1. The document discusses various ways to build self-confidence, including conditioning methods like positive affirmations, obtaining skills and abilities, and focusing on intrinsic worth rather than external symbols. 2. It argues that conditioning and skills-building only provide temporary confidence boosts, while focusing on inner faith provides lasting confidence regardless of circumstances. 3. Releasing attachment to beliefs that confidence requires certain prerequisites like success or approval and embracing one's inherent value independent of outside factors can strengthen true self-confidence.

1. HOW TO BE CONFIDENT
Do you believe in yourself? Give yourself a minute to reflect on what you are seeing. At what moment did
you start to believe in yourself? Do you feel confident in your ability to do your job? Whenever you are with
friends? Your family? Are you confident in your financial situation?
And what about other things like giving a presentation at work or school, conversing with a foreigner, or
even delivering a speech in public? Do you have faith in yourself no matter what situation you're in?
Confidence is frequently correlated with the presence of specific knowledge, skills, or abilities, whether they
are innate or learned. This means that while having skills in a particular area can help you feel more
confident, it's not necessarily a requirement for having confidence in yourself, even if someone lacks even
the slightest competence, they can still be trusted.
Lack of self-confidence leaves you helpless.
Have you ever met someone who didn't have much faith in him? How did you perceive it? Anyone who
lacks confidence in themselves lacks confidence in their abilities and lives in constant uncertainty about
whatever they need to do.
Here are 8 behaviors typical of those who lack confidence in themselves:
1. They underestimate their capabilities.
2. Even when it wasn't their fault, they took the blame for it.
3. They are very reserved and timid.
4. They are too critical of themselves and perfectionists.
5. They have negative results and past failures attached to them.
6. They worry about failures and negative outcomes even when they haven't yet experienced them.
7. They have a fearful and pessimistic outlook on the majority of upcoming events.
8. They do things to make others happy.
People around those who lack confidence in themselves tend to turn them off. Their communication is
frequently restricted, and those around them frequently interpret their relatively rigid behavior negatively.
Lack of self-confidence is a paralyzing flaw because it limits our opportunities and imperils our chances of
success, which leads to the emergence of a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Imagine that you have been given a project to complete. Say that you lack confidence in yourself and
believe that you are therefore incapable of meeting expectations. What do you think will happen next? Your
thoughts and behaviors will be influenced by this lack of self-confidence on both a conscious and
unconscious level.
Constantly believing that the outcome will be bad causes you to lose focus on what you need to do to get a
good result. This could result in a self-fulfilling prophecy. Because if an unexpected event occurs, your faith
will be strengthened and you will continue to have a low level of confidence in yourself, if not even lower.
What would result, on the other hand, if a trustworthy individual witnessed the same scenario? There is a
risk that events will unfold differently. Due to your confidence in your ability to succeed, your unconscious
mind will be able to come up with a solution. This would enable you to succeed, which would increase your

2. confidence in yourself and lead to other successes. You can go beyond your expectations if you have this
powerful faith in yourself.
Furthermore, having confidence in yourself is undoubtedly advantageous to you in life. This not only puts
you in a better emotional and mental state, but also enables you to get everything you want. Being
confident enables you to pursue your greatest dreams fearlessly. Even if they seem insurmountable to you,
this support can help you overcome any difficulty. It is what enables you to live the ideal life.
Despite all this, the majority of people who have low self-confidence are as a result of past experiences.
Their lack of confidence in themselves traps them in a vicious cycle where they can only get the outcomes
they expect, reinforcing their negative beliefs. Here are some tips for breaking this dangerous circle.
How can one increase self-confidence?
There are various ways to increase self-confidence. They can be categorized into 3 groups:
1. The conditioning method
The conditional approach has the potential to foster self-confidence. It's an extraneous strategy where you
take particular steps to boost your self-confidence. It's the approach that gets discussed the most on
forums, blogs, and through personal development coaches since it yields results the quickest.
Maybe you attended some motivational seminars or read some books to boost your self-confidence.
Typically, you are asked to perform a variety of tasks, such as repeating a positive affirmation, acting as
though you already possess a certain height, speaking and acting in a confident manner, etc.
Here is a list of examples of conditional statements used to boost self-confidence:
Le looking again Being eloquent, being presentable, and having a spotless and well-groomed appearance.
The language of animals: Walk confidently, speak confidently, maintain a relaxed and upright posture, keep
your head up, and smile.
Mental exercises: Think positively. Visualize positive scenarios and outcomes, focus on your strengths
rather than your weaknesses, and repeat positive affirmations.
These actions are successful because they increase your self-confidence as soon as you complete them.
However, these effects don't typically last very long. If you don't consistently repeat them, the results will
fade away with time.
2. Obtain value-based symbols
The second way is to address the shortcomings that are causing you to feel this lack of confidence in
yourself. It's the most practical method for boosting self-confidence. As we saw at the beginning of the
essay, confidence in oneself is frequently correlated with the presence of particular knowledge, skills, or
abilities. Many people lack confidence in themselves because they believe they lack specific skills.
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For instance, if you lack confidence in your work, it may be because you are lacking knowledge about how
to perform your duties properly. High levels of competence in a certain field frequently lead to the
development of a strong sense of self-confidence in that same field.
A combination of planning, practice, and experience can help you develop your skills in any field. The key
to developing your skills is to have the right information and practice consistently.

3. For instance, if you're trying to master a subject in academia, read everything you can about it from as
many sources as you can. Continue practicing your activity or sport every day if it is one. If it's an exposé or
public speech, keep honing your public speaking skills by practicing in front of various crowds.
Or otherwise, if it's a social activity like talking to an unknown person, set modest goals like speaking to one
unknown person each day, then start gradually increasing this number once you feel comfortable enough.
Beyond skills, there are other symbols of value, the most prevalent of which are:
1. Characteristics like being more alluring, popular, generous, and behavior.
2. Material possessions like the amount of wealth you own, such as luxury cars, homes, and other items.
3. Social status symbols include your academic credentials, accomplishments, and title obtained through
employment.
4. Success stories, such as ones in which you overcame challenges or victories in games.
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You can boost your self-confidence by acquiring the value symbol that you wear. Some people make an
effort to increase their attractiveness and popularity, while others try to acquire material belongings like
money or opulent items. Some people want to achieve status and titles that are acknowledged by society,
while others try to succeed in whatever they undertake.
The problem with acquiring these symbols is that they only strengthen your self-confidence during the time
that they apply to you. Your confidence in yourself would quickly disappear if they lost all of their value or if
you were exiled.
Consider a tennis player who bases his worth on the number of victories he has earned throughout
matches. He keeps working out to improve his chances of winning. When he wins, his confidence in himself
is strengthened; yet, every time he loses, his confidence in himself declines. So, as the game progresses,
so does his confidence in himself.
Or otherwise, picture a low-confidence worker at the bottom of the food chain. It views his or her status in
his or her career as a measure of worth. He put a lot of effort into his business and was eventually
promoted to manager. Although this would increase his confidence in the present, his sense of values will
always be based on his position.
He would begin to have less faith in him if his promotion was withdrawn or if he was fired. This contributed
in part to a large number of depressions following licensees. Without even mentioning financial worries,
many associate their sense of value with their material belongings and status symbols.
Look for instances where these symbols lose their meaning. Because the significance of these symbols is
influenced by society and context, they can be easily altered. Look back over the years to see what has
changed. Consider some material possessions you've purchased in the past that first made you feel good
but eventually lost their impact.
Think about your choice of vehicle as well as fashion items like your clothing and accessories. There, the
context also matters a lot. An everyday product in France is a car. In contrast, the automobile is regarded
as a luxury item in China. These symbols will have different meanings in various contexts.
Fortunately, there is a third approach you may utilize to improve your self-confidence. Additionally, this is a
long-term, permanent remedy.
3. Focus on strengthening your faith.

4. The third way to overcome a lack of self-confidence is to tackle the root of the issue rather than just treating
the symptoms. The two methods mentioned above can undoubtedly help you and stimulate a happy state
of mind, but they are only temporary solutions.
Conditioning is a sort of miraculous fix for gaining temporary trust. Even so, acquiring valuable symbols
won't help you unless you have them by your side and they remain relevant. Instead, than addressing the
problem's root cause, the two focus on its symptoms.
Imagine that you lose your hair. You then attempt to resolve your issue by using shampoos that slow hair
loss, visiting centers for alopecia treatment, or even by carrying a pet, but all of these measures only
address the symptom. These methods may help you stop losing hair, but they won't cure it because the
underlying cause is still not addressed.
If you investigate the issue, you may find that a lack of sleep, poor nutrition, or even an overly stressful job
are the root causes of this hair loss. It is important to remember that lack of abilities, failure, etc. are only
the symptoms of the problem at the moment.
The belief that you must receive assistance from others before you can live and have true confidence in
yourself is the root of the issue.
For instance, you may believe that you must be competent before you can be trusted (e). Or that you need
to have a lot of success, good posture, an eloquent gait, distinct articulation, etc. before you can have some
measure of confidence in yourself.
Contrary to popular belief, a person can be trusted even if they lack any skills, have never achieved any
success, and are completely ordinary. The only thing you need to do is integrate this:
The only prerequisite for having confidence is having faith in yourself.
Trust yourself.
Consider a symbol that has significance to you. Is that your competency? What amount of money do you
make? Your appearance is appealing. Identify them first. Then, ask yourself, "Why do you perceive them as
symbols of value?" Why do you need to have all of these things before you feel respectable or confident?
Who said that these conditions had to be met in order to have value?
These presumptions about what constitutes value are products of social constructions. All of our beliefs that
we must possess particular skills, have particular attitudes, etc. in order to be trustworthy are products of
society and are not universal truths.
The issue here is your attachment to these symbols, which would otherwise stand in for your value. All of
your beliefs about what is valuable can only be true if you believe them. The key is to eliminate all of these
extraneous factors, such as your dreadful past, your current level of skills and abilities, the outcome of
specific events, other people's judgments, etc., that have no bearing on what you value.
If a skill does not align with your values, it will no longer be important to you. Money will no longer be
important to you if you do not view it as a representation of your value. This won't matter as much going
forward if you don't believe that being enticing makes you more trusting.

5. Remember that all of these things are independent of you and have nothing to do with you. They won't
have any significance in your life if you don't allow these things to represent what you value. You, not any of
these things, are the center of your life.
A quote from John Eliot in the book "Overachievement" sums all this perfectly:
"Confidence is a steadfast state of mind where you are certain that nothing is impossible."
Confidence in oneself doesn't guarantee success, but it increases your chances of doing so and goes hand
in hand with persistently looking for ways to achieve your goals.
How to truly develop confidence.
In situations where you don't feel confident in yourself, ask yourself, "Why don't I feel confident in myself?"
Where does this feeling of uncertainty come from? To what have I attached my value?
When you become aware of what you have placed value on, try to let go of any restrictive beliefs that need
you to only be trustworthy or respectable after satisfying certain prerequisites.
When you do this, a strong sense of confidence in yourself will overtake you and last forever. No matter
what happens in your life, you will be connected to this confidence in yourself. They are the ones who
motivate you to strive for your goals and help you develop into the best version of yourself.