This newsletter from Families & Friends of Murder Victims provides information and resources for those grieving the loss of a loved one to murder. It thanks various organizations for their support and lists contact information for local chapters and support groups. It also includes announcements of upcoming events, such as a Christmas candlelight memorial luncheon. Several pages are dedicated to listing the December birthdays and memories of those who were murdered.

1. FFAMILIES & FRIENDS OF
MURDER VICTIMS, Inc.
(FFMV)
Newsletter December 2018
Thank-you:
*Carol Anderson – Website
*Kaiser – Oakland
*St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland
*Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church
Grand Terrace
*First United Methodist Church of La Puente
* Palm Desert Library
*San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of
Victim Services/Victim Advocates
* Linda Rodriguez – Mother of Angel - Memory Cards
*Janet Garcia Facebook administrators
* Ellie Rossi – Mother of David and Lisa
Ralph and Arlene Payan – Parents of Raul Payan
In Loving Memory
Jennifer LeAnne Balber
12/2/73 – 11/10/94
The radiance of her presence could light
up a room, and her smile could bring
laughter and happiness to those she
encountered.
Jen was a loving person that lived life for
life itself.
Jen was a loving daughter, a sister,
proud aunt, niece, cousin, friend, and a
joy to her grandparents.
Happy 45rd
Birthday in Heaven!!
Forever “20”
Need Someone to Talk To?
* Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking
(909) 200-5499 (after 3pm)
*Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after 4pm)
Redlands CA
*Donna Lozano - Parent – 760-660-9054
* Palm Springs/Coachella Valley 10am-9pm
*Linda Rodriguez -Parent – 951-369-0010-Home –
951-732-3255 - Riverside
* Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133 Yucaipa CA
* Richard McVoy – Adult Sibling –
909-503-5456 – Grand Terrace CA
* Tanya Powell - Parent – 760-596-2292-
Families & Friends of Murder Victims:
A non-profit organization
Dedicated to providing information, support, and
friendship to persons who have experienced the
death of a loved one through the violent act of
murder
Share Sorrow…..
Share Strength
Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to
provide a pathway to well-being to those who
have lost a loved one to murder and to those who
are victims of attemptedmurder.
Love Gifts
Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made
to the memoryof a loved one’s birthday, anniversary
of a death, holiday, or justbecause which are posted
in newsletter.They are also made by caring
professionals,organizations to help in the work that
FFMV does with victims/survivors.These gifts help
with the expenses incurred in reaching outto others
and operating expenses.When making outa check,
please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on
check or envelope.
Love Gifts can be mailed to FFMV-
P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino,Ca. - 92423-1222
In Loving Memory
Lawrence David Cortez.
12/18/64 – 7/30/15

2. FFMV - Colton Chapter
3rd
Monday of every month
Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church
Robinson Hall – Room 6
12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA
92313
Time: 6:15pm - 8:00pm
Contact person for directions or
information Rose – 909-754-6969
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
Next MEETING December 17th, 2018
Oakland Chapter
1st
Tuesday of every month
Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at
Broadway, 7pm-9pm
12th floor Room 1200 East
Contact: Robin – 510-653-8069
Sandra – 510-691-7089
MEETING December 4th, 2018
FFMV – Coachella Chapter
Contact Rose
909-754-6969
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
For meeting place, time & date for
December
Grief Support Group
ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings.
Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you are
suffering the loss of a loved one and in need to talk
to someone, we are here to listen and share
emotions.
Together and with the help of the Lord, we can
help each other heal.
Meetings are held every 2nd Wednesday of the
month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8
St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave. San
Bernardino (909)887-3810
Contacts:
Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387
(FFMV Participants)
Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-374
FFMV
West End Chapter -Bi-lingual
Meets every 2nd Thursday of every month at
7:00pm-8:30pm
St. Anthony’s Catholic Church
Conference Room
2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA 91786
Participants have the option of the
English & Spanish Meeting
Local Grupo Bilingue
Los participantes pueden escoger en Inglés
o en Español
Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes a
las 7:00 p.m.
Contact persons/ Personas de contacto:
Rita Marin (909) 215-7063
rittaatffmv@aol.com
NO DECEMBER MEETING
FFMV – SGV Chapter
Meetings are on the 2nd Tuesday of each month
7pm-9pm in a classroom at the First United
Methodist Church of La Puente, located at. 15701
Hill Street, La Puente, CA 91744
Contact information
* Luz Ruiz (626) 388-6403
Next Meeting December 11th, 2018
Bridge to Our Angels
Grieving Parents of Adult & Young Children
Mondays @ 4pm
Christ the Servant Lutheran Church Fellowship
Hall 2 South Pecos RD. Henderson NV 89074
Facilitated by Grieving parents
Sharon 702-238-8722 & Donna 702-688-1367
Inmate Locator, Department of Corrections is
now making it easier for people to locate
prison inmates; it’s a free online search and
is open to the general public.
http://inmatelocator.cdcr.ca.gov
There has been many new laws … so there
changes to website … make sure you check
on your offender and make sure your contact
information is updated. You can make
changes and additions online.

