2. FAMILIES & FRIENDS OF
MURDER VICTIMS, Inc.
Families & Friends of Murder Victims:
(FFMV) A non-profit organization
Dedicated to providing information, support, and
friendship to persons who have experienced the
Newsletter October 2012 death of a loved one through the violent act of
murder
Thank-you: Share Sorrow…..
*Carol Anderson – Website Share Strength
*Kaiser – Oakland Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to
*Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta provide a pathway to well-being to those who
*St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland have lost a loved one to murder and to those who
*Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church are victims of attempted murder.
Grand Terrace
Portola Community Center- Palm Desert Love Gifts
*San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation made
Victim Services/Victim Advocates to the memory of a loved one’s birthday, anniversary
*Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim of a death, holiday, or just because which are posted
Services/Victim Advocates in newsletter. They are also made by caring
*Family of Kris Flores professionals, organizations to help in the work that
*Janet Garcia& Barbara Christian FFMV does with victims/survivors. These gifts help
facebook administrators with the expenses incurred in reaching out to others
* Ellie Rossi and operating expenses. When making out a check,
*Anonymous Donor for sponsoring newsletter for please make payable to FFMV and note Love Gift on
October 2012 check or envelope.
Love Gifts can be mailed to
FFMV- P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. -
92423-1222
Need Someone to Talk To?
* Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims on
(909) 200-5499 (after 3pm)
*Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after
4pm) Thank-you
*Maxine Russell – (818) 378-2072
Janet Garcia
Parent/Grief Counselor Mother of Jesse Garcia – 6/10/78 – 6/27/94
*Dawn Hall - Parent(951) 757-4419 Barbara Christian
*Mary Stewart -Parent (951 698-5317) Mother of Terri Lynn Winchell–
Emergency Consult for Suicidal or Homicidal 4/10/63 – 1/8/81
Participants
*Linda Atencio -Parent – 760-490-7864
* Ellie Rossi - Parent - 909-810-8133
Inmate Locator,
Department of Corrections
is now making it easier for
people to locate prison
inmates; it’s a free online
search and is open to the
general public.
http://inmatelocator.cdcr.ca.gov
"Angel Miracles: Connecting with your Loved Ones in
Heaven is available and can even be read
on your computer or Iphone!
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B009HOBI88

3. Riverside Chapter West End Chapter -Bi-lingual
nd
Meets on the 3rd Wednesday of every Meets every 2 Thursday of every month at
7:00pm-8:30pm
month at 7pm St. Anthony’s Catholic Church
Avaxat Elementary School, 24300 La Conference Room
Brisas Road in Murrieta, CA 2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA 91786
Contact Dawn (951) 757-4419 Participants have the option of the
For directions ask for PJ at- English & Spanish Meeting
951-696-1600 x2177 – Local Grupo Bilingue
M-F 9am-4pm (1-2pm lunch) Los participantes pueden escoger en Inglés o en
Next Meeting – October 17, 2012 Español
Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes a las
7:00 p.m.
Contact persons/ Personas de contacto:
Colton Chapter Rita Marin (909) 215-7063 rittaatffmv@aol.com
Next Meeting October 11, 2012
st
1 Tuesday of every month
Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church Grief Support Group
Robinson Hall – Room 6 ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings.
12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you
92313 are suffering the loss of a loved one and in
New Time: 6:00pm - 8:00pm need to talk to someone, we are here to
Contact person for directions or listen and share emotions.
information Rose – 909-754-6969 Together and with the help of the Lord, we
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com can help each other heal.
Meetings are held every 2nd Wednesday of
Next Meeting – October 2, 2012 the month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8
St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave.
Coachella Valley Chapter San Bernardino (909)887-3810
New Address Contacts: Hope Morfin (909)820-6163
We will continue meeting every Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387
3rd Wednesday of each month (FFMV Participants)
6:00pm – 8:00pm Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-3744
Portola Community Center Room 2
45-480 Portola Ave
(parking on Shadow Mountain)
Palm Desert, CA 92260
760-568-2560- Call for directions
Rose – 909-754-6969
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
Candy- 619-200-0547
Candyclb@aol.com
Next meeting is October 17, 2012
Oakland Chapter
Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at
Broadway,
12th floor Room 1200 East
Contact Helene (510) 452-2553

