This document discusses various types of love and relationships, including puppy love, romantic love, companionate love, and courtship. It provides details on the typical stages of courtship, including in Filipino culture where practices like discreet gift-giving, love poems, and serenading are common. The document also discusses the rights and obligations that come with marriage, such as control over a spouse's property and responsibility for their debts. Key relationship challenges mentioned include issues with in-laws, money, housework, new babies, and mismatched sex drives.

2. Crush
• a painful experience, very common among
middle schoolers (and high schooler's and
even adults to a lesser degree) that involves
being obsessed with a member of the
opposite sex (or the same sex, if u prefer),
being attracted to them physically (most
common), or emotionally- also called 'puppy
love'
- Urban Dictionary

6. It entails realizing your crushing on
someone and using that fantasy
relationship to explore aspects of
yourself

7. The Puppy Love/
Childlike Crush
It is that longing for closeness that
many of us can probably remember
from our grade school years

8. The days of raging hormones…
when one thought summed up the
whole of our existence: “I want
to do her or him.”

10. –This is what happens when a crush
gets out of control
–The line between fantasy and reality
has been crossed and ignored.

12. have formed a great friendship with
them, and then, one day out of the
blue *wham!* you’re suddenly head
over heels for them

14. Having a crush on a fictional
character in books, movies, and
the like

17. –It’s a crush! It’s flirting!
–This one can cause trouble in some real
relationships, but can also be a healthy
outlet

23. Loving feelings towards a
love object that are largely
based upon fantasy and
idealization instead of
experience

26. Romantic Love
An abiding love for a
partner with whom you
feel passion, attraction,
caring and respect.

28. A passionate love usually
involving sexual feelings
for a love interest

29. Cupid or “Eros”

30. Companionate Love
Feelings of warmth towards a
friend with whom you love to
spend time

32. A type of affection and caring
that is so strong that you feel
it consistently, regardless of
what that other person does

34. Conditional Love
A love that requires specific
action or conditions in order
to be maintained.

36. Puppy Love
A childish, innocent
temporary crush on
someone that you don’t
know well

38. Maternal Love
This term usually connotes
love that is nurturing,
accepting and protective

40. Paternal Love
This term connotes love that
involves guidance and some
authority.

42. Soul mate Love
This type of love is described as a
love that has survived multiple
life times.

45. Spiritual/Divine Love
This type of love recognizes the
Divine light

47. Love of Country/Patriotism
This is love for the place you live
or the place that were born.

49. Self-Love
This is a positive feeling that you
have about who you are and
what you deserve.

51. This term connotes having a
feeling of love for your
neighbor

53. This term is used to describe a love
that is expressed by setting
boundaries for the good of the
other person

54. How to Love Yourself

55. Treat others with love
and respect

56. Create goodwill and
thankfulness by practicing
random deeds of kindness

71. Don't define yourself by what
you've done

72. Hug Yourself

78. Think about what you
really want someone to
be like in a relationship

84. Nurture yourself

89. Courtship

90. The period in a couple's relationship
which precedes
their engagement and marriage,
or establishment of an agreed
relationship of a more enduring
kind

92. Courtship as a Social Theory
“Courtship is normally triggered and
controlled by women, driven mainly
by non-verbal behaviors to which men
respond.”
~Moore and Perper

93. Four phases of species-typical
courtship process
• looking for and appraising potential
sexual partners
• pretactile interaction with those
partners
• tactile interaction with them
• sexual intercourse

94. • It takes a far more subdued and
indirect approach
• Involves stages
• It is common to see the male showing
off by sending love letters and love
poems, singing romantic songs and
buying gifts for the female

95. • Practice of singing romantic love
songs, reciting poems, writing letters,
and gift-giving
• A Filipino male suitor expresses his
interest to a woman in a discreet and
friendly manner
• No approaching on the streets and
asking for a woman’s number