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If you shop at Office Depot or Staples please
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Staples- or use just give them 909-798-4803
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office supplies.
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I will Light Candles this Christmas
by Howard Thurman
I will light Candles this Christmas;
Candles of joy despite all sadness,
Candles of hope where despair keeps
watch,
Candles of courage for fears ever present,
Candles of peace for tempest-tossed days,
Candles of grace to ease heavy burdens,
Candles of love to inspire all my living,
Candles that will burn all the yearlong.
In Loving Memory of my Brother
Jesus D. Calderon
12/8/60 – 1/10/11
Resources and Additional Support Services
San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office
of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino
(909) 382-3846
Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241*
Victorville/Desert area: (760)552-6947
Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of
Victim Witness Centers:
Riverside: (951) 955-5450
Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130
* Indio: (760) 863-8408
*Los Angeles County District Attorney's Victim
Witness Assistance Program offices:
Pomona: 909) 620-3381
*Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts.
323-816-9651 www.laurala.org
* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Website
www.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice
*Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348
www.wagv.org
* Crime Victims United of California –
530-885-9544 www.crimevictimsunited.com or
mail@crimevictimsunited.com
* North American Victim Assistance (NOVA)
www.trynova.org
* Victims of Crime Resources Center
800) VICTIMS
* POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org
GOC – Debra – 714-999-7132
IE Chapter – Linda – 909-653-7236
* Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944
* Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367
* Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470
MOVE@cox.net
* Resource for the Grieving and
* Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895
www.crimesurvivors.com
*JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS –
(310) 457-0030 -
jhvinfo@justiceforhomicidevictims.com
* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities
-S.T.E.V.I.E. stevieisunityandpeace@yahoo.com
oneunikadvocate2@aol.com
* Survivors of Murdered Children SGV Chapter –
Tina-626-298-9054 -tinayyama@att.net
*Homicide Survivors Support Group
Meets every 2nd
Tuesday at 7pm
Solono Family Justice Center
604 Empire St. Fairfield CA
Rita Edmonds-Norris at 707-631-281
* Margaret Goldman – MA MFT
760-946-9036 – Apple Valley, CA
*Option House: www.optionhouseinc.org
Hotline:909-381-3471

4. December
2018
Birthdays
and
Memories

5. December 2018 Birthdays
Andy R. Castro Jr. Alexander Ray Esparza
Alejandro Rojas-Garcia Bruce Ridgley
Bryan Stapleton Christopher Martinez
Daryl Smith Dominic T. Reed
Edward A. Ortiz Franky Mosqueda
Gilbert Rivera Jacob Eric Jackson
Jason Verde Jacqueline McVoy (Matzke)
Jennifer LeAnne Balber Jesus D. Calderon
Jimmy Brown Lawrence Cortez Larry Leyva
Marcus Maurice Green Marie C. Gonzales
Mark Mireles Michele Jeanette Carson
MickeyThompson Michael Andrew Rosas
Reychell Lujan Roberto Carlos Davalos
Russell Travis Dorff Samantha Salas
Sonia Herrera Tom Myers
Travis Williams Venessa Martinez
William “Bill” Dyrness

6. December 2018 Memories
Alexander Alvarado Anthony Maldoado
Arturo J. Velazquez Beatrice Hatfield
Brian Michael Doyel Bruce Ridgley
Chris Stirrat Clasten Jr. Vaughn
Danny Miranda David Lowe David Parrish
David Halson Dominic Ortega Ericka Baker
Guilermo Reyes Henry Vellore Lozano
Janet Heartfield Jerrick Jay Richarson
Jerry Angelo Sandoval Joseph Salazar
Jose Luis Cruz “Luisito”
Krishana LeAnn Szymanski Linda Hesse
Maria De Los Angeles Maggllon
Michele R. Kriezel Michael George Rivera
Reginald Reess Roberta Klotz Roberto Morales
Roberto Davalos Richard Hernandez
Timothy Hatch Travis Williams
Nicolas & Emilia Casas
Angelo “EIO” Huerta, Donna Marie Morgan
& Steven Caldera

