The document provides tips for making marriage work in 2016. It advises couples to bring new positive changes to the relationship, avoid blaming each other, focus on fixing their own issues rather than trying to change their spouse, build trust, invest in the marriage, resolve conflicts quickly, and strengthen intimacy. The overall message is that marriage takes ongoing commitment, compromise, and prioritizing the relationship above all else.

1. Making Marriage Work in
2016
You may have been disappointed by some issues
in your marriage in the past. You can do nothing
about your past as it is history but you can make
the necessary amends.
Kigume Karuri
Wednesday,
January 13, 2016
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2. • There are many blame games in
marriage. Sometimes they can take the
center stage. These do not help until we
take our rightful roles in our marriages.
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3. • What new things are you going to bring
into your marriage in 2016?
• Do not be static. Be flexible and
maximize on the good things in your
marriage and minimize what can bring
heartaches in your marriage.Kigume KaruriWednesday, January 13, 2016 3

4. • DO NOT FIX YOUR SPOUSE - If you are
going to have a successful marriage,
resign yourself to the fact that changing
him/her is not the issue. You’ll never get
to the heart of conflict resolution by
focusing on your partner’s
shortcomings. Kigume KaruriWednesday, January 13, 2016 4

5. • FIX WHAT YOU CAN
• We try to do everything and sometimes
fail miserably. It is good to accept that
there are certain things we cant succeed
in.
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6. • CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE IN MARRIAGE,
CHANGE YOUR LIFE .
• Making your marriage work means
growing up.
• Have positives and not negatives.
• See the bright side of your spouse.
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7. • Learn to appreciate your spouse the
more and be willing to go an extra mile
for him/her in 2016
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8. • BUILD TRUST
• Incorporate the ability to accept and
embrace your spouse’s truth as your
own without question or debate, until
that bond of trust is violated.
• Trust keeps the marriage strong
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9. • BRING NEW VALUES IN YOUR MARRIAGE
• Values each bring to the marriage are very
important. What new values are you
going to bring in 2016? Making your
marriage work means mutual respect and
compromising so that both parties can
claim victory.
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10. • It is most often assumed that you and
your spouse see eye to eye on the
important areas of life, but you’d be
surprised at the things that creep up in a
marriage causing disagreements.
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11. • How you feel about the deeper, more
meaningful things in life is vitally
important, and the necessity given to
having several conversations about
those areas until your spouse
completely understands, accepts, and
properly values.
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12. • AVOID BREAKING YOUR SPOUSE
• The following are unacceptable
–Betrayal.
–Lying.
–Disloyalty.
–Serial Irresponsibility.
–Abuse.
–Infidelity. Kigume KaruriWednesday, January 13, 2016 12

13. • INVEST IN YOUR MARRIAGE IN 2016
• Marriage is an investment of love,
affection, respect and trust.
• It is an experience that creates profound
joy, security and belonging that will last a
lifetime for those who honor their
commitment to each other no matter
what. Kigume KaruriWednesday, January 13, 2016 13

14. • BE FRIENDS IN MARRIAGE THIS YEAR
AND BEYOND
• Being best friends in marriage helps
couples to learn how to take care of
each other’s needs — and that this
friendship is the basis of your
commitment and trust.
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15. • BE COMMITTED
• There are so many marriages that
demonstrate the true meaning of
commitment. They are as an example of
what it really means to be committed to
our spouse and marriage.
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16. • GUARD YOUR MARRIAGE
• Guard our marriage, so that the outside
world cannot separate it. We must
protect its core – the love between
husband and wife. This doesn’t come
for free – it will cost us a lot. But our
marriage is only as strong as what we
invest into it. Kigume KaruriWednesday, January 13, 2016 16

17. • Marriage is designed to be an exclusive
club, a two-person arrangement that
provides a safe place for each spouse’s
soul.
• There is no space for a third party to
receive an equal share in a marriage,
because that can easily disrupt the safety
of the relationship.
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18. • With a third party present, our love
gets divided. A part of our heart is
taken away from our spouse, where it
belongs, and brought to an outside
source.
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19. • GROW INTIMACY IN YOUR MARRIAGE
• Do as much as you can to be close and
intimate to your spouse.
• Thinks of areas you can improve on to
make you intimate and particularly in
your sexual intimacy.
• Be romantic.
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20. • RESOLVE IN 2016 TO RESOLVE
CONFLICTS THE SOONEST POSSIBLE
• Are anger and resentment present in
your marriage as a result of unresolved
relationship problems but despite the
conflict you still love each other?
• Resolve conflicts soonest possible.
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21. • FINALLY
• Yet another year to be with your
spouse. You need to build on the better
part of your marriage in the yester years
and make the most of 2016 to excel in
your marriage.
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