2. Questions To Be Answered
✤ If you have 2 options to present to a buyer, which should you present first, the more
costly or less costly?
✤ Is it better to tell prospects what they stand to gain by moving in your direction, or what
they stand to lose if they don’t
✤ If you have a new piece of information when should you mention that it’s new to your
audience? before or after you present this information to your audience?
✤ If you have a product, service or idea that has both strengths and weaknesses, when
should you present the weaknesses, early or late?
✤ After someone has praised you or your organization, what is the most effective thing
you can do immediately after you have said thank you
✤ To arrange for someone to like and cooperate with you, what is the single most
productive thing you can do before you try to influence them
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3. Constantly bombarded by
attempts to influence us…
• Newspapers • Politics and Lobbying
• Magazines • Public relations
• Television • Social action campaigns
• Internet • Law/courtroom
• Radio • Friends and peers
• Outdoor signs • Spouse
Pseudoscience of all types that tries to persuade you to spend
money… such as homeopathy, water divining, magnet therapy,
etc.
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4. Are we aware of the influence?
✤ Are we aware when others are trying to influence us?
✤ Are we aware of how we try to influence others?
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5. The story of Robert Cialdini
✤ Psychology Professor at Arizona State
✤ Left campus for a three-year project going
undercover to explore first-hand real-world influence
techniques
✤ Wrote a couple of famous books
✤ Influence: the Psychology of Persuasion
✤ Yes! 50 Scientifically Proven Ways to Be Persuasive
✤ Speaker/consultant
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6. Reciprocation
✤ We want to repay, in kind, what another person has provided us
✤ One of the most potent weapons of influence and compliance
✤ All societies subscribe to this norm
✤ Size or value of gift does not correlate with the potential to influence “Will you donate $100”?
✤ Small gifts have significant impact beyond their value NO
✤ Examples… “Oh, how about $5”?
✤ Free estimates YES
✤ Give a flower then ask for a donation
✤ Send prospect pre-printed return address labels with solicitation letter
✤ Small gifts and comped meals
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8. The Principle of Reciprocation
✤ 1985 Ethiopian famine: $5,000
donation was sent by the Red Cross
between Mexico and famine-stricken
Ethiopia …
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9. The Principle of Reciprocation
✤ 1985 Ethiopian famine: $5,000
donation was sent by the Red Cross
between Mexico and famine-stricken
Ethiopia …
✤ … that is, FROM Ethiopia TO Mexico
(for the earthquake victims there).
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10. The Principle of Reciprocation
✤ 1985 Ethiopian famine: $5,000
donation was sent by the Red Cross
between Mexico and famine-stricken
Ethiopia …
✤ … that is, FROM Ethiopia TO Mexico
(for the earthquake victims there).
✤ Why? Mexico sent aid to Ethiopia in
1935, when it was invaded by Italy.
(Note: 70% of Ethiopian evangelical
Christians are said to tithe [10% of
income to church].)
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13. The Evidence
✤ Example #1: Dennis Regan, Cornell
✤ Subject is asked to rate quality of paintings along
with a confederate (“Joe”).
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14. The Evidence
✤ Example #1: Dennis Regan, Cornell
✤ Subject is asked to rate quality of paintings along
with a confederate (“Joe”).
✤ Case 1: Joe brings the subject a (10 cent) Coke when
he comes back from a break. (“I brought one for
you, too.”)
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15. The Evidence
✤ Example #1: Dennis Regan, Cornell
✤ Subject is asked to rate quality of paintings along
with a confederate (“Joe”).
✤ Case 1: Joe brings the subject a (10 cent) Coke when
he comes back from a break. (“I brought one for
you, too.”)
✤ Case 2: Just comes back.
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16. The Evidence
✤ Example #1: Dennis Regan, Cornell
✤ Subject is asked to rate quality of paintings along
with a confederate (“Joe”).
✤ Case 1: Joe brings the subject a (10 cent) Coke when
he comes back from a break. (“I brought one for
you, too.”)
✤ Case 2: Just comes back.
✤ Joe asks the subject to buy raffle tickets. If he sells
the most, he gets a prize. 25 cents each. “Any
would help, the more the better.” 8
19. The Evidence / Examples
Results:
✤ Subjects in Case 1 (receive gift) buy twice as many tickets
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20. The Evidence / Examples
Results:
✤ Subjects in Case 1 (receive gift) buy twice as many tickets
✤ Subjects who liked Joe better (initially) bought more
tickets. BUT giving the Coke totally wiped out the
relationship between liking Joe and buying tickets.