4. Resources and Additional Support Services
FFMV Fundraisers
San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office Office Depot - Staples – Office Max
of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino If you shop at Office Depot or Staples please
(909) 387-6540 use FFMV’s Rewards Number for Office Depot
Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241* which is 1139461170 Office Max – 650756207,
Victorville/Desert area: (760) 243-8619
Staples- or use just give them 909-798-4803
for all three. We get reward points that help
Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of
defray the cost of printing, ink cartridges and
Victim Witness Centers:
office supplies.
Riverside: (951) 955-5450
Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130
* Indio: (760) 863-8408 PLEASE….Don‘t throw away your old ink
*Los Angeles County District Attorney's Victim cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or
Witness Assistance Program offices: take them to Office Max, Staples or Office
Pomona: 909) 620-3381
Depot and give them 909-798-4803
It’s an easy way to help
*Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts.
FFMV purchase office supplies.
323-816-9651 www.laurala.org
* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Website
www.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice Finding The New Normal
*Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348 “When does this pain of loss end?
www.wagv.org Is there no relief?”
*www.CrimeVictims.gov—public awareness Web
site
This is often the cry of a parent who has lost
* H.E.A.L. Helping Everyone Acknowledge Loss – a child. The grief seems too big and too hard
818-378-2072– RussellBliss21@aol.com at times. And, there seems to be no end in
* Crime Victims United of California – 916-928- sight for the pain and isolation. And, yet we
4797 www.crimevictimsunited.com or know that somehow, some way life must
mail@crimevictimsunited.com continue on.
* North American Victim Assistance (NOVA)
www.trynova.org
* Victims of Crime Resources Center (800) We keep trying; keep reminding ourselves
VICTIMS that we must take life one day at a time.
* POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org In fact, sometimes we take life one hour at a
* Greater Orange County POMC – Marie – 714-999- time, giving ourselves the time we need to
7132 – 562-508-2397 adjust to our new world, our new way, this
* Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944
life that now is labeled “the new normal.”
* Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367
* The Crime Victims Assistance Network (iCAN)
Foundation (916) 273-3603 And, so we train our minds daily to look for
* Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470 the good, to listen for the song, and to watch
MOVE@cox.net for the sunshine and blue skies. We force
* Resource for the Grieving and ourselves to move forward into this world
Bereavedwww.griefcompanion.com
knowing that it will never be the same again,
* Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895
www.crimesurvivors.com Bi-monthly meetings
but also understanding that we must choose
held in Orange County to move forward into this new land beyond
* Adela Lavine~Medium: www.adelalavine.com our grief journey. And, so we do!
* MADD – (909) 888-6233
www.maddsanbernardino.org Hope is amazing as it teaches us that the
*JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS - (310) 457- very same sun is still shining and waiting to
0030 -jhvinfo@justiceforhomicidevictims.com
warm us. Nature is still painting the world
* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities
-S.T.E.V.I.E. stevieisunityandpeace@yahoo.com with beauty beyond words. Our Father is
oneunikadvocate2@aol.com still giving us comfort and help in order to
* www.psychic4themissing.com help fill the void. And, so we slowly move
*Homicide Survivors Inc. forward knowing that one day the curtain of
todd.blumhorst@pcao.pima.gov grief will be pulled back and we will be able
520.740.5729
to see life with new eyes and a heart filled
with hope! --Clara Hinton

5. October 2012 Birthdays
Abel Gonzales
Alfred Cabrera
Anthony Rodríguez
Anthony Ledinich
Betty Van Patter
Charlie Martinez
Christopher Patrick Weiss
David Garcia
David Lowe
Demetrius Lanier Williams
Dwayne Fields
Elzie Elijah Winston
Ericka Elaine Baker
HeatherAnn Steimer
Hector Cisneros Ariz-mendez
Jason VanKleef
Jerry Ramirez Jr.
Jimmy Brown
Joshua Rexford
Jose Uriel Alvarez Villalobos
Kristhoper Flores
Mark Anthony Minchaca
Michael Ray McCoy II
Michele Kriezel
Nicolas Casas
Randy Olivas
Rosario Mojarro
Ronald Saxton
Stevlan “Stevie” Singleton
Theodore Albert Goede
Trudy Thompson

6. October 2012 Memories
Aaron Luis Angulo
Aaron Gurrola
Abel Gonzales
Adelaja Nogoma Russ
Andy R. Castro Jr.
Angela Lynn Merth
Bailey Elizabeth Sloan
Brandon Smith
Brittany Riggs
Bryan Stapleton
Damon Jones Sr.
Diana Dawn Vacari
Elena Sylvia Perez
Frankie Cayetano
Jesse Aguilar
Maria Banuelos
Maureen Ramirez
Ozzy Conde
Rosa Maria Gamino
Rosa Torres
Trevor Johnson
William Rees Merrel
We Will Always Remember You
When we bury our parents, that is our past. When we bury a spouse, that's our
present. When we bury our kids, we bury our future.... quote from a gentlemen..
Stefan Robinson

7. LOVE GIFTS
In Loving Memory of In Loving Memoryof In Loving Memory of
Kris Flores Mario Quiroz Joshua Rexford
10/10/77 – 7/24/96 5/14/68 – 1/25/06 10/8/76 – 11/27/94
In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/2/64 - 7/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11
Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi)
--
------------------------------------------------------------Love Gift-----------------------------------------------------------------
Donation $_______________
Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________
Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________
Email address: __________________________________________________________
Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________
Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________
Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________
# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file_______________

8. CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)
Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County District
Attorney's Office Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Children's Hospital. The 3-
day grief camp is geared toward homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violent
death in their family. Campers board a bus at the Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to Camp
Cedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and grief therapy experience.
At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designed
to help them learn and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. This
camp has been so successful that it has been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims Program
Teen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief services for teens ages 14-18 who previously
participated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted by camp. It will be a
combination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good Grief
Peer Counselors.
Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapists
and interns from Loma Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and District
Attorney's Office Victim Advocates donate their time to the camp.
The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to continue
fundraising activities, presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting future
Camp Good Grief-SVP programs.
Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073
COLD CASES FYI
I attended JHV Memorial in April, guest Speaker Frank Girardot, editor of the Pasadena Star News and
senior editor of the San Gabriel Valley Tribune Group announced that he would to publish pictures and
information regarding unsolved homicide cases on the newspaper website. Many families that I know
personally have UNSOLVED cases which have turned to COLD cases…Everyone deserves JUSTICE
If your loved one was murdered in the greater Southern California area and the case is unsolved, Frank
will get it published in the newspaper.
You can check out the Cold Case Project by going to www.PasadenaStarNews.com/coldcases. The
paper also has the project listed on Facebook …
This is a response Frank gave me when I e-mailed him about this project:
Hi Rose,
If I get a photo from a loved one I will post it on our website as soon as I can. Anyone who is interested
can contact me and I promise to get them set up.
Sincerely,
Frank Girardot
911 E. Colorado Blvd
Pasadena, CA 91106
626-578-6300 ext.4478
frank.girardot@sgvn.com
Here is some basic information Frank needs when you send him a picture of your loved one:
Your full name, address, phone(s), e-mail address, Victims Full Name and age at time of murder,
Victims DOB-DOD, your relationship to victim, city where murder took place, any suspects arrested?,
Detective’s name & phone, & short bio on how your loved one was murdered

9. 3820 Mulberry Street
Riverside, CA 92507
951-369-7447
Presents a Flapjack Fundraiser For
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Saturday October 13, 2012
8:00am – 10:00am
Walk-In’s Welcomed
ALL YOU CAN EAT
Pancakes, Scrambled Eggs, Sausage
Orange Juice & Coffee included
Tickets - $10 ea
Kids under 5yrs. Free
Come & Support FFMV
Proceeds will benefit FFMV’s Annual Christmas Memorial Luncheon

10. for Surviving Children, Families & Friends who have lost a Loved One to
Murder
For tickets….contact Rose 909-754-6969 or 909-798-4803 or
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
Each year House of Ruth holds a candlelight vigil in October for Domestic Violence Awareness Month. The vigil is to
remember those who have lost their lives to domestic abuse in the past year and also to honor of all domestic violence
victims, survivors & their families.
This year's candlelight vigils theme will be "NO MORE."
We invite community partners and community members to join us.
The Vigil will be held in collaboration with students from the Sisterhood Academy at Montclair High School.

11. The event will take place at House of Ruth's Outreach Agency in Pomona: 599 N. Main St. Pomona, CA 91768.
For more information please contact Marina Wood at 909-868-8010 or mwood@houseofruthinc.org.
Save the Date
Come and Join
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc.
to their
Annual Christmas Candlelight/Memorial Luncheon
All FFMV chapter members, their family, children, friends
and supporters of FFMV are invited to attend
When: Sunday December 9, 2012
Time: 2pm - 5pm
Where: The Diocese of San Bernardino Pastoral Center
1201 E. Highland Ave., San Bernardino, CA. 92404-4641
(909) 475-5300
**HONOR YOUR LOVED ONE AT OUR CHRISTMAS LUNCHEON**
You can give special honor to your loved one by making a monetary donation towards the main course,
annual gift raffle, table centerpieces or ornaments to be hung by each family in
Memory of your Loved One.
Your Loved One’s name will be acknowledged in the program.
~ Our Goal is to have all children will receive a
special gift at Annual Gift Raffle ~
(We are seeking a sponsor(s) for this event)
Sign-up sheet will be in the November Newsletter
If you would like to be a sponsor contact: Rose 909-798-4803
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com

