how to develop it, and provides strategies to cultivate inner calm, emotional awareness, and cognitive awareness. It emphasizes breaking out of default thinking loops through the P.A.U.S.E. technique of pausing, acknowledging thoughts and feelings, uncovering assumptions, staying open, and exploring actions. The overall message is that resilience involves recognizing you are not your emotions or thoughts and learning to meet life's challenges with awareness.
7. ➤ Take a few breaths to create
space in mind, body and heart
➤ Use the suggested prompt to
start writing without worrying
about grammar, spellings, and
making sense
➤ Do not stop writing till the bell
rings. If nothing is coming up,
just keep writing, nothing is
coming up, till something comes
up.
FREESTYLE JOURNALING
8. Thinking about my failure, I am noticing
that…
➤ Body
➤ Feelings
➤ Thoughts
9. Thinking about my success, I am noticing
that…
➤ Body
➤ Feelings
➤ Thoughts
10. ➤Read what you wrote and discover any
words or phrases that are repeating or
stand out.
➤Are there any patterns in how you deal
with failure and success?
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NEGATIVE*
THOUGHTS
➤ COMPARISON
➤ BELONGING
➤ CONTROL
70%
*Raj Raghunathan, Ph.D
MEET YOUR
INNER
CRITIC
13. We naturally pay much more attention to negative
than positive occurrences in our lives.
NEGATIVITY BIAS13
14. “In studies, men overestimate their abilities and
performance, and women underestimate both.
Their performances do not differ in quality.”
– Katty Kay and Claire Shipman
“Women attribute their success to working hard,
luck, and help from other people. Men will attribute
that – whatever success they have, that same success
– to their own core skills.”
– Sheryl Sandberg
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Facts about
Failure
1. Failure distorts your perceptions -
makes your goals seem unattainable
2. Failure distorts perceptions of your
actual abilities
3. Most fears of failure are unconscious
4. Fear of failure often leads to
unconscious self-sabotaging
5. Fear of failure can be transmitted
from parents to children
6. The pressure to succeed increases
performance anxiety and causes
choking.
- Guy Winch Ph.D.
16. AGENDA
1. What is resilience
2. How to develop resilience
A. Inner calm
➤ Managing stress
B. Emotional awareness
➤ Befriend your emotions
C. Cognitive awareness
➤ Know your self-talk
3. Learn to P.A.U.S.E.
➤ The default loop
➤ The awareness loop
18. RESILIENCE
“The ability to overcome stress and
maintain an effective level of
appropriate behavior or performance
when confronted by obstacles,
setbacks, distractions, hostile
conditions or aversive stimuli.”
Staal et al 2008
27. INNER CALM PRACTICES
1. Mindfulness
A. Meditations - Simple Habit app
B. On the go - Mindful walking
2. Breaks
A. Internal - at work
B. External - beyond work
3. Gratitude Journal
4. Sensory Breaks - nature, eating, music
5. Social Support
A. Mentors
B. Team
C. Family & Friends
D. Community
35. “Your way of explaining events to
yourself determines how helpless you
can become, or how energized, when
you encounter the everyday setbacks
as well as momentous defeats.
~Seligman, Martin E. in Learned Optimism:
How to Change Your Mind and Your Life
EXPLANATORY STYLE
42. LEARN TO P.A.U.S.E.
I. Pause & breathe
II. Acknowledge
1.Body
2.Emotions
3.Self-Talk
III. Uncover
1. Underlying assumptions
2. Intentions & needs
3. Others’ perspectives
IV. Stay open to new perspectives
V. Explore most skillful and kind action
43. MAIN TAKEAWAYS
➤ Resilience training is cultivating
inner calm + emotional +
cognitive awareness
➤ Break the default loop with
awareness
➤ You are not your emotions
➤ You don’t have to believe your
thoughts
➤ Change negativity bias by
acknowledging success in your
body
➤ Key to resilience is
remembering to P.A.U.S.E.
44. When you pause to meet life with
awareness
You create a space –
To clearly see your thoughts and
feelings
To meet yourself and your deepest
desires
In this space there are endless
possibilities
And you get to choose what ideas to
act on
You are literally creating your life,
And you can do it with creativity, joy,
and ease.
#FearlessLeadership
45. DIFFERENT WAYS TO CONNECT WITH ME
➤ Email me: shalini@KnowYourMind.training
➤ For latest news on topics related to emotional intelligence like us on
Facebook:
➤ https://www.facebook.com/DowntownMindfulness/
➤ To read my blog posts: http://knowyourmind.training/blog/
➤ To view other slide decks: http://www.slideshare.net/ShaliniBahl
➤ Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shalinibahl
➤ Find my 5-minute meditation series on Simple Habit for:
1. Women’s resilience
2. Women at Work: Lead With Confidence
3. Self-Awareness
4. Procrastination
➤ or email me to get a direct ink to the above meditations.
46. ➤ https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2014/05/the-
confidence-gap/359815/
➤ Resilience Is About How You Recharge, Not How You Endure by
Achor & Gielan in HBR, 2016
➤ How to Evaluate, Manage, and Strengthen Your Resilience by David
Kopans in HBR 2016
➤ 5 Ways to Boost Your Resilience at Work by Rich Fernandez in HBR
2016
➤ What Resilience Means, and Why It Matters by Andrea Ovans in
HBR 2015
➤ The Failure-Tolerant Leader by Richard Farson & Ralph Keyes in
HBR 2002
REFERENCES
47. “If there is one skill that is
not stressed very much,
but is really needed, it is
knowing how to fail well…
So fail, fail again, fail
better.”
– Pema Chodron
48. “You may encounter
many defeats, but you
must not be defeated.
In fact, it may be
necessary to encounter
the defeats, so you can
know who you are,
what you can rise
from, how you can still
come out of it.”
– Maya Angelou, Poet, civil rights activist
49. “..some failure in life is
inevitable. It is
impossible to live
without failing at
something, unless you
live so cautiously that
you might as well not
have lived at all — in
which case, you fail by
default.”
- J.K. Rowling, Author
50. We need to accept that
we won’t always make
the right decisions, that
we’ll screw up royally
sometimes -
understanding that
failure is not the
opposite of success, it’s
part of success.”
- Arianna Huffington, co-founder
and editor-in-chief of The
Huffington Post