2. FAMILIES & FRIENDS OF
MURDER VICTIMS, Inc. Families & Friends of Murder Victims:
A non-profit organization
(FFMV) Dedicated to providing information, support,
and friendship to persons who have
Newsletter September 2012 experienced the death of a loved one
through the violent act of murder
Thank-you: Share Sorrow…..
*Carol Anderson – Website Share Strength
*Kaiser – Oakland Mission: To restore a sense of hope and to
*Avaxat Elementary School- Murrieta provide a pathway to well-being to those who
*St. Anthony’s Catholic Church-Upland have lost a loved one to murder and to those
*Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church who are victims of attempted murder.
Grand Terrace
Portola Community Center- Palm Desert
*San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office of Love Gifts
Victim Services/Victim Advocates Love gifts are a specific tax deductible donation
*Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Victim made to the memory of a loved one’s birthday,
Services/Victim Advocates anniversary of a death, holiday, or just because
*Family of Kris Flores which are posted in newsletter. They are also
*Janet Garcia& Barbara Christian made by caring professionals, organizations to
facebook administrators help in the work that FFMV does with
* Ellie Rossi victims/survivors. These gifts help with the
*Anonymous Donor for sponsoring newsletter for expenses incurred in reaching out to others and
September 2012 operating expenses. When making out a check,
please make payable to FFMV and note Love
Gift on check or envelope.
Love Gifts can be mailed to
Need Someone to Talk To? FFMV- P.O. Box 11222 San Bernardino, Ca. -
* Bertha Flores - Parent - Spanish speaking 92423-1222
(909) 200-5499 (after 3pm)
*Rose Madsen – Parent (909) 798-4803 (after
4pm) Join Families & Friends of Murder Victims on
*Maxine Russell – (818) 378-2072
Parent/Grief Counselor
*Dawn Hall - Parent(951) 757-4419 Thank-you
*Mary Stewart -Parent (951 698-5317) Janet Garcia
Emergency Consult for Suicidal or Homicidal Mother of Jesse Garcia – 6/10/78 – 6/27/94
Participants Barbara Christian
*Linda Atencio -Parent – 760-490-7864 Mother of Terri Lynn Winchell–
* Ellie Rossi - Parent 909-810-9133 4/10/63 – 1/8/81
Inmate Locator, Department of Dealing With Depression
Ever had to wait out a storm? I was stuck in
Corrections is now making it my car once, pulled over to the side of the
easier for people to locate prison road, waiting for a storm to pass. The rain
and wind were so strong and I felt exposed
inmates; it’s a free online sitting there alone in my car. Lightning
search and is open to the continuously flashed across the sky. The
thunder was so loud and piercing. All of my
general public. senses were on red alert and I was terrified!
http://inmatelocator.cdcr.ca.gov Minutes seemed like hours and I just
wanted that storm to be over!! It took time
but the storm did pass. Depression can feel
like going through a fierce storm. It took
awhile for the storm to pass and the sun to
break through, but it did happen!! As you
face daily the challenges that depression
presents you with, remember to ride these
storms out. They will pass and the sun will
break through again for you. ~Rosemary

