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1. PLEASING
PERSONALITY

2. Pleasing personality means
those who come in contact with you, are really
pleased to meet you and would like to remain in
your company. It is very natural that every living
being wants to be loved, needed, wanted or
missed when not present. With little effort on
your part, you can Transform yourself into a
Pleasing Personality, a sought after Person.

3.  A Pleasing and Attractive
Personality can blossom by
your own efforts by constant
self-Improvisation.

4. Following are the ways to Self-Create a
Pleasing Personality and become the
Person you have always wanted to be
 Hand Shake
 Voice
 Be a Good Listener
 Interest in others:
 Personal Bearing
 Positive Attitude
 Appreciation
 Avoid the Blame Game
 Cheerfulness and Enthusiasm
 Hold yourTemper
 Admit your mistakes
 Be Helpful, Kind and Generous
 Avoid confrontation
 Thanks and Gratitude
 Self-Esteem and Self-Worth

5.  Hand Shake: Since, a Hand Shake is the first
contact when you are introduced to any one, it has
to be perfected.While Shaking Hands, apply just
enough pressure to impress that other person is
Welcome and Wanted. A Smile is the pre-requisite
for anyWarm Hand Shake denoting Friendship,
Warmth and Bonhomie. However, while being
introduced to Ladies or Seniors for the first time,
do not extend your hand first. If they offer their
hand, only then you should offer yours and press
their hand lightly and leave it.When on a sales call,
do not ever extend your hand first for a Hand Shake.
It is the prerogative of the person you are meeting
whether he wishes to shake hand or not.

6.  Voice: When Speaking, your voice must be
Cool, Calm and well Modulated. Voice should
not be loud nor should it be shrill or high
pitched. By constant practice, you can achieve
this.When something is said, take time to react
or respond. Always, behave like a big Airliner,
not like a fighter plane.

7.  Be a Good Listener: Always work on being a
Good and Attentive Listener.When others are
talking, do not interrupt them. Even if you
disagree with what is being said, never let your
disagreement be known abruptly or
aggressively. Always put forth your viewpoint
Calmly but Effectively. A Good Listener is more
popular than a good speaker. Gift of Patient
Listening is most valued by most of the people.

8.  Interest in others: You can only attract others
by first attracting yourselves to them.You have
to be amply interested in others’ Lives, Family,
Hobbies, Habits, Interests and Profession.Talk
about them and ask questions about them to
show your sincerity and eagerness to be
genuinely interested in them.
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9.  Personal Bearing: Stand or Sit erect to exhibit
confidence and poise. Avoid drooping posture
when sitting or walking. Dress adequately for
the occasion.When attending Office or Social
Functions, avoid casuals. Dress smartly and
Smile, and you will find only smiles awaiting you
wherever you go. A smile is infectious and others
would only smile back when they find you
smiling at them. Always be punctual but do not
question others if they are late unless you are
the boss.

10.  Positive Attitude: Foundation of Sound Positive
Character is the basic ingredient of any Pleasing
Personality. ‘Positive people attract while negative
repel’. Inculcate a Positive Attitude in life which
would not only transform yourself into a Pleasing
Personality but also shall help you in many more
ways in life.You must get yourselves into the habit
of looking at brighter side of things. Never crib
about things in others’ presence and do not tell your
troubles to others. Be patient. Never give the
impression to others of impatience and irritation.
ExhibitTolerance and Self-control attitude. Say
‘Yes’ and make it your Favorite Word. All these
characteristics inspire confidence in others and they
shall flock to be in your company.

11.  Appreciation: It’s a basic human need to want
to be appreciated. Meet it. Get into the habit of
identifying what is Good and Appreciable in
others and express it unhesitatingly. In other
words, always be appreciative of things, people
and good qualities they possess. But avoid
sycophancy and flattery.When you are aTeam
Leader, be liberal in praising yourTeam
Members for their efforts which result in much
needed motivation and enhanced performance.
When theTeam performs well, give credit to the
Team but own up the responsibility of team’s
failure and short- comings.

