1. MODULE 3
DEALING WITH PEER
PRESSURE
Daniel on facing pressure of having to eat
unclean food:
“But dDaniel resolved not to defile himself with
the royal food and wine, and he asked the chief official for
permission not to defile himself this
way. Now God has caused the official to show
favour and sympathy to Daniel.”
Daniel 1:8-9

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MODULE 3: DEALING WITH PEER PRESSURE
“But dDaniel resolved not to defile himself with the royal
food
and wine, and he asked the chief official for permission
not to defile himself this way. Now God has caused
the
official to show favour and
sympathy to dDaniel.”
DANIEL 1:8-9
Objectives
 You will discover what peer pressure is and understand learn how to deal with it.
 You will understand that the way to cope with peer pressure is by understanding
who you are.
 You will also discover that prioritizing the choices in your life is what helps you to
manage your time more effectively.
Learning Outcomes
At the end of the session Boysyou will:
1. Be able to explain and identify what is peer pressure is.
2. Be able to look at different areas in their your lives and prioritise their your lives
accordingly.
3. Be able to develop an action plan for success by setting up a time management
plan.
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PEER PRESSURE
Picture yourself when you are having fun with your friends. How do you like the
image?
How does it feel to being rejected by your friends? How Can you eExplain in your
own words what the following quote means to you?:
“You must begin to trust yourself. If you do not, then
you will forever be looking to others to prove your
own merit to you and you will never be satisfied.
You will always be asking others what to do,
and at the same time resenting those from
whom you seek such aid.”
Jane Roberts
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When you looked to others for approval, do you still believe in yourself, or do you go
along with them to reduce the chances of rejection?
Write down what you think about looking to others for approval.
Write down what you do to reduce the chances of rejection.
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Understanding Yyourself
is the Kkey to Ddealing with Peer Pressure
Discuss : Is there anything in life, given the resources and time, that you would
continue to do regardless of the resistance you face from friends, family
and community?
Working with a partner :
Think about the following questions for a minute before you answer ithem.
What is the most important thing in your life now?
Do you always follow your friends in everything they do? Why?
Think of a situation when you doidn’t follow your friends in what they did. Explain.
List three reasons why you did not follow them.
Do you often seek others’ approval for what you do?
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Do you think of others’ opinions as more important than your own? Why or why not?
Do you really need others to make you feel good about yourself?
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Don’t follow the pack;
Manage your time well
Know Yyourself.
More often than usual, do you
1) play first and study
2) study first and then play
3) play first and forget to study after that.
Your answer is :
What is your current priority in life?
Understanding the current priorities in your life.
Can you lList your current priorities:
- in school
-in your family
-in your BB community
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Look aAt Yyour Ttime Mmanagement.
What I did yesterday morning
What I did yesterday afternoon
What I did last night
What did you do yesterday which you think is most important?
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Note:
 Do what you believe is right in any challenging situation.
 Listen to what your heart and head say and act upon it.
 Trust your decision, so that you wouldill not look back in regret.
 Ask yourself Wwhat can you can learn from thean experience?.
 Empower yourself by understanding that “Failure is the mother of all success”
 Ask yourself Hhow can Iyou can prevent myourself from making the same
mistakes?.
 Strive for excellence but do not be a perfectionist.
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Time Management
A weekly schedule is appended below. Can you fFill in those time slots for which you will
have activities which you have to do (for e.g.xample, sleep, go to school, etc). Use the
remaining time slots to plan your priorities.
Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday
6.00 to 6.30
6.30 to 7.00
7.00 to 7.30
7.300 to 8.00
8.00 to 8.30
8.30 to 9.00
9.00 to 9.30
9.30 to 10.00
10.00 to 10.30
10.30 to 11.00
11.00 to 11.30
11.30 to 12.00
12.00 to 12.30
12.30 to 1.00
1.00 to 1.30
1.30 to 2.00
2.00 to 2.30
2.30 to 3.00
3.00 to 3.30
3.30 to 4.00
4.00 to 4.30
4.30 to 5.00
5.00 to 5.30
5.30 to 6.00
6.00 to 6.30
6.30 to 7.00
7.00 to 7.30
7.30 to 8.00
8.00 to 8.30
8.30 to 9.00
9.00 to 9.30
9.30 to 10.00
10.00 to 10.30
10.30 to 11.00
11.00 to 11.30
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Learning Opportunities at BB:
Choose one of the following two case studies and answer the
questions that follow.
Case Study 1
Harry cherishes his relationship with his new friends in BB. He is amazed at how the
BB brings together Boys of different interests and character. At the same time, he
realises that he also has friends who are not in BB and that he needs to keep in contact
with them.
On one occasion after school, he was offered a cigarette by Chee Seng, whom he has
known since primary school. While he managed to turn him down, Chee Seng and the
rest started calling him “gutless” and they made fun of his participation in BB. They
said that “real men” do the things they did.
Identify the sources of the peer pressure in this situation. What do you think are the
outcomes of such peer pressure? How can you avoid negative outcomes?
Imagine you are in the situation described in the case.
What better way How will you use to manage this “peer pressure” better?
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Case Study 2
BB is so fun! Suddenly, Jason has so many friends and new responsibilities. It is
unlike primary school, when he was always with a close-knit group of friends with
similar hobbies. Now after school, he hangs out with his squad members. One of
them, Charles;, has many great consoles and PC games at home. Many of his squad
members enjoy these games and Jason has decided to join them for an hour each day
after school.
However, Jason discovers that one hour is simply not enough. As timedays goes by,
more and more of the his time is spent on games and going to shops which sell these
games. While Jason becomes very much closer to his friends, his schoolwork
deteriorates. However, while he is concerned about his school works but he dismisses
his fear and worries. He comforts himself that his friends do not indulge in petty theft
or do anything whilech breaks the law.
Identify the sources of the peer pressure in this situation. What do you think are the
outcomes of such peer pressure? How can you avoid negative outcomes?
Imagine you are in the situation described in the case.
How What better way will you use to manage this “peer pressure” better?
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