Go Goals Goddess - Setting Goals the Goddess Way

Go Goals
Goddess!
Setting Goals the Goddess Way
By: Shawna Cevraini
divinegoddesscircle.com

Table of Contents
 Help! I‟m Overwhelmed
◦ Have You Ever Felt Like
This?
◦ What‟s Holding You
Back?
 Tough Love: For You
◦ The Addiction to Busy
◦ Stop Wasting Time
◦ Stop Taking Weak
Action
◦ Stop Getting Distracted
 What Can I Do?
◦ How Do You Want to
Feel?
◦ Evaluate Where You
Are?
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 Where Do I Start?
◦ Just for Today
◦ Welcome Your Week
Goddess!
◦ Release Your Week
Goddess!
 What Do I Do?
◦ How Do I Plan?
◦ My “System”
 How Can I Help You?
◦ Goals Goddess
eCourse
◦ Desire Map Online Book
Club
◦ Divine Goddess Circle
Membership
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HELP! I‟M
OVERWHELMED!
There‟s so much to do and I can‟t get it all done!
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Have You Ever Felt Like
This?
 I think I know how long it‟s
going to take, but at the
end of the day, I feel like
I‟ve accomplished
absolutely nothing. The
day just “got away from
me”. I feel like I have no
control.
 I‟m too busy to set
goals. Who has time for
that?
 Everyone tells me that I
should set goals, but I
really have no idea how
to even start! Do I buy a
day timer? Do I put it in a
calendar? Do I write it
down or just leave it in my
head?
 I have the best intentions
for what I want to do. I plan
and dream, but I just never
seem to get to where I
want to be. I visualize it,
but it just never happens.
 There‟s so many things
that I want to do. All of
these make me happy, but I
really don‟t know how to fit
it all in.
 Setting goals makes me
feel “boxed in” – I want to
be free with my day, I‟m a
creative! I can‟t be tied
down to planning what I
want to do!
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What‟s Holding You Back?
 Have you set aside time for the
task? How much time?
 Is it something you should even
be doing? Does it take you longer
than it takes someone else?
 Is the task really complex? Does
it need to be broken down?
 Can you remember to do it? Is it
written down anywhere? Where?
 Is your space where you do this
task a mess? Do you spend time
cleaning up before you can begin?
 Is your workload unrealistic?
 Do you have health problems
that affect what you can do?
 Are you in the middle of a big
„change‟ in your life?
 Do you get interrupted a lot?
 Are the people around you
disorganized?
 Are you clear on what you want to
do?
 Do you do your best work while
in a rush/chaos?
 Do you fear having downtime?
 Are you able to say “No”? Do you
insist on taking care of everything?
 Do you fear failure if you actually
go for what you dream of?
 Are you afraid of what will
happen if you DO accomplish
your goals?
 Do you fear that you making
changes might be uncomfortable
for others in your life? Are you
afraid they will reject you?
 Does it have to be perfect for you
to be satisfied?
 Are you afraid structure will
hamper your creative style?
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TOUGH LOVE: FOR YOU
Facing the truth about where your time goes
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The Addiction to “Busy”
Ask someone how they are and the
answer is usually: “I‟m busy” or
“Life‟s been crazy” or “I‟m
slammed” or “swamped” or
variations of the same.
Why do we say this? Why do we
do this?
In my opinion, it‟s usually a case of
trying to out-do one another. I
think, “Hey, I‟m more stressed than
you so my life is more important. ”
This makes me feel better, about
me; for the moment anyway…Until
the next “more busy” person comes
along.
And yep, there‟s always
someone who is doing more
than you.
All this “busyness” is harming
our communication with each
other.
Instead of having meaningful
conversations with people we care
about, we‟re whining about all the
stuff we have to do.
How does that improve each other‟s
lives? How does me, talking about
all I have to do enrich our
relationship? Does this lift the other
person up? Or are we discreetly
putting them down to make
ourselves feel better?
When will this contest end? We all
lose when no one gives the other
permission to just slow down.
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Stop Wasting Time!
We all do it. You know for a fact
that you could be doing
something else besides
checking Facebook 10 times in
the last hour.
“It‟s only for a minute!” You say?
1 X 10 = 10 min. per hour
10 min/hour X 8 hr = 80 min in 1
work day…
80 min X 5 days is 400 min
(6 hours) in 1 work week!! 6!!!
Even cut that in half…What
would you do with an extra 3
hours in a week?
And what about TV time? How
much time do you REALLY
spend in front of the TV? Figure
it out!
What if you spent 3 hours of your TV
time in a week doing some of those
tasks on your list? What do you think
you could get done in a week? In a
month? A year? It really adds up,
right!?
You choose what you spend
your time on when you choose
these things.
