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How to Energize the
Lion in Your Mirror
Becker Morgan Group Inc.
April 1, 2017
Joe Tye, CEO and Head Coach
Values Coach Inc.
Copyright © 2016, Values Coach Inc.

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Your first
product is a
better you.

3.
“Being in business is
not about making
money. It’s a way to
become who you are.”
Paul Hawken: Growing a Business

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Set a goal so big that
you can’t achieve it
until you grow into
the person who can

5.
You will never exceed the
expectations that you set
for yourself.

6.
You will never exceed the
limitations that you place
on yourself.

7.
Success and failure won’t
change you...
They will make you more
of who you already are.

8.
Disempowering source #1
Low self-esteem

9.
Low self-esteem is one of the
most potent weapons YOWE has
to prevent you from thinking big
and acting on your dreams

10.
Everyone
experiences
this at least
some of the
time –
Even big shot CEOs
at big companies
(except at that level
it’s called Imposter
Syndrome)

11.
Low self-esteem is
often an excuse
for not trying

12.
Low self-esteem
can keep you glued
to TV…

13.
When your best self
would be taking night
school classes

14.
Disempowering source #2
Self-limiting beliefs

15.
Self-limiting
beliefs are the
impediments
you place upon
yourself

16.
Broke
The Terrible Too’s

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Or whatever other excuse fits
No one would support me
I don’t have the skills
I don’t have time
The Big But’s

18.
You must
believe you are
capable of
achieving your
authentic goals
and >>>>>>>>

19.
That you deserve
to enjoy the fruits
of your success

20.
“Argue for your limitations
and, sure enough, they are
yours.”
Richard Bach: Illusions

21.
Disempowering source #3
The negativity
of others

22.
Never allow the
emotional vampires to
drag you down

23.
At all costs avoid the
company of negative
people

24.
How to see the Lion
in Your Mirror –
7 Strategies

25.
Strategy #1
Get very clear
about your
personal values

26.
What are
your values?

27.
The goals you achieve
The contribution you make
The person you become

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Will be determined
by the values that
guide your life

29.
Strategy #2
Make fear
your ally

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Fear is the most
serious of all learning
disabilities!
Edward Hallowell: Worry

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The absence of fear is
not courage!

32.
The absence of fear is…

33.
No Fear,
No Courage…

34.
Big Fear,
Big Courage…

35.
Anxiety
Fear
Worry

36.
Anxiety

37.
Three bad things happen
when you in the thrall of
anxiety…

38.
Bad Thing #1
Memory is distorted: past
successes seem small and
insignificant while past
failures seem huge and
certain to be repeated.

39.
Bad Thing #2
Perception is distorted: the
dangers facing you are
blown out of proportion
while you underestimate
the resources you have.

40.
Bad Thing #3
Vision is distorted: you
cannot see the possibilities
for a great outcome
because you are so fixated
on images of doom.

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Anxiety tries to
become fear.
Paul Tillich: The Courage to Be

42.
Fear

43.
Fear can paralyze or it
can catalyze

44.
You’ve heard that the
acronym F.E.A.R. stands
for Fantasized Evidence
Appearing Real.
It also stands for…

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Fabulous Excuse
for Avoiding
Responsibility

46.
Are people
afraid of
change?

47.
Confront your
irrational fears

48.
Worry

49.
Worry is like paying
interest on a debt
that you probably
don’t even owe!

50.
Toxic worry is abuse
of the God-given gift
of imagination!

51.
Strategy #3
Make adversity
your teacher

52.
Every great accomplishment
was once the “impossible
dream” of a dreamer who
simply refused to quit when
things got tough.

53.
“It’s not what happens to you it’s
what you do about it.”
W Mitchell

54.
Everything can look like a failure
in the middle!

55.
“Brick walls are not
there to stop you, they
are there to make you
prove how much you
want something.”
Randy Pausch: The Last Lecture

56.
The walls are
not optional

57.
Letting them
stop you is

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How much
do you
want it?

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Strategy #4
Erase the malignant
echo of negative
self-talk

60.
Negative self-talk is
telling yourself lies…
And then believing
those lies to be true.

61.
The most important
speech any of us
ever give (the one
you were never
trained to give) is...

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What is the first word a
child learns to say?

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For a variety of evolutionary
reasons, the human mind
automatically gravitates
toward negative, frightening
and depressing thoughts.
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: The Evolving Self: A
Psychology for the New Millennium

64.
Experts refer to ANTs –
automatic negative thoughts

65.
Psychologists say that up to
80% of self-talk is negative –
and that we can abuse
ourselves at a speed of 400
words per minute!

66.
You would never tolerate
anyone else speaking to you
the way you allow your
spoiled inner brat to get
away with.

67.
Like graffiti on a subway car –
after a while you don’t notice it

68.
You might even think it’s beautiful

69.
But…

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The Inner Child is
shadowed by an
Inner Spoiled Brat

71.
The split personality of
your Inner Spoiled Brat

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If only we won
the lottery!

73.
You don’t deserve
to win the lottery!

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A crucial point!
That voice will
always be in the
second person. It’s
not you talking!!!

75.
“I’m not good enough”

76.
You’re not
good enough

77.
Why is
that?

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Three steps for using the
power of Metaphorical
Visualization™ to erase the
graffiti of negative self-talk:

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Step #1
Visualize the words as
clearly as you possibly can
as graffiti that has been
scrawled on the walls of
your mental attic.