12. Christmas Memorial RSVP by November 30, 2012
~We ask that you please bring a salad or side dish and dessert to share ~
~ Bring your Loved Ones picture to display on our Memorial Table ~
~ Each family will receive an ornament in Memory of their Loved One ~
~ Our Loved Ones Slide Show Presentation (send your picture) ~
FFMV will provide the main course, & beverage, and one
ornament for each family
*We are in need of additional donations. If you are interested in donating a prize for our annual raffle, or if you know
of a business that would like to help sponsor this memorial please call and leave a message at (909)798-4803 or
e-mail mail4ffmv@yahoo.com with your interest or questions.
*We will be taking reservations for individual tables if you have 8 or more in your party attending.
This will be on a first come basis only, please mention your interest when you RSVP.
Directions to the Diocese:
From I-210 East; exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then go left on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the right
From I-10 E, to I-215 N towards San Bernardino, merge onto I-210-E, HIGHLAND / MTN RESORTS, exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then go
left on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the right
From 91 E , 91E becomes I-215 N , merge onto CA I-210 E / HIGHLAND / MTN RESORTS, exit at Waterman Ave. and go right , then left on
Highland Ave. Diocese is on the right,
From Beaumont take I-10 W, merge onto I-210-Pasadena/CA-30 W toward HIGHLAND, continue going west on I- 210, exit Del Rosa Ave, and go left,
then right on Highland Ave. Diocese is on the left
Diocese is on Highland Ave & Golden Ave (signal)
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( ) Yes I will be attending ( ) Yes I would like to request an individual family table for a family of _____________
I would like ________ additional ornaments at $1ea - Enclosed is $_____________ for ___________ additional ornaments
( ) Enclosed is my loved ones picture ( ) I will e-mail my loved ones picture ( ) Use my loved ones picture that you
have on file
PLEASE PRINT: Your loved ones DOB_________________________ DOD _______________________
Loved Ones First Name________________________ Last Name____________________________________
Your Name: _________________________________________________________________
Your Contact phone # with area code ( ) _____________________email____________________________
# of adults________ # of children ________ # Boys______ Ages_______________________________
# of Girls_______ Ages________________________________________________________________
I will bring (circle one) Salad Side Dish

13. Mail or e-mail this completed form no later than November 30, 2012 to:
FFMV ~ P.O. Box 11222 ~ San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222 ~ mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the
Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV
In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber
12/02/73 – 11/10/94
A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader,
Fatally Shot in the Line of Service in Rialto, CA
FFMV will be hosting a Pancake Fundraiser on October 13, 2012…. (see attached flyer for details)
Come and Support FFMV....Can't come?...you can purchase a ticket (s) & sponsor your ticket (s) to
one of our volunteers or to a participant of FFMV.... Proceeds will benefit FFMV’s Annual Christmas
Memorial Luncheon for Surviving Children, Families & Friends who have lost a Loved One to Murder
For tickets….contact Rose 909-754-6969 or 909-798-4803 ....mail4ffmv@yahoo.com.
Your sponsorship will be acknowledged....Thank- you
I’m working on November memory board, so send me your loved ones picture.
Thoughtfully
Rose
FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims of
attempted murder. Our main purpose is grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistance provided
to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions regarding the policies of
FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-
1222, e-mailed to mail4fffmv@yahoo.com or phoned to
909-798-4803. FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal
Revenue Service.
Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operational
expenses, Our Annual Family Christmas Memorial Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims Rights
Week Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contact FFMV at the above
e-mail or phone if you are interested.
Tax ID #68-0299211
All Contributions Are Tax Deductible

14. 2012/2013 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non Victim
Please Print
Date________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________
Victim’s First Name_________________________________________
Victim’s Last Name_________________________________________
Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )
Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list to
receive monthly newsletter and event information
I grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to use
photograph(s) of the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use and
publish the same in print and/or electronically.
I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and for
any lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration,
advertising, and Web content.
I have read and understand the above.
Name of Agency/Non-Victim if applicable: ________________________________
Signature _________________________________________________________
Print Full Name _____________________________________________________
Address___________________________________________________________
City__________________________________ Zip Code____________________
Phone with area code ______________________________________
E-mail ____________________________________________________________
Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222
I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file

15. I have included a $_________ donation for 2012
Thank-you… if you have already sent your 2012/2013 donation
Please help with this legislation, to either sponsor or co-sponsor this urgently needed bill.
Write to your congressperson and Senators Barbara Boxer and Dianne Feinstein
Congresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen as the Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee and Congressman
Howard Berman as the Ranking Member.Chief of Staff Margaret Mott (mail won't be stalled thru radiation there as it is in
DC)14546 Hamlin St. # 202 Van Nuys, California 91401 Phone (818) 994-7200 Fax: (818) 994-1050
Congresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen, Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee
2206 Rayburn House Office Building Washington, DC 20515-0918 to either sponsor or
Co-sponsor this urgently needed bill.
Thanks, Maxine B. Russell - Mother of Darren - russellbliss21@aol.com
On the web: www.russellcase.net (UPDATED)
On Twitter: @killed_in_china
In U.S. Federal Court: Case No. CV-09-06050