12.  Avoid the Blame Game: You can avoid ill-will by
avoiding the tendency to blame or criticize others
without thinking. You may disagree but never
appear disagreeable. Put forth your viewpoint
firmly but politely, making it clear that the idea is to
improve the things and definitely not to blame
someone for what has gone wrong. When you
blame others, they become defensive about what
they have done which generates avoidable
arguments and counter arguments.Your Words and
Actions should reinforce the genuineness of your
thoughts. Never let it appear from what you say or
from your body language that you want to take
advantage of the situation by putting the other
person down. A Pleasing Personality comes handy
when things go wrong which they often do. Always
be fair especially to your subordinates.

13.  Cheerfulness and Enthusiasm: Always be
Cheerful and Enthusiastic about things and
events. People would like to be in your company
if you are Cheerful, Enthusiastic and Possess a
Positive Attitude in life. Create Humor and
interesting anecdotes. No one likes to be in the
company of morose, serious and sad looking
people. Fill your mind with Positive thoughts
aggressively and then, it is easy to remain
Cheerful and Enthusiastic.

14.  Hold yourTemper: Again a matter of habit-
creation. Circumstances and Situations may
sometimes, tempt you to loseTemper, go out of
control and think negatively and in anger, say
things which you never mean. Remember, Anger
is only a letter short of ‘Danger’. Once a word
goes out, like an arrow, it cannot be retrieved.
Be cool and hold your temper. Never take
action when you are angry. It will save you lot of
embarrassment in life if you are even tempered,
Calm, Cool, and maintain your poise even in the
face of difficult situations and provocations.
Mind you, ‘Both Human and Steel lose their
values, once they loseTemper’

15.  Admit your mistakes: Saying ‘I am sorry’ or ‘I
think I was wrong’ or ‘ I stand corrected’ are
signs of magnanimity, not weakness. Everyone
makes mistakes, but unfortunately few admit
them.Try to be one of those few. A person who
never makes mistake, never makes anything.
Admitting your mistakes before children,
fetches you children’s Confidence and Goodwill.
By apologizing, parents teach children that any
one can be wrong and it is worth it to admit.
Another important aspect is to accept others’
sincere apologies graciously and sportingly. Do
not ever try to take advantage or taunt the
person who has sincerely apologized for his
mistake or wrongdoing.

16.  Be Helpful, Kind and Generous: Create a
Helping Attitude wherever you can. And when
others offer help, accept it graciously. As a
saying goes ‘In the same degree you are
helpful, you will be happy’. A Helpful and Kind
Person is always Happy,Trusted and Respected
by all, and is Self -Assured, Self-Confident and at
Peace with himself.

17.  Avoid confrontation: Specially, in minor
inconsequential issues. Remember, you can go
up the ladder with others’ Support and Co-
operation only. Always, look for the opportunity
to co-operate with others. When you co-operate
with others, others will automatically co-operate
with you. Many times, you might win the
argument but lose the person. Sometimes, it is
better to lose the argument than loosing an
important relationship.

18.  Thanks and Gratitude: Adopt an Attitude of
Gratitude. For any service rendered, always
expressThanks and Gratitude profusely. No
act of service is too small to acknowledge.
Always be on the look out for any opportunity to
acknowledge and convey THANKS and
GRATITUDE.When complimented, respond by
saying just ‘THANKYOU’.

19.  Self-Esteem and Self-Worth: Always, keep
these two things high about yourselves in your
own mind. Keep your intentions good, with no
intention to harm anyone. Such an attitude will
give a big boost to your self-confidence to face
Life, Challenges and Situations. Abide by the
rules specially while Driving. Do not blindly ape
others. Make your own standards and never
lower them. Stop worrying about things over
which you have no control. Do not boast of your
achievements or accomplishments. Let others
notice and evaluate them. Also avoid the
temptation to criticize others, events or actions.