All of us at different times would have lost something very precious. In our lives, those are the most excruciating moments. Here is an effort to present a point of view on how I dealt with my ‘loss’.

1. A letter to my ‘ex’
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All of us at different times would have lost something very
precious. In our lives, those are the most excruciating moments.
Here is an effort to present a point of view on how I dealt with
my ‘loss’.
This is my letter to my 'ex'....
When you were around, half the time I was lost for words. The
other times, I spoke too much. But these three words, I almost
always whispered silently when I was awake and said these
very loudly in my sleep; 'I love you’ and 'Thank you lord'.
With you, I have felt fear and I have felt bravery, I have felt loss
and I have felt gain, I have felt stupid and I have felt intelligent
too. I can look at our pictures and recall everything we did that day. I must say, I do look at our pictures
even now and feel nostalgic.
There was a time when I could think of you and I could tell what you might be feeling just then. There
were so many times when you thought I was not paying attention, but I can tell you how looked, how
you sat, how you pouted and how you felt. Felt a strange silly pleasure in making you think I was not
looking but my eyes were only for you.
I know how you looked when you thought something was unfair. I know how you looked when I
surprised you. I know how you looked when you were denied what you secretly desired.
Most importantly, I know the look in your eyes when, a few years ago, on December 22nd, you saw the
sunset from atop Sinhagarh hills. In those moments you knew that nothing could ever be recreated
quite like that. I have always felt the same way about you.
Wherever you are, know that, loving someone isn't a matter of feeling something, temporarily. It is an
experience that one carries forever.
Loving someone is NOT a choice. Relating to someone IS. Sometimes, even when one has loved, one
has to LET GO.
Letting go involves unfurling our fingers and watching something fall. It's the act of witnessing
that object’s fall, that gets to us.
A few moments earlier we had something in our hands. Now it is not there. This 'was there and now not
there' gets to us. Now and then, again and again, we think about what could have been there.
That one last hug, the feeling of bliss that comes with knowing that the moment you wake up the sun
will be shining in rivulets through the tangled beautiful mess of your hair, with your face fresh off the
pillow, were magical. In those moments the magic was never of the sun. It was always about how YOU
could be looking in those moments. Lazy yet with boundless energetic. Sleepy yet so elegant. It's sad
to know that nothing like that will happen again. With no one....
The sunset would never be so enticing. It may simply fall off the horizon. The waterfalls won't cascade
with melancholy. It won't flow over the edges of noses or smiling lips or drip beneath the ears. It may
simply fall off the boulders of the creeks.

2. This letter however, is not about missing you. It is not to surmise our times together. It is about a
realisation.
The flowing river water caresses so many stones on its bed. This flowing river water may loosen a
stone from its bed. There after, the river doesn't run quite the same way.
But another stone, another pebble will fall in that place. Replacement happens.
The new stone will never match the old one yet the spot will be filled. Replacement happens.
The question is never about better or inferior. The important realisation is that replacement happens.
The stone may not be replaced by another stone, it might just be mud, it might be few smaller pebbles.
It might be a combination. Whatever it may be. replacement happens.
What I am clear about is, letting go is letting someone or something else take 'that' spot. For that to
happen, I have to let my joints loosen their grip, open my hold, let go of what wasn't meant to be held
by me anymore.
Sometimes, we have to let them go and allow them to land somewhere new. We have truly 'let gone'
when we pray it's landed somewhere even more beautiful than before.
Then, it was true love. Otherwise, you were my selfish need. Even more importantly, I will deny that
space to everyone who could have been an amazing replacement. Void remains only when we DO
NOT let go and therefore DO NOT ALLOW replacements to happen.
I will always remember, 'replacements happen'.
With loads of love, prayers and exceptional wishes,
naren
As I Live...I Learn
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