3. Riverside Chapter West End Chapter -Bi-lingual
Meets on the 3 rd Wednesday of every Meets every 2nd Thursday of every month at
7:00pm-8:30pm
month at 7pm St. Anthony’s Catholic Church
Avaxat Elementary School, 24300 La Conference Room
Brisas Road in Murrieta, CA 2210 North San Antonio Upland, CA 91786
Contact Dawn (951) 757-4419 Participants have the option of the
For directions ask for PJ at- English & Spanish Meeting
951-696-1600 x2177 – Local Grupo Bilingue
M-F 9am-4pm (1-2pm lunch) Los participantes pueden escoger en Inglés o en
Next Meeting – September 19, 2012 Español
Se reunen cada Segundo Jueves del mes a las
7:00 p.m.
Contact persons/ Personas de contacto:
Colton Chapter Rita Marin (909) 215-7063 rittaatffmv@aol.com
Next Meeting September 13, 2012
st
1 Tuesday of every month
Christ The Redeemer Catholic Church Grief Support Group
Robinson Hall – Room 6 ALL are welcome at our monthly meetings.
12745 Oriole Ave Grand Terrace, CA Whether you are a parishioner or not. If you
92313 are suffering the loss of a loved one and in
New Time: 6:00pm - 8:00pm need to talk to someone, we are here to
Contact person for directions or listen and share emotions.
information Rose – 909-754-6969 Together and with the help of the Lord, we
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com can help each other heal.
Meetings are held every 2 nd Wednesday of
Next Meeting – September 4, 2012 the month 7 to 9 P.M. ~ Room 8
St. Anthony’s Church 1640 Western Ave.
Coachella Valley Chapter San Bernardino (909)887-3810
New Address Contacts: Hope Morfin (909)820-6163
We will continue meeting every Ralph & Arlene Payan (909)887-4387
3rd Wednesday of each month (FFMV Participants)
6:00pm – 8:00pm Danny & Rose Equihua (909) 887-3744
Portola Community Center Room 2
45-480 Portola Ave
(parking on Shadow Mountain)
Palm Desert, CA 92260
760-568-2560- Call for directions
Rose – 909-754-6969
mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
Candy- 619-200-0547
Candyclb@aol.com
Next meeting is September 19, 2012
Oakland Chapter
Kaiser in Oakland, Howe St. at
Broadway,
12th floor Room 1200 East
Contact Helene (510) 452-2553

4. Resources and Additional Support Services FFMV Fundraisers
San Bernardino County District Attorney’s Office
of Victim Witness Centers: San Bernardino Office Depot - Staples – Office Max
(909) 387-6540 If you shop at Office Depot or Staples
Rancho Cucamonga: (909) 945-4241* please use FFMV’s Rewards Number for
Victorville/Desert area: (760) 243-8619 Office Depot which is 1139461170 Office
Riverside County District Attorney’s Office of Max – 650756207, Staples- or use just
Victim Witness Centers: give them 909-798-4803 for all three. We
Riverside: (951) 955-5450 get reward points that help defray the cost
Murrieta: (951) 304-5680 * Banning: (951) 922-7130 of printing, ink cartridges and office
* Indio: (760) 863-8408 supplies.
*Los Angeles County District Attorney's Victim
Witness Assistance Program offices:
PLEASE….Don ‘t throw away your old ink
Pomona: 909) 620-3381
cartridges! Continue to bring them to us, or
*Life.After.Uncivil.Ruthless.Acts. take them to Office Max, Staples or Office
323-816-9651 www.laurala.org Depot and give them 909-798-4803
* WINGS OF JUSTICE – Website It’s an easy way to help
www.murdermislabeledsuicide.com/WingsofJustice FFMV purchase office supplies.
*Women Against Gun Violence – 310-204-2348
www.wagv.org
*www.CrimeVictims.gov—public awareness Web
site
♥ I have Learned
* H.E.A.L. Helping Everyone Acknowledge Loss –
Tragedy does not come knocking on your door
818-378-2072– RussellBliss21@aol.com
three days in advance to let you know when to
* Crime Victims United of California – 916-928-
expect him, so that you will know to be waiting
4797 www.crimevictimsunited.com or
on him. He comes within the very blink of an
mail@crimevictimsunited.com eye. In an instant; and he is never gentle about
* North American Victim Assistance (NOVA) it. Grief is the constellation of internal thoughts
www.trynova.org and feelings we have when someone loved dies.
* Victims of Crime Resources Center (800) Grief is the weight in the chest, the churning in
VICTIMS the gut, The physical pain in your heart and soul,
* POMC - (888) 818-POMC www.pomc.org and the unspeakable thoughts and feelings.
* Greater Orange County POMC – Marie – 714-999- Mourning is the outward expression of grief.
7132 – 562-508-2397 Mourning is crying, journaling, creating artwork,
* Citizens Against Homicide - (415) 455-5944 talking to others about the death, telling the
* Justice for Murdered Children - (310) 547-1367 story, speaking the unspeakable. Everyone
* The Crime Victims Assistance Network (iCAN) grieves when someone loved dies, but if we are
Foundation (916) 273-3603 to heal, we must also mourn. Time does NOT
* Memory of Victims Everywhere - (949) 248-5470 heal all wounds. This is not a wound....it is an
MOVE@cox.net amputation. "Loose an arm or a leg, and let me
* Resource for the Grieving and know how long it takes for it to grow back!" It
Bereavedwww.griefcompanion.com won't!! TIME only allows you the space needed
* Crime Survivors – 949-872-7895 to get used to living WITHOUT. It does not
www.crimesurvivors.com Bi-monthly meetings heal....and the mourning and the grief comes in
held in Orange County tidal waves. After a length of time, the days get
* Adela Lavine~Medium: www.adelalavine.com better, you can maybe smile a little and
* MADD – (909) 888-6233 eventually even laugh without feeling guilty.
www.maddsanbernardino.org
Never a day goes by you don’t think of your
loved one, but then BBAAMM.................smell
*JUSTICE FOR HOMICIDE VICTIMS - (310) 457-
something they loved, hear a song, see a color,
0030 -jhvinfo@justiceforhomicidevictims.com
pass their favorite cereal at the grocery
* Striving Towards Eradicating Violence In Ennercities
store..............just anything and the day is just
-S.T.E.V.I.E. stevieisunityandpeace@yahoo.com
bottomed out and it may last a few hours, week,
oneunikadvocate2@aol.com
or days from then.
* www.psychic4themissing.com
*Homicide Survivors Inc. Suddenly it is like starting over again.
todd.blumhorst@pcao.pima.gov
520.740.5729

