Thousands of teens are involved in unhealthy relationships and are being severely abused. Learn how to put a stop to violence in your relationship.

1. DATING
VIOLENCE
CARLOS F. MARTINEZ MHA, M.ED.
CARLOSFMARTINEZ.COM

2. Teen Dating Violence
TEEN DATING VIOLENCE IS THE CONTROL OF
ONE TEENAGE PARTNER OVER THE OTHER
TEENAGE PARTNER IN THE FORM
OF EMOTIONAL, VERBAL, PHYSICAL AND/OR
SEXUAL ABUSE. THESE ABUSIVE BEHAVIORS
ARE PURPOSEFULLY USED BY ONE
TEENAGER TO HURT AND CONTROL THEIR
PARTNER. EMOTIONAL ABUSE IS THE VERBAL
BEHAVIOR THAT HARMS A PERSON'S SELF-
ESTEEM AND CAUSES SHAME. PHYSICAL ABUSE
IS THE BEHAVIOR AND ANY ACTION WHICH
CAUSES PHYSICAL PAIN OR INJURY. SEXUAL
ABUSE IS ANY UNWANTED SEXUAL ADVANCE OR
CONTACT.

3. Emotional Abuse examples
 Repeated lies, broken promises.
 -Extreme jealousy - keeps a partner away from
friends.
 -Insults and put-downs
 -Threats against personal safety.
 -Controlling a person's basic decisions - how to
dress, what to eat, who to talk to, where to go, what
to do.

4. Physical Abuse examples
 Punching, kicking, slapping
 Shaking, pushing or grabbing
 Attacking with a knife, gun or
other weapon
 Any physical act that is
unwanted or hurtful

5. Sexual Abuse examples
Unwelcome sexual comments
Forcing someone to kiss
Forcing someone to have
sexual intercourse when they
do not want to.

6. Teen Dating Statistics
 About one in three high school students have been
or will be involved in an abusive relationship.
 Forty percent of teenage girls’ ages 14 to 17 say they
know someone their age who has been hit or
beaten by a boyfriend.
 In one study, from 30 to 50 percent of female high
school students reported having already
experienced teen dating violence.
 Teen dating violence most often takes place in the
home of one of the partners.

7. Teen Dating Statistics... (continue)
 One in five or 20 percent of dating couples report
some type of violence in their relationship.
 One study found that 38 percent of date rape
victims were young women from 14 to 17 years of
age.
 More than half young women raped (68 percent)
knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, or friend

8. Teen dating violence often is hidden
because teenagers typically
are pressured by peers to act
violently.
want independence from
parents.
have "romantic" views of love.

9. Young men may believe
 they have the right to "control" their female
partners in any way necessary.
 "masculinity" is physical aggressiveness
 they "possess" their partner.
 they should demand intimacy.
 they may lose respect if they are attentive
and supportive toward their girlfriends.

10. Young women may believe
 they are responsible for solving problems in
their relationships
 their boyfriend's jealousy, possessiveness
and even physical abuse, is "romantic."
 abuse is "normal" because their friends are
also being abused.
 there is no one to ask for help.

11. Early warning signs that your date
may eventually become abusive
Extreme jealousy Believes in rigid sex
Controlling behavior roles
Unpredictable mood Blames others for his
swings problems or feelings
Alcohol and drug use Cruel to animals or
Explosive anger children
Isolates you from Verbally abusive
friends and family Abused former
partners
Uses force during an
argument Threatens violence

12. Common clues that indicate a teenager
may be experiencing dating violence
 Physical signs of injury
 Truancy, dropping out of school
 Failing grades
 Changes in mood or personality
 Use of drugs/alcohol
 Pregnancy
 Emotional outburst
 Isolation

13. Safety Planning for Teens
 What adults can you tell about the violence and
abuse?
 What people at school can you tell in order to be
safe--teachers, principal, counselors, security?
 Consider changing your school locker or lock.
 Consider changing your route to/from school.
 Use a buddy system for going to school, classes and
after school activities.
 What friends can you tell to help you remain safe?

14. Safety Planning for Teens
 Keep a journal describing the abuse.
 Get rid of or change the number to any
beepers, pagers or cell phones the abuser
gave you.
 Keep spare change, calling cards, number
of the local shelter, number of someone
who could help you and restraining orders
with you at all times.
 Where could you go quickly to get away
from an abusive person?
 What other things can you do?

15. This is a photo of Carolyn Thomas before her face
was destroyed in a shooting.

16. This is Carolyn after her boyfriend
shot her in the face

17. Besides the jaw, tissue, and bone, Carolyn
lost an eye, nose, and upper lip.

18. Carolyn Thomas must feed herself four times
a day using a tube attached to her stomach

19. The first of several surgeries; the goal was to
make sure Carolyn could breathe while
preventing infection.

23. Each day, she will have to glue the piece to her face to
apply the synthetic nose.

26. This is Carolyn today

27. THANK YOU !!!
GRACIAS!!!