Children and women, college bound and overall as a gender are the most vulnerable members of our societies to sexual abuse. Here are some important guidelines that we should inculcate in our children to help protect them.

1. Protecting our
Children, youth
and women from
Sexual Abuse
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4. Sexual Violence Defined
• Sexual Harassment
• Any unwanted attention or advances regarding sexual
gratification, favors or other verbal or physical conduct of
a sexual nature
• Sexual Assault
• A spectrum of sexual violence including any sexual contact
or activity without consent
• Rape
• Any penetration (vaginal, anal, oral) with anything (penis,
fingers, objects) done without consent

5. Date Rape Sexual Assault
Sexual Harassment Voyeurism
Child Pornography
Exhibitionism
Rape
Child AbuseHate Crime
Incest
Internet Crime
Intimate Partner Violence
Stalking
Statutory Rape
Trafficking
Exploitation
Fact: Sexual
violence is a
complex,
multifaceted
problem.
Prostitution

6. Sexual Abuse
• Sexual abuse can involve many activities including:
• Fondling / touching / kissing of genitals or other area's of the
body.
• Penetration with penis, digit, or object.
• Exposing genitals or sexual material to a child.
• Talking to a child inappropriately, graphically, and explicitly
about sex.
• Asking a child to touch their own genitals or another persons.
• Non-forced sex with an underage child.

7. Get your head around this• Sexual abuse can occur anywhere, even
in the family, or community where the
victim falls prey to an abuser.
• 1 child every 10 seconds is abused
• More than Half of reported sexual
misconduct at worship centers is
perpetrated by volunteers, clergy
• 85-95% of child sexual abuse is male-
perpetrated
• 60% of rapes occur at home or at a
friend’s, relative’s, neighbor’s house

8. Unite to end violence
against women
“Violence against women and girls continues
unabated in every continent, country and
culture. It takes a devastating toll on women’s
lives, on their families, and on societies as a
whole. Most societies prohibit such violence –
yet the reality is too often, it is covered up or
tacitly condoned”
(UN SG-Ban Ki Moon, 8 March 2007).
http://www.un.org/en/women/endviolence

9. MYTHS
AND
REALITIES

10. MYTH 1
“Most sexual assaults
are committed by
strangers.”
ANDTHE REALITY………………
60% – 80% of all sexual assaults are committed by
someone the victim knows (i.e. a relative, friend,
neighbor, or acquaintance). 85% of reported child
sexual assaults are by someone known and trusted by
the child.The attacks occur most frequently in the
victim’s home or in the car.

11. MYTH 2
“Women “cry
rape” to get
back at men.”
.
ANDTHE REALITY………………
Less than 5% of reported sexual assaults
are false accusations.

12. MYTH 3
“Rape is a woman’s
problem.”
.
ANDTHE REALITY………………
Both men and women are victimized by rape
and sexual assault. Most people know someone
who has been raped or assaulted and these
victims are the wives, mothers, sisters, and
daughters of men.

13. MYTH 4
“Rape happens
outside in dark
alleys
.
ANDTHE REALITY………………
1 in 4 rapes happens in the victims home

14. MYTH 5
“Rape is caused by
the victim. If a
woman flirts or
wears sexy clothing,
she is “asking for it”.
ANDTHE REALITY………………
Rape is not an act of sexual passion; it is a violent
crime in which sex is the weapon. no one “asks for”
or enjoys a violent physical attack, which puts them at
risk of injury, disease, pregnancy, or death.

15. MYTH 5
“A rapist is
easy to spot ”.
AND THE REALITY………………
:A rapist could be your neighbor,
relative, friend, teacher, coach, co-
worker or stranger. They can be of
any race, color or socio-economic
status.

16. MYTH 6
“Sexual Assault
could never
happen to me.”.
ANDTHE REALITY………………
1 out of every 3 women and 1 out of
every 6 men will be a victim of some
type of sexual violence during their
lifetime

17. MYTH 7
“I am a Muslim,
Christian, Jew,…
it could never
happen to me”.
ANDTHE REALITY………………
We live in societies where not everyone
believes or conforms to religious edict.
Unfortunately, there will be people of your
faith who are immoral, unscrupulous, and
uncaring.

18. Believe them and show
empathy

19. CRIME IS UNPREDICTABLE!
• We do not guarantee that the advice and techniques we
present will work in all circumstances. WHY NOT?
• Attackers are unpredictable.
• The Crimes are initiated by the Attackers.
• Attackers shop for opportunity, plan their work, and, then
work their plan.
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20. Sexual Violence Prevention
Education
Awareness &
Role-playing
Prayer
BE PREPARED
BE ALERT
BE HOPEFUL

21. Things You Can Do To
Prevent Sexual Assault
Starting with…
• #1- Admit that it does happen in your
community
• #2- Understand that sexual violence affects
us all

22. Guiding your kids
• Encourage Your Kids To Talk To You About Their Day.
• Know Where Your Children Are And Who They Are With At All Times.
• Know your children's friends and their parents. Make sure they are
reliable before you allow your child to spend time at their house.
• If you don’t know parents it’s better to invite them to your home, at least
they are in a safer environment
• Make Sure There Is More Than One Chaperone For Groups Of Youth.
• Teach Children That The Danger May Come From Someone They Trust.
• Tell your kids, "Bad touch is bad touch and no one gets to do it to our
bodies.

