I believe this is for WEEK 14 or 15

1. Establishing and Maintaining
Relationships in College

2. Your Turn
At this point in your life, what are your
three most important relationships? Write
about each of these three people and
what makes them special to you.

3. Building Relationships with College Instructors
• What your instructors expect from you
• Come to class, do the work, listen and participate
• What you can expect from your instructors
• Grade you fairly and provide meaningful feedback on papers and
exams
• Making the most of the learning relationship
• Make an appointment with your professor early in the term
• Also important for letters of reference when applying to graduate
school
• When things go wrong between you and an instructor
• Ask for a meeting to discuss the problem
• If the instructor refuses, go up the administrative ladder

4. Your Turn
Before you came to college, what had you
heard about college professors? Write
about what others told you and whether
you have found those opinions to be
accurate or inaccurate.

5. Friendships in and beyond College
• Roommates
• Important to establish your mutual rights and responsibilities in
writing
• Talk out problems promptly
• If things get really bad and do not improve, insist on a change
• Social networking
• Helps you keep connected to your friends from high school and
college
• Can help you become more engaged in your campus life
• Can also help you learn more about your instructors
• But can become addicting and interfere with your academic
success and well-being

6. Your Turn
Have you met someone online whom you
consider interesting? If so, describe that
person. If not, describe what kind of
person you would like to meet online and
why.

7. Getting Serious with Relationships
• Breaking up
• Do it cleanly and calmly and explain your feelings
• Let time pass and be open to emotional support from
friends and family
• If necessary, visit a college counselor or a chaplain
• Relationships you should avoid
• Never wise to become romantically involved with your
professor or someone who works above or for you
• Dating coworkers is also risky

8. Your Turn
On the basis of your experience or the
experience of someone close to you, what
advice would you give other students who
are dealing with breakups?

9. Family Connections
• Marriage and parenting during college
• Can marriage and parenting coexist with being a college
student?
• Important to carve out time for your partner and family as
carefully as you schedule your work and your classes
• Relationships with your parents
• Will never be quite the same as it was before
• Don’t let them make all your decisions
• Be aware of their concerns
• Remember that parents generally mean well

10. Your Turn
How is your family reacting to your
college experience? Are they supportive,
fearful, meddling, remote? If there are
problems, how are you handling them?

11. Getting Involved
• To Greek or not to Greek?
• Can be a rich source of friends and support
• Can be too demanding of time and finances
• Can be too exclusive
• Working
• On-campus jobs can help develop relationships with
instructors and administrators
• Community service
• Consider helping at an animal shelter, serving the homeless,
or helping build homes for needy families

12. Your Turn
Have you already become involved in
campus organizations? If so, what kinds of
involvement have you experienced? If you
haven’t become involved, what club or
organization most interests you? Explain
why.

13. Tech Tip: Maintain Some Mystery
How to protect yourself from predators and losing potential
jobs
• Don’t overshare, especially in the digital age
• Companies and graduate schools are likely to look you up online
• The best way to manage your image online is to be
proactive and aware
• Make sure your privacy settings on Facebook are up to par
• Protect your virtual reputation
• Free services like kgb can dig up every mention of you online