1. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the Unknown
Peacemaker
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2. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
Brothers and sisters, join in imitating me, and
observe those who live according to the
example you have in us. For many live as
enemies of the cross of Christ; I have often told
you of them, and now I tell you even with tears.
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3. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
Brothers and sisters, join in imitating me, and
observe those who live according to the
example you have in us. For many live as
enemies of the cross of Christ; I have often told
you of them, and now I tell you even with tears.
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4. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
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5. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
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6. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
• One reason that talking about
your relationship has not
helped is that fear and shame
keep you from hearing each
other, regardless of how much
“active listening” or
“mirroring” you try to do.
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7. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
• The prerequisite for listening
is feeling safe, and you cannot
feel safe when the threat of
fear or shame hangs over
your head.
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8. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
• Couples make a terrible
mistake when they think that
one kind of response, be it
mostly logical or mostly
emotional, is superior to the
other. In reality, they are
different dimensions, each
important in its own right.
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9. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
• Much of the resentment that
occurs in relationships is not
about material unfairness; it’s
about the perception that
your emotions are controlled,
if not manipulated, by your
partner—he makes you
anxious, and she makes you
The feel like a failure.
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10. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
• In a nutshell, power struggles
happen when two people
fight to protect themselves
from shame and fear.
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11. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
Peace is not something you wish for;
It's something you make,
Something you do,
Something you are,
And something you give away.
Robert Fulghum
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12. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be
called children ( one who shares the same
nature as their Father) of God. Matthew 5:9
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13. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
“You’re blessed when you can show people how
to cooperate instead of compete or fight. That’s
when you discover who you really are, and your
place in God’s family. Matthew 5:9
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14. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
Therefore, my brothers and sisters, whom I love
and long for, my joy and crown, stand firm in the
Lord in this way, my beloved. I urge Euodia and
I urge Syntyche to be of the same mind in the
Lord.
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15. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
Yes, and I ask you also, my loyal companion,
help these women, for they have struggled
beside me in the work of the gospel, together
with Clement and the rest of my co-workers,
whose names are in the book of life.
Philippians 4:1-3 (NRSV)
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16. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
Your eyes beheld my unformed substance.
In your book were written
all the days that were formed for me,
when none of them as yet existed.
Psalm 139:16
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17. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
"At that time Michael, the great prince who
protects your people, will arise. There will be a
time of distress such as has not happened from
the beginning of nations until then. But at that
time your people--everyone whose name is
found written in the book--will be delivered.
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Daniel 12:1

18. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
Jesus - “Nevertheless, do not rejoice at this, that
the spirits submit to you, but rejoice that your
names are written in heaven.” Luke 10:20
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19. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
Nothing impure will ever enter it, nor will
anyone who does what is shameful or deceitful,
but only those whose names are written in the
Lamb's book of life. Revelation 21:27
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20. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
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21. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
1. Relationships are fragile due to our individual
sinful natures.
If I find in myself desires which nothing in this
world can satisfy, the only logical explanation is
that I was made for another world. C.S. Lewis
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22. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
2. Being a Christian does not immunise against
relationship breakdown.
After some days Paul said to Barnabas, “Come,
let us return and visit the believers in every city
where we proclaimed the word of the Lord and
The Living they are doing.”
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23. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
2. Being a Christian does not immunise against
relationship breakdown.
Barnabas wanted to take with them John called
Mark. But Paul decided not to take with them
one who had deserted them in Pamphylia and
The Livingaccompanied them in the work.
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24. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
2. Being a Christian does not immunise against
relationship breakdown.
The disagreement became so sharp that they
parted company; Barnabas took Mark with him
and sailed away to Cyprus. Acts 15:36-39
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25. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
3. In our relationships we are called to have
‘the same mind in the Lord’.
Make my joy complete: be of the same mind,
having the same love, being in full accord and of
one mind.
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26. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
3. In our relationships we are called to have
‘the same mind in the Lord’.
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but
in humility regard others as better than
yourselves.
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27. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
3. In our relationships we are called to have
‘the same mind in the Lord’.
Let each of you look not to your own interests,
but to the interests of others. Philippians 2:2-4
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28. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
4. We need peacemakers.
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29. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
5. Peace making requires a Compelling Vision.
A compelling vision is for something greater
than mere life working out
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30. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
5. Peace making requires a Compelling Vision.
A vision we give to others of who and what they
could become has power when it echoes what
the Spirit has already spoken into their souls.
Larry Crabb
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31. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
5. Peace making requires a Compelling Vision.
Spiritual friends see a facet of Christ in us and
bring it out as no one else can. And they delight
to do so.
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32. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
5. Peace making requires a Compelling Vision.
When they see what is unique about us, it
causes them great delight; and then, giving
away to the powers of daring imagination, they
envision what we could become. Larry Crabb
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33. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
5. Peace making requires a Compelling Vision.
The load, or weight, or burden of my
neighbour’s glory should be laid daily on my
back, a load so heavy that only humility can
carry it, and the backs of the proud will be
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broken…

34. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
5 insights about being a peacemaker
5. Peace making requires a Compelling Vision.
There are no ordinary people. You have never
talked to a mere mortal… And our charity must
be a real and costly love. C. S. Lewis
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35. Your word is a lamp to my feet
and a light for my path. Psalm 119:105
In Honour of the
Unknown
Peacemaker
‘God, reveal to me your vision of __________ ,
just show me what is possible with you’.
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