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Step #2
Visualize a janitor (The
Janitor in Your Attic™)
painting over the graffiti
and replacing it with
positive affirmations.

81.
Step #3
Replace the bad lies you
tell yourself about yourself
with good lies about
yourself…

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You can rewire the hardware by
reprogramming the software!

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Caveat!
For your challenge to your
Spoiled Inner Brat to be
credible you must also
take action if what Brat
says is factually accurate.

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Strategy #5
Make your body
play a constructive
part in that inner
dialogue…

85.
Your body tells your
mind how you feel…

86.
Power Posing

87.
How your mouth
tells your mind
what to think…

88.
Smile from the outside in and
you’ll eventually be smiling
from the inside out.

89.
Strategy #6
Create memories
of the future

90.
Then put foundations
under them.
Build your castles
in the air…

91.
You can remember
the future more
clearly and more
accurately…
Than you can
remember the
past.

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The difference
between wishful
thinking and
positive thinking…

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Wishful thinking is
hoping for something and
waiting for someone else
to make it happen.

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Positive thinking is
expecting something and
working to make it
happen.

95.
Do you read your
horoscope?

96.
Joe’s Youroscope
Surprising good news will
come to you from out of
the blue – but it will be
disguised as an unpleasant
chore so pay attention…

97.
Joe’s Youroscope (contd.)
What will at first seem like
an incidental conversation
with a stranger will evolve
into a wonderful client
relationship and personal
friendship

98.
Joe’s Youroscope (contd.)
A worry that has been
keeping you awake at night
will prove to have been
interest on a debt that you
do not owe…

99.
Joe’s Youroscope (contd.)
Call a friend, call a
prospect, and call
your Mom.

100.
Strategy #7
Take to heart the
seven promises of
The Self-Empowerment
Pledge

101.
Seven Simple Promises
That Will Change Your Life*
* One for each day of the week.

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If you’ve been waiting
for someone else to
empower you, you
should know that…

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No one can empower you
but – YOU – and once you
have empowered yourself…
No one can
take that
power away.

104.
If you knew it would
change your life for the
better – profoundly and
permanently – would you
invest …

105.
A minute a day for
the next 365 days

106.
Would you give up one
television commercial
a day for a year to
change your life?

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If your answer
is yes, here’s
what you need
to do.

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Every morning start
your day by making that
day’s promise – which
will take you about
15 seconds.

109.
Repeat the promise
again in in the middle
of your work day.

110.
Once more before you
leave for home.

111.
And one more time right
before you go to bed.

112.
4 x 15 seconds
= 1 minute

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Let’s take a look
at the seven
promises…

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Monday’s Promise: Responsibility
I will take complete responsibility for my
health, my happiness, my success, and my
life, and will not blame others for my
problems or predicaments.

115.
Tuesday’s Promise: Accountability
I will not allow low self-esteem,
self-limiting beliefs, or the negativity
of others to prevent me from achieving
my authentic goals and from becoming
the person I am meant to be.

116.
Wednesday’s Promise:
Determination
I will do the things I’m
afraid to do, but which
I know should be done.
Sometimes this will
mean asking for help
to do that which I
cannot do by myself.

117.
Thursday’s Promise: Contribution
I will earn the help I need in advance
by helping other people now, and repay
the help I receive by serving others
later.

118.
Friday’s Promise: Resilience
I will face rejection and failure
with courage, awareness,
and perseverance,
making these experiences
the platform for future
acceptance and success.

119.
Saturday’s Promise: Perspective
Though I might not understand
why adversity happens, by my
conscious choice I will find
strength, compassion, and
grace through my trials.

120.
Sunday’s Promise: Faith
My faith and my gratitude for all
that I have been blessed with will
shine through in my attitudes
and in my actions.

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Here’s WHY
it works…

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You keep promising yourself that you
will be responsible, accountable, and
determined; make a contribution, be
resilient in the face of adversity, have a
positive perspective,
and that your faith
will shine through.

123.
Then you catch yourself whining and
complaining, procrastinating,
gossiping, blaming others for your
problems, taking when you should be
giving, and pretending
that you have no power.

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Cognitive Dissonance

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Which is trying to simultaneously
hold two incompatible beliefs

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At that point, one of two
things MUST happen.
Either you take the easy
way and stop making
the promises…

127.
Or you keep making the
promises until you begin
to change your attitudes
and your
behaviors.

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And as you do that, you
will begin to achieve better
results in every dimension
of your life.

129.
Read these seven promises
one more time…

130.
Ask yourself these
two questions…

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Question #1:
If you personally were to take
these seven promises to heart,
would you be better off than
where you are headed now –
personally, professionally,
financially, and spiritually?

132.
Question #2:
If everyone where you work made
a good faith effort to live these
seven promises, would you do a
better job of serving customers
and of supporting each other?

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If your answer to these
two questions is…
And if you’re
being honest,
that’s what your
answer will be.

134.
Then why wouldn’t you
invest those 365 minutes
in yourself? Do it,
because no one can
empower you
but you.

135.
Will you
give up one
minute a
day with…

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And one last thing…
Let me introduce you
to the person you
once were

137.
Wouldn’t it be
nice to become
that you again?