2. “ORGASM”
Can be mild, sensuous, or intensely physical or ecstatic
Can be exclusively physical or can include subjective and
psychological aspects.
Feelings of intimacy can impact orgasms/ orgasms can impact
intimacy
Can feel different at different times (sex with a partner/
masturbation/when your menstrual cycle is)
Can occur from penetration of the vagina or simply stimulation
of the clitoris
Some women experience orgasms from thought or imagery alone
without any physical touch
3. MODELS OF SEXUAL RESPONSE
Excitement- Pelvic area may feel full. Erectile tissue in the vulva, pelvis and
clitoris swell with blood while nerves in that area become more sensitive.
Inner lips on the vaginal walls become wet, muscles contract and nipples may
be hard.
Plateau- when/if stimulation continues. Vagina becomes more sensitive.
Response will intensify and the glans of the clitoris retract under the hood.
Orgasm- with enough stimulation for the clitoris and some from the G-spot a
woman will build up to a peak (orgasm). During this orgasm all of the tension
releases in pleasurable muscular contractions. These contractions could be felt
in the vagina, uterus, and rectum.
Resolution- when stimulation doesn’t continue the resolution stage occurs.
During the half hour after an orgasm the muscles relax and the clitoris, vagina
and uterus return back to their usual positions.
4. WHAT GETS IN THE WAY OF
ORGASMS?
You don’t want to be having sex with that person/
communication about sex is poor
You both need more sex education in order to understand what’s
happening
Your too busy thinking about how to do things right or why it
doesn’t go well
Could be impatient or tired
Afraid to ask for too much and seem too demanding
Afraid if your partner concentrates on your pleasure you’ll feel
pressure to orgasm and you won’t be able to.
You’re trying to orgasm at the same time as your partner
5. MASTURBATION
Touching yourself sexually
First time might be awkward and you might feel self
conscious
Children do it to explore their bodies
Helps you to learn what feels good and what doesn’t
Can use fingers / dildo’s / vibrators or rub against
something
6. YOU MAY HOLD BACK FROM
COMMUNICATING ABOUT SEX
BECAUSE:
You feel embarrassed by the words themselves
Feel embarrassed by desires, thinking they might be strange
Feel afraid a partner will be judgmental
After having sex with the same person for so long, it feels risky to bring
up new desires
Communication isn’t going well in other areas of the relationship
A partner seems defensive and night interpret the communication as
criticism or demand
Inexperience or confusion over what you want at a particular time
* communication during sex is very important also for discussing safe
sex and birth control
7. PLEASURE
Fantasies: treat us to all kinds of erotic experiences, even if they
are crazy. Most people have fantasies either in images or stories
Role-playing- acting out situations/ dressing up. Bondage can be
use for forms of dominance or fantasy situations
Lubrication- decreases painful friction, enhances sexual arousal by
stimulating blood flow to vulva, makes route to orgasm easier,
changes taste.
Erotica- enjoying erotic entertainment alone or with a partner
helps explore sexual needs or shared desires.
Pornography- materials that sexually show pleasure to a women
will promote fantasies (hard or soft porn)
Sex toys- spice up sexual encounter, make safe sex fun, help
creativity
8. VOCAB
Clitoris- organ most sensitive to stimulation, plays a central role
in elevating feelings of sexual tension. “the joy button”
The G-Spot- a particular area inside the vagina approx. 1/3 to ½
up the front wall. When stimulated will lead to sexual pleasure
Masturbation- touching yourself sexually, enables us to explore &
experiment with our own bodies- helps us learn what feels good
Oral sex- “foreplay” involves cunnilingus and fellatio
Cunnilingus- (eating out, going down)
Fellatio- (blow job, getting head)
Anal stimulation- the anus can be stimulated with a finger,
tongue, penis, butt plug or any other smooth slender object
9. FUN FACTS
Some women get aroused by watching a partner masturbate or by
pleasuring themselves during sex
Pressure at the back of the vagina can be key to orgasm for
women but painful for others
Don’t use numbing lubricants for anal penetration, if it hurts, you
need to stop
Some feminists have sought to make a useful distinction between
erotica and pornography
Reduced lubrication occurs during breastfeeding or
perimenopause/postmenopause, using birth control, ADHD &
depression medications, and dehydration
10. QUOTE THAT JUMPED OUT
“ In the 1970’s Shere Hite polled
more than three thousand women
and discovered most of them did
not experience orgasm through
intercourse alone.”
11. DISCUSSION QUESTION
In the text it explains that communication during and about sex is important.
*Do we think its important enough to always be open about it, or do we think
it’s foreword and awkward to communicate?
* Does communication about sex really make it that much better?
*Could there be two different situations if it’s a sex partner you’ve been with
for a while compared to a first timer?
