1. X3 Rock Your Family
Session 4: Iʼm the Parent...
...dealing with teenagers

2. Ten Commandments of
Rock Your Family
• Commandment #1: I am the parent and
you are not
• What does it look like to train/instruct and
build a relationship with your teenagers?

3. I Am The Parent
• At 13, teens become addicted to freedom
• They are becoming adults
• We should expect them to pull away
• They have to

4. I Am The Parent
• Sometimes the harder we push our values on
them, they harder they push against it
• Allow them freedom to choose their values
• This creates tension
• Engage with them

5. I Am The Parent
• This is the age when you start asking tons of
questions
• With teenagers, “Rules without relationship
equals rebellion”
• You enter their world
• To engage with them means to pursue them

6. I Am The Parent
• If youʼre a dad with a daughter, date your
daughters
• A way to cultivate a relationship with your
teen is to listen

7. I Am The Parent
• Get them to talk
• Donʼt judge their answers
• Donʼt critique or complain
• The key is to build the relationship

8. Homework
• Go to your teen and apologize
• Write down three ways you can engage
with your teen