The first key problem is the influence of social media on our lives. For a generation that likes to broadcast our “authentic” lifestyles, the way we portray ourselves on social media is shameful. We exaggerate. We edit our pictures. We even lie. Worst of all, we then compare ourselves to our friends’ and family’s posts on social media. This creates an unrealistic expectation of how we should and shouldn’t live our lives based off of how others portray the way that they are living theirs.

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How our generation is failing to cope with emotional stress.
The Most Stressed-Out Generation? Young Adults
By Dr.Mahboob Khan Phd
Be it Pratyusha Banerjee’s Suicidecase and many more-This is not the first time we
are seeing young telly stars resorting to end their life. Recent history has also
witnessed suicides like those of Bollywood actress Jiah Khan, TV actress Kuljeet
Randhawa, VJ Nafisa Joseph. Not only celebrities, today, we see youth from
different sections is committing suicide. The reason behind people choosing the
path of suicide varies from debt to work pressure. All these reports lead to ask a
serious question. Is suicide becoming the only choice on hand when you are unable
to deal with problems? Let us look at the damning statistics of suicide’s in India
and why we as citizens should spread the awareness about it besides keeping in
mind that suicide does not end the pain it just passes on to your loved one’s. There
are so many people in the world who need care, attention, love, and affection, if
you are not able to live for yourself, you can always live for others who need your
time.
In the 15 to 29-year age group, suicide is the second leading cause of death
globally. As studies indicate, South Korea, Russia, and India lead in suicide rates.
In India, about 46,000 suicides occurred each in 15-29 and 30-44 age groups in
2012 – or about 34% each of all suicides.

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We all have ups and downs, sometimes it is more than that, that is the point to
be alarmed. When your kid, friend, and any person you care is acting
differently for quite some time like:
>Crying for no reason. Acting down.
>Not able to sleep. Or sleeps all the time
>Getting mad at anyone. Acting reckless.
>Shutting away friends, no self-care or care for his/her possessions.
>Not bothered about his/her passion, gives up on things he/she loves.
>Too much into drugs and substance abuse.
It may be he/she is going through some hard time, at study, relationship etc. Or it
may be he/she really has given up on the world.
We need to address the depression then and there and pull him/her back to life. It is
his/her negative self-talk: That no one cares about him/her; this world is not worth
living in etc. You need to reach out to him/her saying you care for him/her and
others do care as well.
Just one spark of hope can light the dying candle in his/her heart and he/she can be
the person you used to know.
Suicide does not kill a person, it is his/her loneliness that does!
Show you care, show you love, talk often, ask questions, make them comfortable,
let them tell you what they are going, though, give your helping hand. And make
sure none of your loved one gives up on life.
In India, there are much more factors apart from depression, we have abject
poverty, social ostracism/pressure, unemployment etc. to add to the cause. Apart
from personal care, there must be some measures from the government who can

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help people. We hear about farmer’s suicide every now and then, if Govt. makes
good laws to protect them, we can put an end to the shame that we can’t save the
very people who work hard so that we have food on our dinner table.
We have received messages of such cases in past, we aren’t professionals yet we
let them vent out the negativity and tried our best to comfort them. So if you or any
friends of your’s is going through hard times, just get in touch with us we are here
to hold your hand, together we will fight out.
“Be kind, it could make a difference!”
Meet the Millenials
Today we have a whole group of young people that we call millennials — men and
women ages 18-33, who have higher rates of depression, stress and suicide, than
any generation before them. A group in which, many have difficulty coping with
the normal stresses of life. For example: structuring time for work, recreation,
employment, graduating from college, and dealing with the emotional ups and
downs of relationships. Even managing minor conflicts creates stress for some
millennials.
Psychologically, millennials may appear to be spoiled or narcissistic. Though
narcissism may be playing a small part in some millennials, the bigger problem
seems to be their inability to handle the average stresses in life. Coupled with
sluggish job economy, high expectations for academic achievement and the
inability to make it on his own, the millennial often underachieves.
You can have the highest IQ in the world, but if you can’t get your act to together,
you can’t function. You can’t find that inner resource to motivate you towards
successful goals. During the Revolutionary War, for example, children as young as
nine years old in Europe were fighting in armies and being sent to the New World
with little money in their pockets, but a lot of hope for a better life. For example,