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21. The Evidence / Examples
Results:
✤ Subjects in Case 1 (receive gift) buy twice as many tickets
✤ Subjects who liked Joe better (initially) bought more
tickets. BUT giving the Coke totally wiped out the
relationship between liking Joe and buying tickets.
✤ The rule for reciprocity overwhelmed the influence of the
other factor – liking the requester.
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22. The Evidence / Examples
Results:
✤ Subjects in Case 1 (receive gift) buy twice as many tickets
✤ Subjects who liked Joe better (initially) bought more
tickets. BUT giving the Coke totally wiped out the
relationship between liking Joe and buying tickets.
✤ The rule for reciprocity overwhelmed the influence of the
other factor – liking the requester.
✤ Hare Krishna Society’s “donation-request” tactic
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23. Reciprocity Techniques
✤ Technique 1: If someone makes a concession, we are obligated to respond with a concession
✤ A large, unreasonable request is made which most probably will be refused
✤ Follow 1st request with 2nd request of a smaller favor (a planned compromise)
✤ 2nd request appears more reasonable and usually results in reciprocation
✤ Consumer examples
✤ Commonly used tactic in negotiating contracts
✤ Add-ons to new car after closing deal
✤ Making a concession gives the other party a feeling of responsibility for the outcome and greater
satisfaction with resolution
✤ Technique 2: Rejection then retreat: exaggerated request rejected, desired lesser request acceded to
✤ Technique 3: Contrast principle: sell the costly item first; present undesirable option first
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24. Social Proof
✤ One means we use to determine what is correct is to find out what other people think is correct
✤ Looking to others, particularly role models, is a useful shortcut to determine how to behave
✤ The greater number of people who find an idea correct, the more the idea will be correct.
✤ Pluralistic Ignorance: each person decides that since nobody is concerned, nothing is wrong
✤ Similarity: social proof operates most powerfully when we observe people just like us
✤ Examples…
✤ Product is “largest selling” or “fastest growing”
✤ Advertisements using targeted demographics
✤ Testimonials
✤ Laugh tracks and applause
✤ Mob behavior, inaction toward crime or emergency
✤ Jonestown
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26. Social Proof: The Evidence
✤ Study: Researchers publicize that people in New Haven, CT, are
considered charitable people. Two weeks later: Researcher calls
housewives and asks for donations. Result?
✤ Donations increase.
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27. Social Proof: The Evidence
✤ Study: Researchers publicize that people in New Haven, CT, are
considered charitable people. Two weeks later: Researcher calls
housewives and asks for donations. Result?
✤ Donations increase.
✤ When it works best:
✤ People are most likely to “follow the leader (or the group)” when
the situation is unclear or ambiguous.
✤ We are most likely to look to people who are “just like us” when
looking for people to emulate.
✤ Exception: Will follow “authorities” even when they are not like us
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28. Commitment/Consistency
✤ People have a desire to look consistent through their words, beliefs, and deeds
✤ Our nearly obsessive desire to be (and to appear) consistent with what we have already
done
✤ Consistency is usually associated with strength, inconsistency as weak; we want to look
virtuous
✤ Examples…
✤ “Please call” vs “Will you please call?”
✤ Foot-in-the-door (small initial request)
“3inch sign”?
✤ Lowballing (you agree to initial offer)
YES
✤ Bait-and-Switch (lower quality replacement)
“Large poorly written sign” “Large poorly written sign”
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29. Consistency Techniques
✤ Technique 1: Have customers not salespeople fill out sale agreements
✤ Technique 2: Elicit a commitment, then expect consistency
✤ Technique 3: Public, active, effortful commitments tend to be lasting
commitments
✤ Technique 3: Get a large favor by first getting a small one (small commitments
manipulate a person’s self-image and position them for large commitment)
✤ Outcome
✤ Commitments people own, take inner responsibility for, are profound
✤ Commitments lead to inner change and grow their own legs
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30. Authority
✤ We have a deep-seated sense of duty to authority
✤ Strong pressure within our society for compliance when requested by an authority figure
✤ Experience, expertise, or scientific credentials helps sell
✤ Tests demonstrate that adults will do extreme things when instructed to do so by an authority figure
✤ 1955 Research: a man could increase by 350% the number of pedestrians who would follow him across the
street against the light by simply donning a suit and tie
✤ Examples…
✤ Titles
✤ Uniforms
✤ Clothes
✤ Trappings of status
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31. Liking
✤
Also known as “attractiveness”, “rapport”, or “affection”
✤
People prefer to say yes to individuals they know and like
✤
Liking has been associated with physical attractiveness, similarity, and praise
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Examples…
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Connections
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Targeted advertising
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Peer solicitation
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Good cop / Bad cop
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Tupperware parties
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Celebrity endorsements
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32. Scarcity
✤ Opportunities seem more valuable to us when their availability is limited
✤ We want it even more when we are in competition for it
✤ Scarcity affects value not only of commodities but of information as well
✤ E.g.:
✤ Examples…
✤ final $4.4 million in matching funds disappeared in one week
✤ “Limited time offer”
✤ “We are running out of the item”
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33. Social Psychology
1. Reciprocity: we want to repay, in kind, what another person has provided us
• The free dinner and booze
2. Consistency: desire to be (and to appear) consistent with what we have already done
• Will you try our product?