5. September Birthdays
Alejandro Gutierrez
Alexander M. Delgado
Alexandro Alvardo
Ann Souther
Bailey Elizabeth Sloan
Chelsea Buckley
Cesario Valdez
Danae Palermo
Darrell Davis
Darren E. Russell
Elizabeth Fay Mariani
Evan Todd Kinard
Gladys Benson
Ian Williams
Jerald Eugene Sevec
Joseph Salazar
Manuel Chavez Jr.
Manuel J. Vega
Manuel Rodriguez
Michael Alexander Corrales
Michael Lundin
Roberto “Junior” Grijalva
Ross Elvey
Samuel Shanchez
Shauna Ann Maynard
Shawn G. Olave
Steven Caldera
Victoria Lee Castro
William Rees Merrell
We Will Always Remember You

6. September Memories
Alejandro Gutierrez
Benny Rodriguez
Charles Hemmings
Christopher Patrick Weiss
David Leon II
Derek Dion Wiltz II
Doctor Fernandez
Edward Navarrette
“Erie” Charles Hemmings
Herbert & Ann Souther
Jonathan Olagues
Joseph Valenza
Kelly Bullwinkle
Lonny Williams
Maria Sanchez
Nylah Torres
Ray Valenzuela
Richard G. Jurado
Robert Minjares
Robert C. Fiebrantz
Sedrick Mills
Timothy Morgan
William “Bill” Dyrness
We Will Always Remember You
There are moments in life when you wish you could bring someone down from
Heaven...and spend the day with them just one more time, give them one more
hug, kiss them goodbye or hear their voice again.
One more chance to say I Love you

7. LOVE GIFTS
In Loving Memory of In Loving Memoryof In Loving Memory of
Darren E. Russell Mario Quiroz Gladys Benson
9/22/69 – 4/14/05 5/14/68 – 1/25/06 9/28/21 – 2/11/96
In Loving Memory David Charles Nystrom – 2/2/647/27/98 & Lisa Cummings – 11/13/66 – 3/12/11
Brother and Sister in Heaven ….. now together watching over their Mom (Ellie Rossi)
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------------------------------------------------------------Love Gift-----------------------------------------------------------------
Donation $_______________
Name (please print):_________________________________________________________________
Address____________________________________City/St.________________________Zip__________
Email address: __________________________________________________________
Your Phone # ( ) ____________________Relationship to Victim: _____________________________
Name of Victim: _________________________________________________________________
Date of Birth: Date of Death: ______________________
Please post my loved ones message and/or picture(s) for the month of: ___________
# of pictures enclosed/attached ____________ Use picture on file_______________

