1. Peer Relationships and Dating

2. Bell Ringer List all of the qualities you can think of that you would want in a friend. (5 min) Go around and have everyone name one List them on the board Talk about “in order to have this kind of a friend, you have to BE a friend like this”. (10) min

4. Similar values, interests, beliefs, and attitudes

5. Open and honest communication

6. Sharing of joys, disappointments, dreams, and concerns

7. Mutual respect, caring, and support

8. Concern about each other’s safety and well-being“Researchers have found that people generally form close relationships with individuals who share similar goals, values, or interests. Other studies suggest that people get along better with individuals whose personalities compliment their own.”

9. Different Types of Friendships Casual Friendships Share interests but not deep emotional bonds Close Friendships Strong emotional ties. Feel comfortable sharing thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Platonic Friendships A friendship with a member of the opposite gender in which there is affection but the two people are not considered a couple. One-Sided Friendships is a friendship in which one person does most of the giving and the other person does most of the receiving.

10. Building Strong Friendships Good Friends: Reinforce your values Motivate you Show empathy Treat you with fairness Share your interests Accept you for who you are Support you Loyalty

11. “A true friend is someone who is willing to take you the way you are, but leaves you better than they found you.”

14. Mean Girls Clip (5 min)

15. Do you think YOU are a member of a clique?

17. Dating Activity 20 minutes Split up the boys and the girls Give them each a paper with two columns Dating “Do”’s and Dating “Don’t”’s 10 minutes to come up with lists 10 minutes to share

19. Bike-riding

20. Hike the Y

21. American Fork Canyon Hikes

22. Have a picnic

23. Mini golfing

24. Make dinner

25. Progressive Dinner

26. Dollar Movie

27. Weird utensil dinner

28. Scavenger hunts

29. Temple Square

30. Museum

31. Tour Christmas Lights around the city

32. Carve Pumpkins

33. Make and decorate sugar cookies

34. Outdoor Movie

35. Murder Mystery DinnerBookstore Ice-blocking Board Games School plays/University Plays Hide and go seek in Wal-Mart Batting Cages Color me Mine Service Projects Make a treat and doorbell ditch them Finger-painting Frisbee Golf Play at a playground Laser light show in Salf Lake Dollar Store Date Bowling Fondue Party Build a snowman Water –balloon fight Side-walk chalk

36. Personal Dating Stories 5-10 minutes Mrs. Day’s First Date Ms. Stephan’s First Prom Mrs. Day’s Homecoming

37. Fun Things We’ve Done Horseback riding Alpine Slide at Park City Laser Tag Starburst Bowling Make ugly Christmas sweaters D.I. Date Thanksgiving Point Tumbling Gym

40. Infatuation: temporary strong feelings of passion and/or admiration.

41. So what is love???

44. Avoid bedrooms and closed doors

45. Avoid being alone at home

46. Don’t “park”

47. Avoid sexually explicit material

48. Don’t use drugs or alcohol

49. Remember thoughts proceed actions

52. Qualities of an Unhealthy Relationship Controlling Manipulation Verbal insults Mean language Put downs Physical violence Isolation from family and friends -If you find yourself justifying them Intimidation or threats

54. 1 in 4 teens report verbal, physical, emotional or sexual abuse each year

55. 1 in 5 teens report being a victim of emotional abuse

56. 1 in 3 teens report knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, kicked, slapped, choked or otherwise physically hurt by his or her partner

57. Nearly 80% of girls who have been physically abused in their dating relationships continue to date their abuser

58. Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend had threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a break-up

59. Almost 70% of young women who have been raped knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or causal acquaintance

61. Video Clip Rhiana and Dating Violence (5-10 min)

62. Getting Help Tell your parents, friends, and trusted adults about whets going on Have fun with good friends Its okay to be sad National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE