1. Understands who girls are
Girls think differently from guys, so use it
to your advantage. The things that you look
for in a girl aren't necessarily what she
looks for in a guy. Put yourself in her shoes
and understand a few things about the
fairer sex before you start your quest.
2. Find an excuse to get close
It doesn't have to be a good excuse; it just
has to be an excuse, like "Hey, do you
remember what homework was?" or "Hey, do
you want to crack this problem together?"
Once you've broken the ice, you can start to
become her friend. Again, it doesn't really
matter how you break the ice as long as you
don't threaten her and you don't come off as
really cocky. If you embarrass yourself, don't
worry — she just might think that's cute.
3. Slowly become friends.
For girls, trust is a pretty big thing. She'll trust you
more and be willing to take that next step if she knows who
you are and she likes that person. A couple of things to
remember as you begin to establish a friendship with her:
Take things slowly and casually. Don't smother her with
your presence right away. If she begs off hanging out, for
whatever reason, be casual about it. Casual makes you seem
cool, and cool helps you stay mysterious.
Invite her along on social occasions. When you're at the
skate park with your friends, invite her along. If you're
going to a party, let her know. If she likes you as a friend
(and possibly more), she'll return the favor.
4. Be polite and gentlemanly.
Remember when we said that girls assume a guy
just wants to get into her pants? Well, don't be
that guy! Being polite and gentlemanly will help
assure her that you are different, and that you
respect her as a person. This will work especially
if she is a romantic.Offer to hold her books while
she is opening her locker. Open doors, and keep
doors open, for her. Say "please" and "thank you"
with a smile on your face, even if you feel
horribly old-fashioned. These things do make a
5. Have your own life apart
Don't latch onto her like a barnacle. Even if you're a friend
and a gentleman, she probably doesn't want you there
24/7, attending to her every need, turning into her
shadow. It's not going to get you very far.Take some time
to do your own thing. That way, you'll have a little bit of
mystery, and you'll be able to talk about fun and
interesting things you've done in her absence.
Girls are attracted to guys who are independent. Try to
cultivate that a little bit, even as you court her. Being
independent means doing your own thing, having different
groups of friends, and thinking for yourself.
At least once, beg off when she invites you to something.
She will never realize how much she misses you if you
are always around!
6. Pay more attention to what you
For goodness' sake, groom yourself.
Girls care about guys who can take
care of themselves. Personal
hygiene just happens to be a part
of that. Wash your hair once it gets
greasy, shower daily, use
deodorant, shave if you're that age,
and look your best using the clothes
that you've got.
7. Avoid the early friendship
Now, these mistakes aren't always relationship-ending,
but they tend to be mistakes. If you can, try to avoid
them:Don't be immature, perverted, or gross. That
includes saying and doing things. Girls want you to
be more mature than your age, not less.
Don't press her for really personal information in the
beginning. Don't make her share more than she feels
comfortable telling you.
Don't go out of your way to impress her. Impress her by
doing what you do well, which will make you confident.
Trying really hard to impress her makes you seem cocky.
Use humor as your biggest ally. If she enjoys your
company and looks forward to seeing you again,
you’re rapidly becoming an addiction, and that’s just
what you’re aiming for. It’s not about making her
laugh over your one-liners and finding you hilarious.
It’s more about being on the same wavelength and
enjoying the other’s sense of humor too. Or finding
humor in similar situations or having a favorite
serial or sitcom, which you talk about and cracks
you up. Finding the same joke funny, or sharing a
smile, draws you closer and makes you feel like
kindred spirits. It’s a great feeling!
9.Make her notice you.
Do something that will make her take notice of you. Many
women want a man who is strong but compassionate, who
leads but listens, who is confident without being cocky.
Remember this as you begin to get yourself noticed.Do
something that shows you care about other people.
Volunteer at your local food bank, give blood, bail a
friend out of a sticky situation, organize a charity
auction. Show her that there's more to you than meets
the eye. She'll be impressed that you give back and
curious about what else you have to offer.
10. Look your best.
Whereas you may not care that
much what you look like, women
definitely do. It's not so much the
clothes and the hygiene that's
important; it's the message you
send the rest of the world — that
you take care of yourself, that you
know your style, and that you're
1. Give her reasons to trust you
Friendships and relationships are built on trust, and for girls
that foundation couldn't be more important. To get from the
friend stage to the dating stage, you need to show her that
she can trust you completely.Do what you say you'll do. If you
say you'll pick her up for the party, pick her up. If you say
you're going to play varsity football, play varsity football.
Nothing destroys trust like saying you'll do something and
then not following through. Be a man of your word.
2.Learn the art of the
Complimenting a girl will let her know that you like her
more than just a friend, while also reinforcing the things
about her that shewants you to notice.Compliment her:
Eyes. "Your eyes really contrast with the color of your
shirt. Nice combo!"
Smile. "I always know when you're smiling because the
room lights up."
Style. "You have really good style. A lot of girls look up
to you for it."
Hair. "I like your hair when you put it up. People can see
how pretty your face is."
3. Be an active listener
Show her that you are someone that she can really talk and
get along with. For example, if she mentions a favorite
band/book/movie, check it out. That may give you a common
interest to discuss in the future. Girls are impressed by
guys who make an effort not just to listen, but to show
interest and remember details.Another example might be
this: If she mentions a subject or person early on in the
conversation, mention that subject or person in an offhand
way to let her know that you were listening. Girls want guys
who like them not just for their looks, but for their
personality. Taking interest in conversation will help you
convince her that's what you want to do.