8. CAMP GOOD GRIEF (SVP)
Camp Good Grief-Special Victims Program (SVP) is a joint effort between the San Bernardino County District
Attorney's Office Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Medical Center Children's Hospital. The 3-
day grief camp is geared toward homicide/suicide and is for children ages 10-16 who have experienced a violent
death in their family. Campers board a bus at the Ronald McDonald House in Loma Linda and head to Camp
Cedar Falls in the San Bernardino Mountains for a three-day camp and grief therapy experience.
At camp the children participate in game and team building activities and therapeutic group activities designed
to help them learn and understand how to cope with the grief over the violent death of their loved one. This
camp has been so successful that it has been expanded to include Camp Good Grief - Special Victims Program
Teen Retreat. It will be held annually and provides grief services for teens ages 14-18 who previously
participated in Camp Good Grief - SVP and whose lives have been positively impacted by camp. It will be a
combination of learning advanced grief management skills as well as a training camp for future Camp Good Grief
Peer Counselors.
Camp is free of charge to all campers and camperships are funded by unclaimed victim restitution. Therapists
and interns from Loma Linda Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic, Loma Linda Child Life Specialists and District
Attorney's Office Victim Advocates donate their time to the camp.
The Bureau of Victim Services and Loma Linda University Children's Hospital have pledged to continue
fundraising activities, presentations to service groups, and outreach events so they may continue hosting future
Camp Good Grief-SVP programs.
Contact: Dorothy Brooks 909-558-4073
COLD CASES FYI
I attended JHV Memorial in April, guest Speaker Frank Girardot, editor of the Pasadena Star News and
senior editor of the San Gabriel Valley Tribune Group announced that he would to publish pictures and
information regarding unsolved homicide cases on the newspaper website. Many families that I know
personally have UNSOLVED cases which have turned to COLD cases…Everyone deserves JUSTICE
If your loved one was murdered in the greater Southern California area and the case is unsolved, Frank
will get it published in the newspaper.
You can check out the Cold Case Project by going to www.PasadenaStarNews.com/coldcases. The
paper also has the project listed on Facebook …
This is a response Frank gave me when I e-mailed him about this project:
Hi Rose,
If I get a photo from a loved one I will post it on our website as soon as I can. Anyone who is interested
can contact me and I promise to get them set up.
Sincerely,
Frank Girardot
911 E. Colorado Blvd
Pasadena, CA 91106
626-578-6300 ext.4478
frank.girardot@sgvn.com
Here is some basic information Frank needs when you send him a picture of your loved one:
Your full name, address, phone(s), e-mail address, Victims Full Name and age at time of murder,
Victims DOB-DOD, your relationship to victim, city where murder took place, any suspects arrested?,
Detective’s name & phone, & short bio on how your loved one was murdered

9. 3820 Mulberry Street
Riverside, CA 92507
951-369-7447
Presents a Flapjack Fundraiser For
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Saturday October 13, 2012
8:00am – 10:00am
Walk-In’s Welcomed
ALL YOU CAN EAT
Pancakes, Scrambled Eggs, Sausage
Orange Juice & Coffee included
Tickets - $10 ea
Kids under 5yrs. Free
Come & Support FFMV
Proceeds will benefit FFMV’s Annual Christmas Memorial Luncheon
for Surviving Children, Families & Friends who have lost a Loved One to Murder
For tickets….contact Rose 909-754-6969 or 909-798-4803 or mail4ffmv@yahoo.com

10. “We Come To Share Our Story”
A Day of Reflection and Healing for People who
have lost a loved one to murder.
When: Saturday, Sept. 15, 2012
RSVP by August 30th.
To the Office of Restorative Justice (909) 475-5474 or by completing the form below.
Spaces are limited.
Where: St. Andrew's Abbey in peaceful, beautiful and scenic Valyermo
31001 N Valyermo Rd.
Valyermo, CA 93563
(661) 944-2178 or www.saintandrewsabby.com
Registration: 8:00am - 8:30am
Reflection Day: 8:30am until 7:00pm
Cost: $25.00 per person
(includes continental breakfast, lunch and dinner)
Bring photo and/or memento of your loved one
This reflection day will be in English.
For More Info: Contact Sister Sue Reif at 909-475-5474 (office) or sreif@sbdiocese.org
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Registration Form:
Name:_________________________________________________________________
MailingAddress:_________________________________________________________
Email Address:_________________________________________________________
Home phone:__________________________________________________________
Cell phone:____________________________________________________________
Checks can be made out to "Diocese of San Bernardino." Please mail form and payment to:
Office of Restorative Justice, 1201 E. Highland Avenue, San Bernardino, CA 92404

