Men are from MARS, Women are from VENUS For some people love means Quality Time Gifts Help Appreciation

1. Men are from MARS,
Women are from VENUS.
AJAL.A.J
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2. A fulfilling and successful married
life is more of preparing for it than
a chance in choosing the partner.
Marriage being a lifelong contract,
its success has the biggest impact
on the success and happiness of
your personal life.

3. Introduction & Book Summary
 Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by John Gray
 “It is essential to learn new and healthy ways of relating and
communicating (Gray, 1992).”
 This book focused on the differences in communication styles
between men and women.
 Offers suggestions to understanding how members of the opposite
sex communicate.
 Gray explains that couples can improve the quality of their
relationship if when they can better understand how their partners
communicate.
 Gender insight helps us to be more tolerant and forgiving when
someone doesn’t respond the way we think he or she should
(Gray, 1992)

4. Data from the Book:
 Gray (1992) makes wide swiping generalization about “all
men” and “all women” throughout his book.
 Based upon his personal experiences and “7 years of
research” (Gray, 1992)
 Gray (1992) states that his theories and principals were
“tested and tried” – but does not say how
 “At least 90%” (Gray,1992) of the more than 25,000
individuals who attended his lectures recognized
themselves and their partners in his theories
 Data is anecdotal – Descriptive stories of men and women
and the different ways in which they communicate within
their heterosexual relationships

5.  If a woman is talking to you a
lot, it is a sign that she likes you
but if she doesn’t talk remember
you are in trouble!

6. John Gray says…
 Gray (1992) concludes that men and
women…
 Are naturally different
 Communicate in completely different ways
 Use language differently
 Constantly misunderstand each other
 This leads to conflict, break ups and ultimately
divorce….
(Source: John Gray’s Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, 1992)

7. The Hard Data…
 Gray (1992) does not –
 Disclose how he conducted his questioning of
“more than 25,000” individuals
 Go in to what makes men and women so
different – but hints to it being linked to biology

8. LOVELOVE
 For some people love meansFor some people love means
 Quality TimeQuality Time
 GiftsGifts
 HelpHelp
 AppreciationAppreciation

9. God’s Purpose of family
To have companionship
To procreate

10. Men = Women ??

11. To have a happy married life
 Let love be your goal and so let love be your
decision than a feeling
 Have a deep trust in God
 Good communication
 Periodical sexual relationships
 Be freed from the past painful memories,
attachments in relationships

12. A woman leaves a man not
because she is unhappy with what
he can provide, but because she is
emotionally unfulfilled

13. Quality of Data…
 The researchers received an “Distinguished
Publication Award” for their work
 Relatively small sample size

14. Discussion & Conclusion
 John Gray has a large number of followers
 He claims to have saved countless marriages
 Some “good” points…
 However…
 The book is patronizing towards both men and
women
 Perpetuates the “myth” of “natural” gender
differences

15. References:
 Cameron, D. (2008). The Myth of Mars and Venus: Do men and women
really speak different languages? USA: Oxford University Press.
 Cayem,D., Stierwalt, J., Sprawls, J., & McIIroy, J. (2008). Male
Communication in a Heterosexual Dating Relationship. Psychology of men,
29,110-116.
 Gray, J. (1992). Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. New York,
NY: HarperCollin.
 MacGeorge, E., Graves, A., Feng, B., Gillihan, J., & Burleson, B. (2004).
The myth of gender cultures: Similarities outweigh differences in men’s and
women’s provision of and responses to supportive communication. Sex
Roles, 50, 143-175.
 Sprecher, S., & Toro-Mor, M. (2002). A study of men and women from
different sides of earth to determine if men are from Mars and women are
from Venus in their beliefs about love and romantic relationships.
Sex Roles, 46, 131-147.

16. Youtube Video
 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ry7lRjuKXvk&