23. Guiding your kids
• Show interest in their day-to-day lives.
• Get to know the people in your child’s life.
• Teach your child about boundaries.
• Teach your child how to talk about their bodies.
• Let them know they won’t get in trouble.
• Tell your child that no one should take pictures of their
private parts.

24. Guiding your kids
• . Teach your child how to get out of scary or uncomfortable
situations.
• . Teach your child body boundaries.
• . Teach them that some body parts are private.
• Teach your children about "bad" secrets
• “No one keeps a secret so well as a child” (Victor Hugo)

25. Play the "OK NO! game
• :
• Is it okay to say NO if your mom asks you tidy your room?
• Is it okay to say NO if your dad asks you to brush your teeth?
• Is it okay to say NO if your uncle asks you to sit on his lap and you don’t want to?
• Is it okay to say NO if your teacher touches your penis?
• Is it okay to say NO if an adult pats you on the head?
• Is it okay to say NO if an adult tickles your vagina, even if it feels nice?
• Is it okay to say NO if an adult asks you to do something you feel is wrong?
• Is it okay to say NO if an adult asks you to keep a secret from your parents?
• Is it okay to say NO if an adult tells you to put your seatbelt on?
• Is it okay to say NO if your sister asks you to touch her vagina?
• Is it okay to say NO if your teacher asks you to pull down your pants to smack you if you've
been bad.

26. Good Touch, Bad Touch
• Talk to them about "What is GOOD touch?".
• Good touch is touch that feels safe -
• Talk to them about "What is BAD touch?"
• Bad touch is touch which hurts their body of feelings. For
example, if someone kicks you or pushes you.

27. Unwanted Touch
• Talk to them about "What is UNWANTED touch?"
• Unwanted touch may be touch which would usually be
good touch, but something which you do not want right
now. For example, being swung in the air may usually be
fun, but after a big meal, they might not want it.

28. 18 months–3 years
• Teach your child which body parts are private.
• Know the adults and children that spend time with your
child.

29. 3–5 years
• Teach your child about private parts of the body.
• Ask for advice.
• Give simple answers.
• Role play

30. Talk to your child about
genital names

31. 5–8 years
• Teach your child to respect the private parts of others.
• Talk about whom your child can tell if someone makes
him feel uncomfortable.
• Listen when your child tries to tell you something.
• Role play

32. 8–12 years
• Stress personal safety.
• Talk about peer pressure.
• Teach your child about sexual abuse.
• Always know what your child is viewing and sharing on
the Internet.

33. 12–18 years
• Set aside time each week to talk about
• Types of sexual violence
• Preventing sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy
• Effects of drugs and alcohol on sexual behavior
• Respect for others and by others

34. Public RestRooms
• If possible take your child inside the restroom and assist
them based on their age
• If eg you are the father and it is your daughter who needs
to go, ask another woman to take your child
• If you cannot go inside the restroom as it is for the
opposite gender just scan the place to make sure no one is
there.

35. For College Bound Kids 18+
This is Not a Women’s Issue, But A Human Issue!
It’s Important to Get Men Involved in Being a Part of the Solution….
If you SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING!
Stopping Sexual Assault is Everyone’s Business!

36. Two by Two
There is safety in
numbers. If you cannot
be with your daughter,
son let them be with
another. Conversely no
Child or woman should
be alone with a single
adult.

37. Line of Sight
• Stay visible to others.
• Keep the door open.
• Stay in an area where
others can see you

38. PREPARED
• Prepare yourself mentally.
• Mentally, visualize yourself being attacked, and what you
will do to survive.
• Think how your will response.
• Focus on taking action—and surviving.
• Turn your fear into survivor power.
• How did I get in this situation..and how do I get out.
• Make good personal choices, never compromise your
safety.
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39. SIX OUTS
1. Figure Out
2. Get Out
3. Call Out
4. Hide Out
5. Keep Out
6. Take Out

40. PERSONAL SAFETY
• Common Sense Personal Safety Techniques
• Safety Tips While Driving
• Parking Lot Safety Techniques
• Sexual Assault Prevention Techniques
• Home Safety Techniques

41. HOW TO PREVENT FROM
BECOMING A VICTIM
• Be aware of what is going on around you
• If it looks like a duck
• Walks like a duck
• Quacks like a duck
• What is it?????????????
• A DUCK!!!!!!
• DO NOT DISMISS YOUR “GUT FEELING”

42. HOW TO PREVENT FROM
BECOMING A VICTIM
• Avoid going out alone (a lion attacks the weak, young or
sick) so do the two-legged predators
• If you MUST go out alone – stay insight or yelling
distance of people
• Walk away from bushes and parked cars with people
inside them or vans, trucks which have their windows
blocked.

