How polyamory went from scandalous to swank in 10 years flat, opening keynote from Rocky Mountain Poly Living 2015

1. H O W P O LYA M O RY B E C A M E M O R E
M A I N S T R E A M T H A N P E A N U T B U T T E R
F R O M S C A N D A L O U S T O S WA N K I N 1 0 Y E A R S F L A T

3. H O W D I D W E G E T H E R E ?
W H AT H AV E W E L E A R N E D ?
W H E R E D O W E N E E D T O B E ?

4. 1 9 9 0 S
P O LYA M O RY
I N
T H E
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5. L O V I N G M O R E
M A G A Z I N E

6. P O LYA M O RY. L I V E J O U R N A L . C O M
O N L I N E

7. P O LYA M O RY. L I V E J O U R N A L . C O M
O N L I N E

8. 2 0 0 6
P O LYA M O RY I N

9. polyamory, n.!
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orig. U.S.!
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Forms: 19- polyamory, 19- polyamoury. [< POLY-
comb. form + classical Latin amor (see AMOUR n.1)
+ -Y suffix3, after POLYAMOROUS adj.!
In form polyamoury prob. after French amour AMOUR
n.1]!
!
The fact of having simultaneous close
emotional relationships with two or more
other individuals, viewed as an
alternative to monogamy, esp. in regard
to matters of sexual fidelity; the custom
or practice of engaging in multiple
sexual relationships with the knowledge
and consent of all partners concerned.

10. 2 0 0 8
P O LYA M O RY I N

11. 2 0 0 8
P O LYA M O RY I N

12. 2 0 0 9
P O LYA M O RY I N

13. 2 0 0 9
P O LYA M O RY I N

14. Now I know for certain we are definitely in
the last day's. All like sheep have gone
astray, each after his own way. This is not
judging people, it's a warning. Because
of what you're doing, nothing but a bunch
of fornicator's like rabbit's, you will not
inherit the kingdom of heaven. But then,
why would you want any part of heaven?
That's not where your heart is. But you
will get what's coming to you.

15. Z E R O S U M
"It may be exciting for
them but it's not love.
They can't have the
intimacy you get from a
relationship with one
person. If they do get
something close to that
with one of their partners
then the others are not
having it."

16. D E L U D E D
"... this just sounds like
people too afraid to really
love someone, trying to
pretend they don't care."

17. U N M A N LY
"...this behaviour is not
masculine. Men are
dominant and possessive
by nature. Any man who is
ok with his girlfriend/wife
sleeping with another guy
on a regular basis is not a
man."
DON’T
BE
A
GIRLY
MAN!

18. ?
"There are people who are
reverting back to prehistoric
times. Some social classes of
homo sapiens seem to be de-
evolving into homo-erectus.
These social classes are
beginning to exhibit many of
the social characteristics of
lower animal life forms, i.e.
getting closer to the origin
ancestors instead of
continuing to evolve into
higher intelligence."

19. 2 0 1 0 S
P O LYA M O RY I N
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20. P O LY
A D O L E S C E N C E
• Growth
• Awareness
• Confidence
• Maturity
• Inclusion

21. 4 0 N O N F I C T I O N B O O K S

22. 4 0 N O N F I C T I O N B O O K S

23. D O Z E N S O F C O N F E R E N C E S

24. D O Z E N S O F C O N F E R E N C E S

25. G O O G L E T R E N D S

26. W H E R E A R E W E C U LT U R A L LY ?

27. G AY M A R R I A G E

28. M I L L E N N I A L S
D E P R I O R I T I Z I N G
M A R R I A G E A N D
FA M I LY
P E W S T U D Y

29. I N F I G H T I N G
L I K E
T E E N A G E R S
T H E P O LY C O M M U N I T Y

30. W H AT I ’ V E L E A R N E D F R O M 1 0 Y E A R S
O F P O LY P O D C A S T I N G

31. M A N Y
V O I C E S
A R E M O R E
P O W E R F U L
T H A N O N E
S T R O N G E R T O G E T H E R

32. R E S P E C T A N D
T O L E R A N C E
W I N T H E G A M E

33. C E L E B R AT E
T H E J O Y S

34. T H E R E I S A
L O T I D O N ’ T
K N O W

35. T H E R E I S A
L O T I D O
K N O W

36. W H E R E W E N E E D T O B E

37. PAT I E N T

38. E D U C AT O R S

39. B O R I N G

40. O N E M A I N S T R E A M O P T I O N

41. H O W P O LYA M O RY B E C A M E M O R E
M A I N S T R E A M T H A N P E A N U T B U T T E R
F R O M S C A N D A L O U S T O S WA N K I N 1 0 Y E A R S F L A T