3. Social proof: to determine what is correct find out what other people think is correct
• Stacking the meeting with like-minded souls
4. Authority: deep-seated sense of duty to authority
• The speaker who is being paid to sell a product or concept (back to reciprocation)
5. Likeability: we say yes to someone we like
• Extroverted reps and peer camaraderie
6. Scarcity: limitation enhances desirability
• The pitch during the presentation
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34. Questions - Answers
✤ If you have 2 Options to present to a client, which should you present first, the more costly or less costly?
✤ Answer: The more costly followed by the less costly if they decline
✤ Is it better to tell prospects what they stand to gain by moving in your direction, or what they stand to lose if they don’t
✤ Answer: What they stand to lose, people are far more motivated by loss
✤ If you have a new piece of information when should you mention that it’s new to your audience? before or after you present this
information to your audience?
✤ Answer: Before, Information is more valuable when new or comes from a reliable resource
✤ If you have a product, service or idea that has both strengths and weaknesses, when should you present the weaknesses, early or late?
✤ Answer: Early, the strengths of the product will outweigh it’s weaknesses. Arguing against your self-interest creates a perception
that you/your company are honest and trustworthy. This puts you in a more persuasive position when promoting genuine
strengths.
✤ After someone has praised you or your organization, what is the most effective thing you can do immediately after you have said
thank you?
✤ Answer: Invite them to return the favor if ever required
✤ To arrange for someone to like and cooperate with you, what is the single most productive thing you can do before you try to influence
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✤ Answer: Do something for them 19
35. Next Steps
✤ These are just a couple of possibilities:
✤ Set up web based Sales Knowledge Wiki for sharing idea,
methodologies, etc.
✤ Share specific sales challenges and ways to apply Influence
techniques to them
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Vartan Bhanji custom in Pakistan: ON the occasion of marriage, departing guests are given sweets. In weighing them out, the hostess may say, “These five are yours” (meaning what you formerly gave me) and then adds an extra measure saying, “These are mine.” On the next occasion, she will receive these back with an additional measure which she later returns and so on. “Men ale, men vini fe zanmitay dire.” -- Hands going, Hands coming make friendships last. \n
Vartan Bhanji custom in Pakistan: ON the occasion of marriage, departing guests are given sweets. In weighing them out, the hostess may say, “These five are yours” (meaning what you formerly gave me) and then adds an extra measure saying, “These are mine.” On the next occasion, she will receive these back with an additional measure which she later returns and so on. “Men ale, men vini fe zanmitay dire.” -- Hands going, Hands coming make friendships last. \n
Vartan Bhanji custom in Pakistan: ON the occasion of marriage, departing guests are given sweets. In weighing them out, the hostess may say, “These five are yours” (meaning what you formerly gave me) and then adds an extra measure saying, “These are mine.” On the next occasion, she will receive these back with an additional measure which she later returns and so on. “Men ale, men vini fe zanmitay dire.” -- Hands going, Hands coming make friendships last. \n
Vartan Bhanji custom in Pakistan: ON the occasion of marriage, departing guests are given sweets. In weighing them out, the hostess may say, “These five are yours” (meaning what you formerly gave me) and then adds an extra measure saying, “These are mine.” On the next occasion, she will receive these back with an additional measure which she later returns and so on. “Men ale, men vini fe zanmitay dire.” -- Hands going, Hands coming make friendships last. \n
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Subjects in Case 1 (receive gift) buy twice as many tickets as folks in Case 2. (In case 2, bought on average 2 tickets, but as many as 7.)\nSubjects who liked Joe better (initially) bought more tickets. BUT giving the Coke totally wiped out the relationship between liking Joe and buying tickets. People who said they disliked Joe the most + got a Coke bought just as many tickets as those who said they liked Joe the most + got a Coke.\nThe rule for reciprocity overwhelmed the influence of the other factor – liking the requester.\nHare Krishna Society’s remarkable growth in 1970s, partially from their “donation-request” tactic – a book or flower. Flowers were often recycled. People now choose to avoid – rather than withstand – the force of gift-giving. \n