I‟m not saying they aren‟t fun. But
how much do you really want to do
something else?
How much better would your life
be if you stopped doing some of
these things even for just ½ the
time you normally spend on them?
It‟s time for you to stop settling for
less than what you deserve. You are
better than that and you know it!
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Stop Taking Weak Action!
You know those times when
you have a deadline and
you‟ve put the project off until
the last minute and you THEN
sit down, crank out the work
and get it done in, like, 5
hours?
What about when your mom
calls and says she‟s coming
over and that living room that
you “never have time” to
clean is suddenly tidied up in
½ hour?
This is because we spend
more time “humming and
hawing” about a task than
we actually do DOING the
task!
It often doesn‟t take as long to do
when we are faced with a crunch
time and we are forced to focus
on that ONE THING that needs
doing!
Setting concrete, focused
deadlines for yourself works. You
know you have the discipline (or
you wouldn‟t be able to do those
things I just mentioned). You just
need to force yourself to take
STRONG ACTION.
Figure out what motivates you
and helps you focus and do that
for the majority of the tasks and
goals you need to complete.
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Stop Getting Distracted!
This is so easy for all of us.
There are so many things and
so many people vying for our
attention.
Think about your priorities. Are
they really your priorities or
someone else‟s? How often do
you let someone else‟s
„emergency‟ become yours?
You have the choice to control
how you spend your time. You
choose to drop what your doing
and rush to their aid. If you‟re
OK with that, then great. But…if
you‟re not OK with that, it‟s time
for you to choose to regulate
your time and how you
respond.
I know how hard it is to say “No”
because there really are a lot of
things that I‟d like to do. I always
want to “do it all”. But is this a
realistic expectation?
We need to approach this dilemma
in a different way. We need to
decide if this thing that I want to
do right now is worth the cost.
There are many costs to consider.
The biggest being your time.
Are you willing to give up on
something else to make this your
priority? Do you feel good about
letting your other goals go in
favor of this new next best thing?
Or is this something that can wait
while you complete your current
goals?
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WHAT CAN I DO?
It‟s never too late to try again
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How Do You Want to Feel?
Are you constantly doing
things for others but rarely for
yourself? Does this make you
feel good or frustrated?
Feeling constantly “behind the
eight ball” is no way to live
your life.
You deserve to listen to
your heart and what makes
you FEEL good. Yes, we all
have things that we need to
do for our quality of life, but at
what cost?
If I get to the finish line
without ever having lived my
life, what was I doing all that
for?
What would I do if I had more
time? How would I spend it? Who
would I be?
What if I changed my attitude
towards the things I “need to do”
and looked at them in a different
way? Would they be easier to do?
What if I started setting my
goals on how I want to feel at
the end of the day? Would I be
more likely to do those things?
These are all questions that you
need to ask yourself. You
DESERVE to ask yourself these
questions…and listen to the
answers.
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Evaluate Where You Are
First of all, before you begin
to change, you need to
forgive. Forgive others for
what they‟ve done/not
done…yes, but most of all
FORGIVE YOU.
You did the best you could
with the tools and resources
you had at the time. Let it all
go. Learn from it and move
on.
Take the time to breathe,
relax into the idea that yep,
you made mistakes. Now, one
step at a time, you are going
to make changes. Breathe it
in and accept what is coming.
Write down what works for you.
Maybe you‟re awesome at getting
your to-do list written down or
putting things in the calendar. Find
your strengths. Relish in them and
be grateful for your gifts.
Then, write down what doesn‟t
work for you. What challenges
you? Is there a time of day that is
less productive than other times?
Pick ONE thing that you‟d like
to change first (considering how
you would like to FEEL when this
change happens)
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WHERE DO I START?
One step at a time makes all the difference
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Just for Today
You‟ve decided what you‟re
going to work on first; the one
thing. So, just for today, you will
start with that.
Force yourself to find 15
minutes of time to start. Just
15. I get up at 5 to have my
Morning Focus Time. You don‟t
have to start with that. Just
finding the 15 minutes will make
a big difference.
During this time, think about
what little, specific actions
can you do today to move you
toward this one thing. It is
important to be specific and
small REAL actions.
In my opinion, you MUST write
these down. Not a huge list, focus
on just 3 things. The first 3 MIT‟s
(most important tasks) that you need
to do to move forward towards your
goal.
For example, let‟s say you want to
work on the Goddess Goal of feeling
like a healthy Goddess by exercising
in some way each day. You can
write (and do) these 3 things:
1. Do 3 pushups on the wall while
waiting for the dryer to finish
2. Go for a five minute walk while I
take my lunch break
3. Park my car in the farthest
corner of the parking lot
Do this for a few days and see
how it feels and what you
accomplish.
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Welcome Your Week
Goddess!
