1. Guiding Parents
Children will always need guidance in good behaviour,
and it is a parent’s duty to provide this guidance.
Parents can model good behaviour and discuss with their
children what constitutes good behaviour, but it is helping
children act on their own that will allow them to
understand what is appropriate and what is not in a
variety of situations.
So give them this freedom
Succeeding Children

2. Using positive and negative reinforcement are two excellent
ways to help children identify and display good behaviour as
well as understand and avoid bad behaviour.

3. Children and Positive Reinforcement
• Everyone likes to be praised and children are no different.
• When children display good behaviour, parents should
acknowledge their actions by congratulating their children
on their decisions.
• Such positive reinforcements allow children to connect that
what they did has made their parents happy, and
therefore was the correct choice.

4. While praising a child specify the behaviour
For Example : If a child makes a beautiful
drawing , instead of saying
“Good” or “Good Work”
say
“Wow your colour combination is so beautiful
and you have coloured within the boundary”
Be specific, Be Clear in appreciating the child
And say it with ENTHUSIASM

5. We should praise effort, never talent.
We should teach kids to see challenges as learning
opportunities rather than threats and that we should
emphasize how abilities can be transformed.

6. Children and Negative Reinforcement
• Negative reinforcement is the opposite of
positive reinforcement.
• When a child chooses to act inappropriately or
misbehave, a parent should greet these
behaviours with a negative attitude.
• Be Firm and assertive
• Don’t Shout

7. Important to remember
• Parents should be sure to address the
behaviour in negative terms, not the child.
• It is important that children do not feel that
their parents believe that they are bad,
irresponsible or stupid.
• Always addressing the behaviour, rather than
the child, will help make this distinction.
• Parents should also be sure not to punish
children.

8. Example
If a child is denied playing for not tidying his toys he
will not necessarily learn why tidying toys is
important, he will only learn that if he does
something “bad” then something “bad” will happen
to him.
Set limits and boundaries with the child.
Don’t force

9. WARNING
• Use three warning signs
• Make the child clear with the rules
and boundaries and consequences
of not following them
• If the child does something wrong
you need to give space of three
warnings to him to correct his
behaviour
• If the same inappropriate
behaviour persists after three
warnings then the harsher
consequences should be followed
for Eg. Deduction of one hour TV
viewing .

10. BUT….
If the child corrects his behaviour between
these three warnings then as a parent it is
important to appreciate .
Example:
“Good you have corrected your behaviour ,I like
it when you obey”
“ Kitne acche lagte ho jab aap baat maan jate
ho aur galti sudhar lete ho, Good !!!!!”

11. Punishment does not necessarily teach a lesson,
but using negative reinforcement should.

12. Self Realization
“Often, it’s not about becoming a new person,
but becoming the person you were meant to be,
and already are, but don’t know how to be.”
Make them realize.

13. Remember
• Helping children realize which behaviours are
appropriate and responsible is part of a
parent’s job description.
• There are two ways parents can help teach
children good behaviour, through positive
reinforcement of good behaviours and
negative reinforcement of bad behaviours.

14. Remember
Parents should always remain vigilant that
they are addressing the behaviors and not the
child so that it is obvious that they are not
telling a child that they are inherently good or
bad as a person.

15. Don’t Forget
• Change is not like a instant coffee.
• It requires lot of constant efforts.
• If you want to change the child’s behaviour
you need to change your strategies.
• NEVER GIVE UP …………
Prepared By
Deepti Malhotra