Which one of These reasons drove your husband to cheat on you?

1. Why Men Have Affairs – Which
of These Drove Your Husband to
Cheat on You?
By Lisa Penn
How-to-Save-Marriage.org

2.  When I found out my husband had a 6
month affair with his coworker, I was so
angry I could chew through steel .
 How could he do this to me? To us? To
our family? And most importantly –
WHY? Why did my husband have an
affair? Why do men have affairs ?

3. My shock and anger
developed into sadness,
despair, low self
esteem and I felt like
my whole life was
one big lie . In a pathetic
attempt to regain control,
I became obsessed with
finding out the reason for
men to have affairs. This
is what I found and I want
to share with you.

4. Why do Men Have Affairs?
 If you really want to
understand why your
husband was unfaithful,
you have to be strong.
You have to be prepared
that the answer – The
real answer – May not be
what you expected. And it
takes guts and strength to
take an honest look at
your relationship, without
filters (and without the
accusations)

5. Cheaters cheat because they
have the FALSE notion that
going outside the relationships
will solve their problems or
fulfill their needs .

6. These are the possible
reasons your husband
cheated
1. Your relationship used to make him feel special.
He doesn’t feel that anymore.
2. He used to be sexually satisfied in your
relationship. Now he feels you don’t want him to
touch you and that sex for you is a chore.
3. He has never learned to honor boundaries. He
knows they are there, but he has little hesitation
stepping over them. If this is the case with your
husband, you probably noticed this a long time
ago, even before you were married.

7. 4. He is a thrill seeker, who can’t pass up on the
opportunity to get a thrill. An affair is a big
temptation and he has probably cheated more
than once. (If you want to know if your husband
is the serial cheater type – See this article )
5. He has a low self esteem and feels
unappreciated at home, so he looks for
someone out of the marriage to “care for him”.
This feeds his ego.

8. 6. He feels neglected and unloved. His
needs, whether they are sexual needs or
romantic needs or just his “need” to hang
out with his friends twice a week. It could
be any kind of “need”.

9. 7. He “Loves you but not in love with you”. This is
not a real reason of course, it’s a justification he
gives himself to cheat with a clear conscience .
This sentence is actually a code for something
else. It’s a sign of a real and severe relationship
breakdown and the result of a “chronic” troubled
marriage. But it doesn’t mean that he really
doesn’t live you anymore. He may not know how
he feels at all right now.

10.  Your wounded ego and
broken heart scream with
rage right now. HIS
needs? HIS emotions?
HIS self esteem?
 What about MY needs?
My emotions? I do
everything for him and for
this family and I never
cheated! And this is how I
get rewarded? Stabbed in
the back with his lying and
cheating?
 You are completely justified
to feel like this.

11. But it’s time to put this question, which may
be haunting you for months – Behind
you for good .
Why Your Husband Cheated
Doesn’t Matter Anymore!

12. It doesn’t matter because
it’s not the real reason
anyway. It’s just a
justification. A marriage is
a promise of fidelity, no
matter what. What ever
his “reason” was, it’s NOT
your fault. You couldn’t
have prevented it
because your husband
doesn’t understand that
relationship problems
should be solved INSIDE
the relationship and not
OUTSIDE of it.

13.  The unmistakable and harsh truth is
that no matter how “perfect” you
thought your relationship was – It
WASN’T.
 A slow process has begun, who
knows how long ago, that led to a
breakdown in communication.

14.  This breakdown
was ignored, or
unnoticed and
untreated. With
time, it poisoned
your marriage and
led to this crisis.

15.  This does NOT necessarily mean that
your marriage is over . That you will
never trust him again, that he will never
change. Kick these negative thoughts to
the curb.
 If he shows real regret and seeks your
forgiveness, this affair could turn out to be
the perfect storm in your marriage.

16.  If you take the right steps to healing
yourself (first) and your marriage, you may
wake up one morning to a marriage with
renewed and better communication,
transparency, intimacy and love – More
than ever before. I am a living proof that
it’s possible.

17.  These “right steps” are critical and without
them, there’s a zero to low chance that
your marriage will survive this affair.
You can discover these steps – Right Here
.
Don’t waste more time – In any
second it can be too late!

18. For more free marriage education
go to:
How-to-Save- Marriage.org