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John Adams brought his ten year old son with him to France and gave him a job, as
both a messenger and assistant, with real obligations and real responsibilities. That
young man, John Quincy Adams, later became the President of the United States.
So what’s causing this lost generation? You’ve heard a lot about helicopter parents
who overprotect their children and oversee and involve themselves in all the joys
and disappointments in their children’s lives. In the real world, if a child is not
frustrated by his parents, in a loving and responsible way, then not only will he not
ever learn about commitment, obligation, and responsibility, but also the world as
the potential to then frustrate him, in a much more callous, cynical, and dangerous
way.
Children who find their best friend in their parents, have a problem. When children
are so pampered and protected that they don’t get to try things out and test
themselves against their environment, then they have a problem growing up,
making decisions, and coping with stress.
These children often bring their parents to college interviews, job interviews, and
give up easily, throwing in the towel, if his/her job doesn’t meet his/her emotional
needs. As a result, some of these millennials feel paralyzed, dependent, and
incapable of action,reporting higher levels of anxiety, stress and depression.
By neglecting to frustrate children in the safety and security of home, helicopter
parents have made their children unable to deal with frustration, while needing
instant and constant gratification. This trend is disruptive to Erickson’s model for
emotional development, where he stresses the importance of navigating the stages
of autonomy and confidence successfully. The end result of such interference by
parents who over-protect their children is leading to a dependent youth unable to
cope and unwilling to try.

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1. Social media
The first key problem is the influence of social media on our lives. For a
generation that likes to broadcast our “authentic” lifestyles, the way we portray
ourselves on social media is shameful. We exaggerate. We edit our pictures. We
even lie. Worst of all, we then compare ourselves to our friends’ and family’s posts
on social media. This creates an unrealistic expectation of how we should and
shouldn’t live our lives based off of how others portray the way that they are living
theirs.
2. We suck at coping with failure
Straight up, we just don’t know how to cope with failure. We often work so hard to
prevent failure and we don’t accept it as a possible outcome. We are the generation
that grew up with “helicopter” parents, who were always hovering nearby to make
sure that nothing ever went wrong. We have become so afraid to fail, that when we
do, we don’t know how to evaluate our mistakes and learn from them.
3. We get praised way too much
Lastly, many of us have grown up constantly being told that “we’re special” and
that “we can do anything we put our minds to”. We don’t understand that there will
be disappointments and failures in life and that part of growing up is making
mistakes and learning from them. How does this happen? By accident, really. Our
parents’ generation was raised by a generation that endured two world
wars and the great depression. They were taught that growing up and securing a
normal, low risk job was the key to having a happy life. As many of our parents
surpassed this expectation, they taught us that we can do anything, that the sky is
the limit! To put it bluntly, many (but not all!) of us were raised constantly being
coddled.

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Before you get your panties in a bunch, check yourself. I’m not implying that
everyone grew up being told that they are going to be the next President of the
United States and I’m not saying that we have had bad parents either. What I’m
trying to say is take a look at who we are as a generation and learn ways to deal
with this stress. Because everyone handles stress differently, different things work
for different people. However, to begin, I recommend putting things in perspective.
Realize that everything you see on social media is not the truth. Learn to identify
your failures, recognize how they can be used as a guide to prevent future
mistakes, and don’t be ashamed of them. Lastly, put your life in perspective and
realize that life will not be handed to you on a silver platter. If that doesn’t work, at
least you can find solace in the fact that stressed is just desserts spelled backwards.