43. MUST WALK ALONE
• Use busy (people or cars) streets – do not take so called
short cuts
• Walk in center of sidewalk
• Stranger wants to talk……….
1. “I’m meeting someone”
2. Keep on walking

44. DON’T LOOK LIKE A VICTIM
• Eyes down – no eye contact
• Slumped over
• Non-assertive body language

45. Trust yourSIXTH SENSE
• Listen to your gut, and trust it. It’s never wrong!
• If something does not feel right, it’s not right.
• Immediately take actions to get away.
• Don’t feel bad about staying safe. Utilize safety services.
• You have been blessed with the secret power. of Intuition.
Use it !
• Use your power of perception.

46. HOW TO PREVENT FROM
BECOMING A VICTIM
• If approached
1. Follow your instincts – gut feeling
2. Remember the DUCK!!!!
3. Look at person – not taken by surprise
4. Change walking/driving direction
5. Go into store/public place – call police

47. HOW TO PREVENT FROM
BECOMING A VICTIM
• If subject has a gun
1. Give up your money, wallet, jewelry, shoes, whatever
2. Try to remember what the subject looked like
3. Try to remember the manner and direction of escape

48. HOW TO PREVENT FROM
BECOMING A VICTIM
• ELEVATORS
1. Take elevator rather than stairs
2. If possible, do not ride alone with stranger
3. If you’re uncomfortable with a stranger, get off
4. Stand near control panel – alarm button

49. WHILE DRIVING
• Always lock car doors
• Cell phone or keep coins for emergency calls
• If followed – DO NOT drive home
1. Police station, Fire station, 24 hour store
• If car breaks down
1. Accept NO rides
2. If someone stops to “help” ask them to call police (if you
have no cell phone)
3. Not usually a good idea to leave car and walk to get help

50. WHILE DRIVING
• If you see someone experiencing car trouble
1. DO NOT STOP
2. Note their location & vehicle type – call police
• DO NOT pick up hitchhikers
• Keep your vehicle in good mechanical condition
• Never go below ½ tank of gasoline
• Accidents:
1. If someone hits your car – remember the “DUCK”
• If “police” in unmarked car wants you to pull over:
• 1. Follow your instincts – remember the “DUCK”
2. Drive to safe place to stop:
a. Police, fire station
b. 24 hour convenience store

51. PARKING LOT SAFETY
• Note where you parked your car
1. Walking around trying to find car – you look like a
VICTIM
2. Have keys in your hand
3. Walk to car in a group – “lion”
4. Glance under car as you approach
5. Look in back seat before getting into car

52. PARKING LOT SAFETY
• As soon as you get into car – DRIVE away
• Always lock car doors
• Observe what is around you:
1. Who’s watching you
2. People sitting in cars or vans
3. REMEMBER THE “DUCK”
• If approached: (statistically, if taken from area your chances of survival are
diminished)
1. Follow your instincts – remember the “DUCK”
2. Take action
3. If in your car – honk horn
4. If walking – run in opposite direction
5. Do anything to draw attention – you do not want to be taken from the scene

53. SEXUAL ASSAULT
PREVENTION
• Passive Resistance: Pretend you’re
1. Sick
2. Pregnant
3. AIDS/STD
4. Pretend to faint
5. Pretend to be mentally ill
6. At home – husband, brother, etc. will be back soon

54. SEXUAL ASSAULT PREVENTION
• ACQUAITANCE RAPE
1. Know the person you’re going out with or a TRUSTED
friend recommends the person, go out in a group for first date
2. Meet in public place
3. Arrange your own transportation
4. Make your limits CLEAR – no means NO!!!!!!!
5. Tell someone where you’re going and who you’re meeting
7. Don’t leave your drink alone
8. Don’t drink anything you didn’t get or opened yourself

55. What can you do as a community
member to prevent sexual violence?
• “Whoso- ever of you sees an evil, let him change it with
his hand; and if he is not able to do so, then [let him
change it] with his tongue; and if he is not able to do so,
then with his heart — and that is the weakest of faith.”
Prophet Muhammad

56. CONCLUSION
• No perfect defense system
• Must put odds in your favor
• Avoid “bad” situations, and look to see who’s watching you
• Have a plan
1. If this should happen, I will do…….
• “Failing to plan … is a plan to fail
• We don’t want you or your child to live in a world of fear.
Almost everything we discussed is common sense, take the
best precautions and then pray for protection from God.