Subjects in Case 1 (receive gift) buy twice as many tickets as folks in Case 2. (In case 2, bought on average 2 tickets, but as many as 7.)\nSubjects who liked Joe better (initially) bought more tickets. BUT giving the Coke totally wiped out the relationship between liking Joe and buying tickets. People who said they disliked Joe the most + got a Coke bought just as many tickets as those who said they liked Joe the most + got a Coke.\nThe rule for reciprocity overwhelmed the influence of the other factor – liking the requester.\nHare Krishna Society’s remarkable growth in 1970s, partially from their “donation-request” tactic – a book or flower. Flowers were often recycled. People now choose to avoid – rather than withstand – the force of gift-giving. \n
Subjects in Case 1 (receive gift) buy twice as many tickets as folks in Case 2. (In case 2, bought on average 2 tickets, but as many as 7.)\nSubjects who liked Joe better (initially) bought more tickets. BUT giving the Coke totally wiped out the relationship between liking Joe and buying tickets. People who said they disliked Joe the most + got a Coke bought just as many tickets as those who said they liked Joe the most + got a Coke.\nThe rule for reciprocity overwhelmed the influence of the other factor – liking the requester.\nHare Krishna Society’s remarkable growth in 1970s, partially from their “donation-request” tactic – a book or flower. Flowers were often recycled. People now choose to avoid – rather than withstand – the force of gift-giving. \n
Subjects in Case 1 (receive gift) buy twice as many tickets as folks in Case 2. (In case 2, bought on average 2 tickets, but as many as 7.)\nSubjects who liked Joe better (initially) bought more tickets. BUT giving the Coke totally wiped out the relationship between liking Joe and buying tickets. People who said they disliked Joe the most + got a Coke bought just as many tickets as those who said they liked Joe the most + got a Coke.\nThe rule for reciprocity overwhelmed the influence of the other factor – liking the requester.\nHare Krishna Society’s remarkable growth in 1970s, partially from their “donation-request” tactic – a book or flower. Flowers were often recycled. People now choose to avoid – rather than withstand – the force of gift-giving. \n
Subjects in Case 1 (receive gift) buy twice as many tickets as folks in Case 2. (In case 2, bought on average 2 tickets, but as many as 7.)\nSubjects who liked Joe better (initially) bought more tickets. BUT giving the Coke totally wiped out the relationship between liking Joe and buying tickets. People who said they disliked Joe the most + got a Coke bought just as many tickets as those who said they liked Joe the most + got a Coke.\nThe rule for reciprocity overwhelmed the influence of the other factor – liking the requester.\nHare Krishna Society’s remarkable growth in 1970s, partially from their “donation-request” tactic – a book or flower. Flowers were often recycled. People now choose to avoid – rather than withstand – the force of gift-giving. \n
Subjects in Case 1 (receive gift) buy twice as many tickets as folks in Case 2. (In case 2, bought on average 2 tickets, but as many as 7.)\nSubjects who liked Joe better (initially) bought more tickets. BUT giving the Coke totally wiped out the relationship between liking Joe and buying tickets. People who said they disliked Joe the most + got a Coke bought just as many tickets as those who said they liked Joe the most + got a Coke.\nThe rule for reciprocity overwhelmed the influence of the other factor – liking the requester.\nHare Krishna Society’s remarkable growth in 1970s, partially from their “donation-request” tactic – a book or flower. Flowers were often recycled. People now choose to avoid – rather than withstand – the force of gift-giving. \n
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Study: Researchers get the word out that people in New Haven, CT, are considered charitable people (e.g., via newspapers). Two weeks later, a researcher calls housewives and asks for donations. Result? Donations increase. \nWhen it works best:\n
Study: Researchers get the word out that people in New Haven, CT, are considered charitable people (e.g., via newspapers). Two weeks later, a researcher calls housewives and asks for donations. Result? Donations increase. \nWhen it works best:\n