7. LOVE GIFTS
In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of In Loving Memory of
Jacob Eric Jackson Michele Carson Beatrice Hatfield
12/22/82 – 3/2/07 12/22/84 – 11/7/10 6/29/00 – 12/14/83
In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/21/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11
Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi)
--------------------------------------------------------Love Gift-----------------------------------------------------------------
Donation $_______________
Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________
Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________
Email address:__________________________________________________________
Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________
Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________
Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________
# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file_____________

8. Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc.
Annual Christmas Candlelight/Memorial Luncheon
When: Sunday December 9, 2018
Time: 2pm - 5pm
Where: The Diocese of San Bernardino Pastoral Center
1201 E. Highland Ave., San Bernardino, CA. 92404-4641
For all who sent your RSVP
Read the following information below
Due to reaching venue capacity …. FFMV is no longer taking RSVP’s
FFMV will provide desserts and beverage
~We ask that you please bring a main dish, salad or side dish to share ~
(Enough to feed your party plus 5)
~ Bring your Loved Ones picture/shoes to display on our Memorial Table ~
~ Each family will receive a special ornament in Memory of their Loved One ~
~ Our Loved Ones Slide Show Presentation ~
~ We will havean optional ornament gift exchange for adults and teens 13yrs and up.
If you would like to participate, please bring a wrapped ornament.
($5max., it can be a store bought or if you are crafty, you can make one) ~
We will be accepting donations/toys thru December 6, 2018
Toys will be wrapped and personalized on December 7th
Contact 909-754-6969 – mail4ffmv@yahoo.com for any questions.
NOTE: Lunch will be served promptly from: 2:30PM – 3:30PM
Ornament hanging/Candle lighting 3:30PM - 4:30PM
Ornament gift exchange 4:30PM - 5:00PM
Ideas for potluck: pizza, chicken, casseroles, grinder (sliced), macaroni/potato salad, veggie tray, chips (individual bags).

9. (Please bring your own serving utensils)
New Series Announcement
As the Author/coordinator of the successful Murder Survivors Handbook, I
read, viewed and interviewed whatever I thought might strengthen the
information. My premise was that none of us knows it all. While it would be
impossible to capture everything for a resource book, I was content to give
enough variance, so each reader would feel less alone and find
some resources for their new and treacherous journey.
I plan to introduce one of these sources each month. I will select them in no
particular order but as they come to me. Each resource is of equal importance
as is each homicide. The first in this series is a book published in 2009 by a
reporter and editor for the Boston Globe: The Ride by Brian Macquarrie. To
read more follow the link below:
http://www.svlp.org/education/lessonsseries.html
Connie Saindon, MFT, Founder
svlp@svlp.org
Survivors Of Violent Loss Resources
Announcements
www.svlp.org
Restorative Retelling is an evidence based model that has been successful in supporting those who have lost
someone to a violent death. Restorative Retelling services include general counseling and group services.
CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)
Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program(SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County DistrictAttorney's OfficeBureau
of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Children's Hospital. The 3-day grief camp is geared toward
homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violent death in their family. Campers board a bus at the
Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to Camp Cedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and
grief therapy experience.
At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designed to help them learn
and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. This camp has been so successful that it has
been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims Program Teen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief
services for teens ages 14-18 who previously participated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted
by camp. It will be a combination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good
Grief Peer Counselors.
Camp is free of chargeto all campers and campershipsarefunded by unclaimed victimrestitution.Therapists and interns from Loma
Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and District Attorney's Office Victim Advocates d onate
their time to the camp.
The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to continue fundraising activities,
presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting future Camp Good Grief-SVP programs. Contact:
Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073