11. From Rose Madsen, Editor/Chair/co-founder of the
Colton & Coachella Chapter of FFMV
In Memory of my daughter Jennifer LeAnne Balber 12/02/73 – 11/10/94
A 20yr. old SoCal Gas Co. Meter Reader, Fatally Shot in the Line of Service
Seems like it was only yesterday that I was working on the August newsletter…now here it’s already
September…time is passing quickly!
FFMV will be hosting a Pancake Fundraiser on October 13, 2012…. (see attached flyer for details)
Come and Support FFMV....Can't come?...you can purchase a ticket (s) & sponsor your ticket (s) to
one of our volunteers or to a participant of FFMV.... Proceeds will benefit FFMV’s Annual Christmas
Memorial Luncheon for Surviving Children, Families & Friends who have lost a Loved One to Murder
For tickets….contact Rose 909-754-6969 or 909-798-4803 ....mail4ffmv@yahoo.com.
Your sponsorship will be acknowledged....Thank- you
I’m working on October memory board, so send me your loved ones picture.
Thoughtfully
Rose
FFMV is a non-profit organization dedicated to serving survivors of murder victims & victims of
attempted murder. Our main purpose is grief support for those victim/survivors. All assistance
provided to victims is given free of charge by volunteers. Contributions and/or questions
regarding the policies of FFMV may be addressed to: FFMV Executive Board at P.O. Box
11222 San Bernardino, Ca. 92423-1222, e-mailed to mail4fffmv@yahoo.com or phoned to
909-798-4803. FFMV is a tax-exempt organization under the Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal
Revenue Service.
Our Organization depends largely upon private donations which will cover operational
expenses, Our Annual Family Christmas Memorial Luncheon, and Our Annual Victims
Rights Week Memorial. We are seeking a sponsor (s) for our events. Please contact
FFMV at the above e-mail or phone if you are interested.
Tax ID #68-0299211
All Contributions Are Tax Deductible

12. 2012 Participant /Photo Release Form for slide show & picture boards
Families & Friends of Murder Victims, INC (FFMV)
Circle one: New Participant ~ Update my information ~ Agency/Non Victim
Please Print
Date________________ Relationship to Victim_______________________
Victim’s First Name_________________________________________
Victim’s Last Name_________________________________________
Date of Birth _____________ Date of Death__________ Solved: Yes ( ) No ( )
Permission to use photo(s): Yes ( ) No ( ) Just add me to e-mail/mailing list to
receive monthly newsletter and event information
I grant to Families & Friends of Murder Victims, Inc. (FFMV), the right to use
photograph(s) of the above-identified subject. I authorize FFMV to use and
publish the same in print and/or electronically.
I agree that FFMV may use such photographs with or without his/her name and for
any lawful purpose, including for example such purposes as publicity, illustration,
advertising, and Web content.
I have read and understand the above.
Name of Agency/Non-Victim if applicable: ________________________________
Signature _________________________________________________________
Print Full Name _____________________________________________________
Address___________________________________________________________
City__________________________________ Zip Code____________________
Phone with area code ______________________________________
E-mail ____________________________________________________________
Mail or e-mail participant/release form to: mail4ffmv@yahoo.com
FFMV ~ P.O.Box 11222 San Bernardino, CA ~ 92423-1222
I have included a picture ( ) Yes ( ) No use the one on file
I have included a $_________ donation for 2012
Thank-you… if you have already sent your 2012 donation

13. Please help with this legislation, to either sponsor or co-sponsor this urgently needed bill.
Write to your congressperson and Senators Barbara Boxer and Dianne Feinstein
Congresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen as the Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee and Congressman
Howard Berman as the Ranking Member. Chief of Staff Margaret Mott (mail won't be stalled thru radiation there as it is in
DC)14546 Hamlin St. # 202 Van Nuys, California 91401 Phone (818) 994-7200 Fax: (818) 994-1050
Congresswoman Ileana Ros-Lehtinen, Chair of the House Foreign Relations Committee
2206 Rayburn House Office Building Washington, DC 20515-0918 to either sponsor or
Co-sponsor this urgently needed bill.
Thanks, Maxine B. Russell - Mother of Darren - russellbliss21@aol.com
On the web: www.russellcase.net (UPDATED)
On Twitter: @killed_in_china
In U.S. Federal Court: Case No. CV-09-06050