A short presentation explaining what a friend is.

1. FRIEND OR
FOE?
Created for I M CONFIDENT NIAGARA CANADA
by Brenda Silveira

2. According to the dictionary, a
friend is someone you know fairly
well and someone you like, who
is not a family member.
WHAT IS A FRIEND?

3. • Fun and companionship
• Good for our health &
well-being
• Boosts esteem
• Helps build good
relationships
• Develops career skills
WHY DO WE NEED
FRIENDS?

4. • Developing trust & loyalty
• How to handle emotions
• How to communicate
• Becoming responsible
• Developing confidence
• Understanding others
• Making decisions
• Solving problems
• Developing identity
• How to have fun
WHAT CAN YOU LEARN
FROM FRIENDS?

5. • Build or destroy esteem
• Increase or decrease stress
• Calm or heighten emotions
• Build or ruin reputation
• Instill or destroy trust in people
• Strengthen or weaken
relationships
• Make us happy or sad
FRIENDS CAN...

6. • Complete trust in each other
• Enjoy spending time together
• Totally comfortable with them
• Can share secrets that are not repeated
• Can disagree without arguing
• Encourage each other
• Stick up for each other
• Always there even when hurt or sick
• Accept differences
WHAT MAKES A GOOD FRIEND?

7. • Can’t trust on them
• Don’t always feel comfortable with them
• Not always fun being with them
• They spread rumours or gossip about you
• Often fighting or disagreeing
• Don’t encourage you
• Don’t stick up for you
• Not there when you need them
• Often complaining or critical about you
WHAT MAKES A BAD FRIEND?

8. WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A
FRIEND?
Someone who is smiling OR Someone who is frowning
& friendly & unfriendly

9. WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A
FRIEND?
Someone who is thankful OR Someone who is critical and
complaining.

10. WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A
FRIEND?
Someone who shares OR Someone who doesn’t share

11. WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A
FRIEND?
Someone who is comfortable OR Someone who is more
with how they look interested in a mirror than you

12. WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A
FRIEND?
Someone who is nice OR Someone who is nasty and
shows kindness unkind

13. WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A
FRIEND?
Someone who is happy OR Someone who is unhappy
& fun to be around & makes you miserable

14. WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A
FRIEND?
Someone who accepts you OR Someone who points out
you as you are flaws and imperfections.

15. WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A
FRIEND?
Someone who keeps OR Someone who gossips
your secrets about you

16. • If you have good esteem you will likely
attract friends
• If you have poor esteem, you will likely
repel friends
• Go back over slides 8 through 15 and
determine if you are a good or bad friend
• Then take the necessary steps to
changing your behaviour
• YOU CAN BE A GOOD FRIEND IF YOU
WORK AT IT!
WHAT KIND OF FRIEND ARE
YOU?

17. • We all have the potential of being a
great friend because we all have great
abilities and skills.
• If we learn to love ourselves (not in a
vain or egotistical way), we will be able
to love other people and they will love
us back
• Need to build our confidence and
increase our esteem
• Need to change our perspective
IF YOU WANT FRIENDS, YOU
HAVE TO BE A FRIEND

18. • Even if you are confident and have
strong esteem, there will be people
who won’t like you.
• About 10% of the people in the world
will never like you even if you are the
most likeable person because of
personality conflicts and interests
• Always try to be the best person you
can be – JUST BE YOURSELF!!
FACT: EVERYONE WILL NOT
LIKE YOU

19. For more information on
building confidence and
self-esteem, or to
purchase a copy of my
Self-Esteem workbook,
visit my website at
www.imconfident.com
THANK-YOU FOR WATCHING
THIS PRESENTATION!