4. Gradually, flirt with her a
It's okay if you're not an expert at it right away; you'll get
better as you continue to do it. Flirting can be as simple as
smiling at someone and holding their eyes. Try to be calm
and natural as you flirt. Pay attention to what feels good
for you, even as you're nervous.Touch her in a non-
threatening way. Give her your hand when she's walking up
some stairs. Tap her hand gently with your fingers when
you're making a point. Gently rub her back when she's not
feeling very good.
5. Share aspects of your own
At this point, you've probably already gotten
to know her pretty well. But maybe she
hasn't gotten to know you as well as she
would have hoped. So loosen up, be yourself,
and give her a glimpse into what makes you
6. Be sensitive.
Girls love guys who are sensitive because girls are usually more
emotional, and they want someone to share their emotional
feelings with. Before you groan and throw up your hands,
consider this: you're already a sensitive person; you maybe just
don't know what part of you is sensitive. Take the time to find
out which part that is.Be there for her when she needs it. If she
just wants to talk about a bad day, be a shoulder she can lean on
and a perspective she can trust. Talking with her about personal
issues, and showing her you care about how she feels, is a great
7. Find out what she likes to do.
Then do those things with her. Doing something that you know
she likes has the added advantages that she feels comfortable
and safe doing it. If she's comfortable when you're out on a date,
she's more likely get close to you, hold your hand, or even kiss
you.Whether she likes surfing, horseback riding, shopping, or
baking, it's a good idea to try to involve her in what she likes
doing best. Ask her friend what she enjoys doing in her free
time, or ask her yourself if you're feeling brave. (Fortune favors
you.) That way, she'll know that you've taken the time to find out
what makes her tick, and that you're ready to go that extra mile
to make sure she's happy.
8. Don't judge her.
Don't judge any girl that you develop feelings for. They
are their own person, with their own qualities just like you
are. We all do things that drive other people crazy or
seem weird. If she does stuff that you can't even try to
understand, then she's just not the girl for you. That
doesn't make her a bad person and you shouldn't be mean
to her about those things.
9. Eliminate all expectations
Love lives in the absence of pressure. Letting go of your
expectations will help you to relax, which will make you more
appealing to a girl than if you are uptight and worried.Teach
yourself to expect nothing from the girl so that you cannot be
disappointed. If she does fall in love with you, you'll be pleasantly
Remember that there are plenty of fish in the sea. If this
particular girl doesn't work out, there will be other girls. If you
don't get that special girl to fall in love with you, try not to get
mopey and sad about it. It may feel good to pity yourself, but
girls don't really think it's attractive.
10. Open your eyes to the
Girls are everywhere, and many girls are looking to fall in
love. Don't get too hung up on getting one particular girl
to fall in love with you, and don't try to "force" love on a
girl who just isn't feeling it!Get to know more girls and
give love more opportunities to blossom. Go to school
socials and functions. Don't be afraid to go to a
different school's social if a friend invites you. You
never know when you might meet that special someone
who'll knock the wind out of your lungs
1. Keep all of her secrets and
never betray her trust.
People love to gossip; it's a natural thing. But
what you shouldn't do is betray her trust by
gossiping about something she told you in
confidence. If she expects you to keep it a
secret, you shouldn't even tell her your
friend. Reward her confidence in you by
2.Ask her out on a date.
When the time is right, you'll have to ask her out on a date. Try
doing this in person. Your chances of her agreeing skyrocket, and
it may even give you another opportunity to flirt some more.
Remember, too, that you don't have to call it a date unless she
asks. That'll make things easier, too. Try something like:"I have a
spare movie ticket to [that movie she wants to go to] on Friday
night. Are you busy?"
"I don't know if you have any interest in going, but I usually go to
the state fair to be slightly less bored than I'd be at home. You
want to be my partner for the day?"
3.Accept rejection in stride.
On the off-chance that she doesn't want to or can't go
on the date with you, take it in stride. Don't sulk or get
depressed or storm off. This will only hurt your chances
later on. Give yourself the best chance of winning her
heart by being the gentleman that you are.Try asking her
if she'd want to go to a movie at a later date. If she
seems okay with it, follow up with her and try to schedule
the date. If she can't make the date twice in a row, or
makes up an excuse, that's a definite sign that she's not
romantically interested in you.
4. When you take her on a date,
Actually, be romantic even after the date. Pick her up if you
have a car, pay for dinner or the movie, and don't try to shove
your tongue down her throat. Pretty much, imagine that your
mom is there with you the whole time on the first date. It'll
help you understand how you should act.If you plan on kissing
her at the end of the date, perhaps ask her before you swoop
in: "Can I give you a kiss? You look really beautiful right
now.“Don't kiss and tell. The romantic, gentlemanly thing is to
not share what happens between you and your date. The last
thing you want is to go back to school on Monday and have the
whole school know about your Friday night adventure.
5. Let her know how she makes
If she drives you absolutely crazy (in a good way), it's a
good idea to tell her. Again, a little communication goes a
long way, because most guys don't communicate. So think
about how she makes you feel and then let her
know!Perhaps after the date, or the next day, call her and
"I really had a great time with you last night. Actually, I
had such a good time that I don't remember anything but
the sparkle of your eyes and the curve of your mouth.
How did I do?“
"Hey, just wanted to let you know that I had a really nice
time with you. You're a really sweet girl, and thinking
about you makes me happy. When can we do that again?"
6. Be a little bit protective
Not too much, especially if you aren't going
out. If you are still in the "Chase Stage"
don't overdo it. Just stand up for her if
someone is being a bully or is somehow
hurting her feelings, position yourself just a
touch ahead of her when you do and stand
tall. Be a hero, it's hot.