2. I need parents who love me fully. I need
parents who understand me fully. I need
parents who can adequately translate the
needs behind my cries…and my
coughs…and my silences.
3. I need parents who are open to learn all they can
learn from me. I need parents who recognize that
once they’ve brought me into the world they must
devote their lives to body, soul and me. I need
parents who realize that all their purposes in
existing must be performed in light of how it can
help me grow, help me mature, and help me thrive
4. I need parents who devoted their lives to the
betterment of themselves in mind, body, and spirit.
I need parents who entered the deepest and
darkest depths of themselves and resolved the
most painful traumas of their own past. I need
parents who no longer live awash in the wounds
foisted on them by their own parents. I need
parents who have become fully enlightened and
no longer store hidden parts of their ravaged
selves in their unconscious
5. I need parents who no longer wish for
their own parents to rescue them,
and secretly expect me, their future
offspring, to pick up the torch where
their own parents left off. I need
parents who can instead devote the
whole summation of their beings
toward the betterment of me
6. I need parents who have had me so that they
can give, and not take, from me. I need
parents who had children out of no other
motive than their desire to give back to the
earth. I need the kind of parents who realize
fully just how inherently selfish having children
is. I need the kind of parents who would
normally never have children...
7. I need parents who don’t lie to me – or to
themselves. I need parents who can be
straight with me. I need parents who can be
straight with each other, and have no hidden
agendas for me. I need parents who don’t use
me as a pawn in their relationship games with
others, and most especially each other
8. I need parents who can let me be who I am –
and not brag about me. I need parents who
do not see me as an extension of themselves,
and thus do not say “thank you” when
someone compliments my beauty. I need
parents who instead say, “Yes, you’re right,”
and don’t secretly feel self-gratified by my
wondrous self
9. I need parents who do not live in fear of their
own deaths. I need parents who live in the
moment, because they have integrated the
truths of their past.
I need parents who are youthful in spirit and
healthy in body, and who will not abandon me to
death before I am ready to stand on my own as
an autonomous adult
10. I need parents who raise me in a safe and
comfortable and enriching environment – not in
the midst of a civil war or a starvation-torn land
or a silent room with a television
11. I need parents who, if I were a boy or a girl,
wouldn’t dare circumcise my genital organs. I
need parents who devote themselves to my
health. I need parents who don’t drink alcohol or
take drugs or take unnecessary medications. I
need parents who are sober at all levels of their
being. I need parents who would never
physically hurt me, for any reason
12. I need parents who love children, and can easily
relate to them – and don’t instead force me to
relate to them. I need parents who let me grow at
my own pace, and let me be a kid when I need to
be a kid. I need parents who don’t expect adult
responsibility of me before I am an adult.
13. I need parents who marvel at the preciousness of
my existence and realize that I am the epitome of
unbounded spirit. I need parents who laugh
because they feel the joy in life. I need parents
who know how to have honest fun, and want to
include me in it
14. I need parents who have resolved their
addictions. I need parents who are not avoiding
the true light of day by being addicted to me. I
need parents who do not project their blocked
past onto me, but instead see me for exactly for
who I am. I need parents who do not expect me
to love them. I need parents who know the
difference between love and need. I need parents
who are experts on self-nurturing, and by
extension know how to nurture me
15. I need parents who are emotional adults through
and through – and I need two of these parents.
And I need these two parents to also love each
other. I need these two parents to be fully in
accord with their holy role as the warden of my
growth. I need two parents who are both willing to
go to all lengths to give their best for me. I need
two parents who are both willing to die for me
16. I need parents who can progressively let me go
as I progressively mature. I need parents who
can follow my lead and listen to my revisions of
the plan. I need parents who do not go into
withdrawal when we have a row with each other.
17. I need parents who let me get angry when
they make errors or do inappropriate things
with me – and I need parents who change
their behaviour so they stop making these
errors. I need parents who do not punish me
for my honest and healthy reactions, and
love me anyway
18. I need parents who understand the meaning of
healthy human sexuality. I need parents who will
in no way use me to meet their own unresolved
sexual or love needs. I need parents who will
shield me from as much of the hellish impurity of
the world as they are humanly able to do. I need
parents who are willing to sacrifice all their own
personal comforts to create a nourishing
environment for me
19. I need parents who take no credit when the
work is done. I need parents who will be my
role models