As you get better at creating
your day, you will find that
you‟ll want to move on to
creating your week! You‟ll be
excited about the time you
can uncover as you focus on
the week.
Each week, spend about ½
hour looking at your week
and thinking about what
you want to do and how
you want to feel in all
aspects of your life. Be
sure to include things that fill
you up!
Write down your overall
plans for the week in each of
these areas. Be as specific as
possible.
Then, during your focus time in
the morning, look at the week
plan and see what will fit in with
your MIT‟s for today. I do have
different “sets” of MIT‟s for my
goals for home and for at work
because they are large different
“chunks” of my day.
Again, be sure to write down
specific, small goals that will
move you forward in your weekly
goal. If you complete them, add 3
more!
At the end of the day, note all
that you were able to
accomplish (even if nothing was
checked off – think about what
you did!) Be grateful for the little
things. Write them down!
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Release Your Week
Goddess!
Not everything will work out the
way you plan, and that‟s OK.
Keeping notes on how you
feel and what you did do each
day will help you as you
reflect on the week. You will
see that just because you didn‟t
meet the goal in the way you
planned, you did accomplish
things – maybe even your goal,
but just in a different way than
what you planned.
At the end of the week, before
you start planning for the new
one, look over these notes.
Do you see patterns or blocks
that keep coming up? Ask
yourself why that task seems
difficult. Is it something that is
outside your control or that you
can delegate?
Again, practice gratitude about all
that you did do. Write down what felt
good and things you were excited
about. What fun did you have?
Who did you connect with?
Reflecting on gratitude and all that
you did do and reasons why you
weren‟t able to do some of the
things you planned will enable you
to release the week. It will set the
tone for you as you plan the next
week.
None of this should take much time
– and the time you do spend on it
will benefit you over and over again.
Hold on to the thought that you are
doing this for YOU. You are doing
this to feel better and enjoy life. Isn‟t
that worthwhile time to spend? 
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WHAT DO I DO?
It didn‟t happen overnight
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How Do I Plan?
Not everything works out for me
as I plan. This used to stress
me out…a lot. I made lists
everywhere, I read new time
management books and
implemented this idea and that
idea thinking that this, THIS
finally will be the system that
works for me. THIS time will be
different.
Each time, I would end up
getting distracted, trying to
change too many things, feeling
overwhelmed and definitely
feeling UN-Goddess-Like! It
made me feel like a failure.
I know now that this is a process.
There is no “one system” that
works for me. I accept that I have
unique perspectives on what I want
to do and now that I recognize this, I
am much more able to get things
done.
I have come up with a system that I
love, that makes me feel good and
helps me continue to grow and
change. This is what I want from my
life. I have goals that I move towards
goals that I don‟t reach, especially
the way I think I‟m going to reach
them.
I see all that I am able to do, I
celebrate and I am able to move
on.
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My “System”
My yearly goals and plans are setup in
my Create Your Goddess Year
workbook from Leonie Dawson. I use
this monthly to review where I am and
where I‟d like to go this year. It‟s full
color, fun and very “me” because it‟s all
about loving myself and being excited.
I use the Desire Map from Danielle
Laporte for my weekly and daily goals.
This has me focusing on my Core
Desired Feelings and how I want to feel
instead of the outcomes of the goal.
This shift in thinking helps me release
and let go of specific outcomes. I feel
good and that‟s all that really matters.
I make notes pretty much every day.
This helps me to see what I‟m having
trouble with and I‟ll often figure out
what‟s blocking me. Sometimes, I‟m just
not the right person for the job, so this
helps me let go and delegate!
Every day, I have a calendar appointment
with myself in the middle of the day to force
me to stop and take stock of my own value
and how I feel. Am I on track? What do I love
about my day? I‟ll sometimes stop and journal
these, but I always at least stop to think.
I practice gratitude throughout the day. The
Divine Goddess Circle helps me connect with
other women and helps me to feel less alone
on those days when I struggle. Writing posts
and connecting with other women really helps
me fill me cup so that I am able to keep
pushing forward to my goals.
I do get up very early most days (5:00 a.m.)
which gives me two hours everyday that I use
exclusively for my goals. This gives me 10
hours each week to work toward my bigger
goals and plans. This isn‟t easy, but it‟s
something that is really important to me so I
make it happen.
Click here for these links and other
resources that I use in My System:
Links and Resources
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HOW CAN I HELP YOU?
Next steps for making lasting changes
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I Can Help You!
I‟m really excited about sharing
this with you. I hope you‟ve found
it inspiring and helpful.
If you have any questions at all,
feel free to email me:
shawna@simplelifecelebrations.co
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Feel free to share this document
with your friends who are
struggling with setting goals and
letting go.
The conversation continues over
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