96. • The teasing practice assists in
discerning the actual feelings of the
male and the female involved
• A Filipino woman is "shy and secretive"
about her feelings for a suitor
• The Filipino man fears rejection by a
woman

97. • The "teasing phase" also helps a man
who could be "torpe”
• Asking the help of a “human bridge”
• Courting a woman in the Philippines is
described as a courtship that also
includes courting the woman's family
• Serenading a woman at night

98. • A traditional Filipina is expected to
play "hard to get”
• The woman can also have as many
suitors, from which she could choose
the man that she finally would want to
date
• PDAs not allowed
• Pamamanhikan stage

99. Public Display of Affection

100. Pamamanhikan

101. • Starts with the "teasing stage"
conducted by friends
• Involves a common friend
• Emergence of new technologies

102. Parents still prefer that
their daughters be
formally courted within
the confines of the
home

103. Still valuing the
avoidance of
premarital sex

110. Marriage is the union of two different
surnames, in friendship and in love, in order
to continue the posterity of the former sages,
and to furnish those who shall preside at the
sacrifices to heaven and earth, at those in the
ancestral temple, and at those at the altars to
the spirits of the land and grain.
~Confucius

111. Marriage/Matrimony/Wedlock
• Social union or legal contract between people
called spouses that establishes rights and
obligations between the spouses, between the
spouses and their children, and between the
spouses and their in-laws
• Usually formalized at a wedding or marriage
ceremony. The ceremony may be officiated
either by a religious official, by a
government official or by a state approved
celebrant

113. Carl and Ellie of “Up” Story

116. Rights and Obligations
• Giving a husband/wife or his/her family
control over a spouse's sexual
services, labor, and property.
• Giving a husband/wife responsibility
for a spouse's debts.
• Giving a husband/wife visitation rights
when his/her spouse is incarcerated or
hospitalized.

117. Rights and Obligations
• Giving a husband/wife control over
his/her spouse's affairs when the
spouse is incapacitated.
• Establishing the second legal
guardian of a parent's child.
• Establishing a joint fund of property for
the benefit of children.
• Establishing a relationship between
the families of the spouses.

119. Stage One:
Passion
Very strong and significant

120. Stage Two:
Realization
A more real vision of the rest of
your life begins

121. Stage Three:
Rebellion
Simultaneously offended at being
called wrong and claiming the
moral high ground

122. Stage Four:
Cooperation

123. Step Five:
Reunion

124. Step Six:
Explosion
Mission: Deal the best you can
with life’s challenges and
changes, but at the same time,
keep yourself happy and
healthy.

127. “To truly know another, we must be
willing to see the world through
their eyes, not simply our own. If
we listened as well as we spoke,
really connecting would take care
of itself .”

128. “Sometimes when we're in bed
with our partner, it can be
really crowded with invisible
and unwanted visitors.”

129. “We must be willing to look closely and
honestly at ourselves to see if these are
truths about us. Not everyone is willing to
do this. To truly understand what you are
seeing in another, you must first hold up a
mirror and understand what you are
seeing there.”

130. SEX AND INTIMACY
“If your sex life is in need of a
tune-up, chances are your
relationship needs tuning
first.”

131. “If you've ever been forgiven for your "falls
from grace" in life, you know how
powerful a healing experience it is. Much
as resentments are poison to a
relationship, ownership and mutual
forgiveness are its salvation.”

132. Killer of trust and
commitment

134. In-Laws
“Both the wife and the mother-in-law are
competing for the attention of the
husband.”
~John Gottman, PhD
Cure: Solidarity

136. Money
Lack of balance between
money’s problem and power
Cure: Plan as a financial team

137. Housework
Not supporting each other in tasks
Cure: “When husbands do their share to
maintain the home, the couple reports a
more satisfying sex life.”
~Gottman

138. According to surveys, 70% of married
women feel unsatisfied when the baby
arrives
Cure: Wake up to reality

139. Sex
Sexual desires are not as blissfully
matched as you had thought
Cure: Trust