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From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the
Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV
In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber
12/02/73 – 11/10/94
A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader,
Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CA
Prayers to all! It's always hard to put a smile on our faces during the holidays but on this day I raise my glass to all.
May the memories of your past holidays with your Loved One help put a smile on your face.
Merry Christmas and a safe New Year!
On December 2nd Jen would have turned 45yrs. old, but in my heart she is forever 20yrs. old, make a toast to her on this
special day! This December newsletter is dedicated to My Jen…..
My beautiful Jen…..I can no longer…See you with my eyes…Touch you with my hands…
But I will feel you in my heart….Forever…Love, Mom
FFMV Executive Board
Rose Madsen – Chair, Mother of Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Dawn Hall– Vice Chair, Mother of Joshua Rexford
Rita Marin – Secretary, Aunt of Jennifer LeAnne Balber
Bertha Flores – Treasurer, Mother of Kristopher Flores
FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivorsof murder victims & victims of attempted murder. Our main purpose is to offer grief
support for those victim/survivors. Allassistance provided to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions regarding the
policies of FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to
mail4fffmv@yahoo.comor phoned to 909-754-6969
FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal Revenue Service.
Our Organizationdepends largely uponprivate donations which will cover operational expenses, Our Annual Family Christmas Memorial
Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims’ Rights Week Memorial. We are seekinga sponsor (s)for our events. Please contactFFMV at the above e -
mail or phone if you are interested. Tax ID #68-0299211 AllContributions
Are Tax Deductible
Keep continued prayers for families that are in the court process trying to get the
JUSTICE they Deserve!!
Salome “Jr.”, Chris, Jesus (Beto), & Edwinta “Winnie”, Santos, &
Raymond J. Pantoja “RJ”, Brian
And for ALL families dealing with the injustice of UNSOLVED Murders!

12. 2019 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non Victim
Please Print Clearly
Date________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________
Victim’s First Name______________________________________________
Victim’s Last Name______________________________________________
Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )
Was this a DUI Yes ( ) No ( ) Was this Domestic Violence Yes ( ) No ( )
Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list to receive
monthly newsletter and event information
I grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to use photograph(s) of
the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use and publish the same in print and/or
electronically.I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and for
any lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration, advertising,
and Web content.
I have read and understand the above.
Signature_________________________________________________________
Print Full Name _______________________________________________________
Print Last Name ______________________________________________________
Address_____________________________________________________________
City_________________________________________________________________
Zip Code _______________Contact Phone(s) with area code____________________
E-mail ____________________________________________________________
Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: ffmvmail@yahoo.com
~ FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222
I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file

13. Due to getting many returned emails, birthday/anniversary cards and newsletters, FFMV requests that you
complete this form if you have any changes to your contact information to continue receiving newsletter,
mailing and emails. Thank You
FFMV
FORMA DE PERMISO
2019 Participante / Formulario de Autorización para la presentación de diapositivas de
fotos y fotos juntas
Fecha: _____________ Relación con la víctima: ____________________________________
El Primer nombre de la victima: ____________________________________________
El Apellido de la victima: ________________________________________________
Fecha de nacimiento_________ Fecha de la muerte__________ Solucionado: Si ( ) No ( )
¿Fue esto un DUI: Si ( ) No ( ) ¿Fue esta violencia doméstica: Si ( ) No ( )
Permiso para usar la foto (s): Si ( ) No ( ) Sólo me agregar a la lista e-mail/mailing para recibir el
boletín mensual, información de eventos
Concedo a las FAMILIAS Y AMIGOS DE VICTIMAS DE HOMICIDIO, INC. (FFMV)
el derecho a usar la fotografía (s) del sujeto identificado anteriormente. Autorizo FFMV a utilizar y
publicar el mismo en forma impresa y / o electrónica.
Estoy de acuerdo en que FFMV podrá utilizar dichas fotografías con o sin su su / nombre y para
cualquier propósito legal, incluyendo, por ejemplo, con fines tales como la publicidad, la ilustración, el
contenido publicitario y web.
He leído y entendido lo anterior.
Firma: ______________________________________________________________
Nombre en letra imprenta: ________________________________________________
Direccion: ____________________________________________________________
Ciudad: ____________________________ Estado: __________ Codigo postal: ____________
Telefono: (_____) _____-________ Celular: (_____) _______________________
e-mail: ___________________________________________________________________
Envíe por correo participante / formulario de divulgación para
FFMV ~ PO Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA 92423-1222
Debido a que recibe muchos correos electrónicos devueltos, tarjetas de cumpleaños / aniversario y

14. boletines informativos, FFMV le solicita que complete este formulario para continuar recibiendo
correos y correos electrónicos. Gracias