Lecture of Leonardo Cordon about "CARISMA"

1. Presented by: LEONARDO M. CORDON, DPA-CEO

2. CHARISMA “a gift of grace” A set of social skills that anyone can develop over time It’s the ability to communicate, influence others, and make an impression through: Skillful speech Effective listening Body language It’s that magical ability to make people stop, look, and listen

3. SIX BASIC SKILLS TO ACQUIRE CHARISMA EMOTIONAL EXPRESIVENESS – changes in facial expression and variation in the tone of voice when in conversation. It is the ability to start and carry on a conversation. EMOTIONAL SENSITIVITY – ability to sense the feelings of others. It is knowing the subtle rules of everyday social interaction including being a good listener. EMOTIONAL CONTROL – the ability to disguise your feelings if they’re inappropriate to a certain situation. It is a type of social acting which shows adeptness to role playing.

4. SIX BASIC SKILLS TO ACQUIRE CHARISMA SOCIAL EXPRESSIVENESS – trying to initiate casual conversation with strangers in a group and improving one’s speech by avoiding long pauses, repetitions or incomplete thoughts. SOCIAL SENSITIVITY – observing people and using social clues to guess people’s jobs, marital status, interests to keep from being too inquisitive. And finding yourself in unfamiliar social environment, not hesitating to ask questions to keep from stumbling into awkward social situations. SOCIAL CONTROL – meeting as many different people of various ages and cultures as possible. Learning to think ahead which means thinking before speaking. It is also planning possible topics of conversation ahead of time.

5. WHO’S GOT IT? ORIGINALITY She knows what she had and plays it up. She starts by thinking about what it is that makes her most attractive, most appealing. WARMTH Charismatic people exude warmth by their touch and by communicating with their eyes, being attentive and listening to what is being said. Graciousness is a big part of being warm. COURAGE It is facing up to a challenge – a new job, a difficult love affair, or a tragedy in the family, when you’re scared and unsure. It is charisma that makes people face up to self-doubts, errors in judgment, reversals of fortune, and then rise above it all. PASSION Charismatic people are generally passionate about something and feels passion for life in general.

6. WHO’S GOT IT? GENEROSITY A charismatic woman possesses a generous nature. She’ll give the same smile of recognition to pauper and prince alike because she has an unlimited supply of them to give.

7. SENSUALITY It does not necessarily mean a lusciously perfect body or a pretty face. It should not be confused with sexuality, although sensual people often have plenty of sexiness. Being sensual doesn’t require youth or beauty but other people find them sensual because of their genuine enjoyment of living.

8. MYSTERY A mysterious woman has a fascination all her own. She will not give you every detail of her life. She has charisma and you will not only find her appealing, you will not forget her.

9. HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF: (LIVING ALIVE) Two types of people: Those who love themselves too much – you become either successful achievers or deranged egomaniacs. Those who love themselves so little – you either become ordinary, average people or receding, unassertive lovers. If you want to win in the game of life, better start loving yourself more. Love yourself enough to get whatever you want and deserve in life.

10. THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO Never criticize yourself– you are your own worst critic. You tell yourself that you are not good enough, not good-looking enough, not brilliant enough, etc. This magnifies in your subconscious mind all your negative qualities and undesirable attributes. Being self-critical keeps you away from success; instead, constantly work at improving yourself. Never undersell yourself– most people give away things about themselves that are better kept secret. You don’t need to broadcast to the world your shortcomings, diseases or insecurities. Negating compliments is another from underselling yourself. When someone praises you for whatever reason, don’t negate it; simply smile and graciously say, “Thank You!” Never belittle yourself– people often belittle themselves and their station in life. They say, “I am just a janitor, a farmer, a waiter, a poor whatever.” They dismiss what accomplishments they have achieved. When you belittle yourself, people give you less than what you deserve. Remember, you are gem. Dazzle! Sparkle!

11. THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO Never put yourself down – just as there are people who find abnormal pleasure in putting other people down, there are also those who habitually put themselves down. Never put yourself down for whatever reason. Realize that in life, you are number one and you should always be your best friend, your best motivator, and your own top inspiration. Don’t practice false humility – when something good about you gets noticed, don’t try to be a saint by dismissing it as nothing. False humility will get you nowhere and won’t help you up the ladder of success. It is good to blow your trumpet once in a while; a little self-advertising goes a long way. It creates a positive image of you in the minds of others and adds to your own self-esteem.

12. THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER DO Never think that you know it all – people who think they know it all should think again. There will always be some new lessons to learn even from those seemingly inferior to you, even a little child. People who close their minds to new ideas and concepts doom themselves to halt and old age. The best way to become an old dog is not to learn new tricks! Never lose hope – no matter how low you feel, never ever lose hope. Life, as they say, is an ever-turning wheel; sometimes you are up, sometimes you are down. Bear in mind that the wheel keeps turning and that sometime soon all your failures and disappointments will be eased by better days, it is your personal obligation to perk yourself up when you are down. Pin your hopes on your dreams and some great power higher than you.

13. HEALTHY THINGS TO DO ONCE IN A WHILE Drop your defenses – through the years we develop a heavy armor that we wear daily which becomes part of our psycho-emotional baggage. We find these defenses useful because they protect us from getting hurt or debased. You say, “it’s beyond me; it’s beneath me!” For once in your life, drop some of society’s restricting laws and “don’ts”, hang loose and let your own brighter world and new, fun freer you! Forget your ego – in Buddhism and most other religious philosophies, reaching your core being of pure, ego-less essence brings you to a consciousness so free and blissful. Through medication and conscious erasing of your social conditioning, prejudices and selfish armoring, you can reach the tranquil enlightenment of Nirvana. When you think too highly of yourself, you process life through filters that make the journey heavy and less fun. Once in a while, drop your ego and see what surprises life can bring. Forget your accomplishment and family history – most people say, “I am a lawyer, a physician, a principal, a doctor of philosophy, etc., and I am not supposed to act this way.” Minimize your feelings of pomposity and self-importance. You’ll have more fun and minimize disappointments and bitterness in life.

14. HEALTHY THINGS TO DO ONCE IN A WHILE How do you see your life There are two ways of looking life: either you see it as a miracle or you look at it as a misfortune. Your perception and attitudes determine the kind of life you live. Maintain a positive attitude at all times, and embrace and be grateful for whatever life brings. Process your experiences with an open mind and catch the important life lessons they teach. There are two ways to navigate through life: either you do it powerless or sail through it highly empowered. Much of what life brings depends on your decisions, and even if you have made some real bad decisions, you could still weave beauty and creativity into it to make it wondrous and magical. Realized that the power in your life lies in you hands. We are all in the same boat in search of happiness and our individual destinies. What is of utmost importance is that we enjoy the ride. Life would be more amazing if we perceived it as a beautiful miracle unfolding.

15. HOW TO STAY YOUNG, HAPPY AND HEALTHY Introduction: (Life is short, don’t make it shorter) Biologists reckon our bodies could live up to 120 years. We all know about smoking, exercise, diet, etc., but here are some longevity-boosters: 69 – males, 72 – females, according to the latest survey.

16. HOW TO STAY YOUNG, HAPPY AND HEALTHY ASK LOTS OF QUESTIONS (5 YRS) Research following 1 200 pensioners for 5 years found those who were most curious had a 30% better chance of living beyond this point. Higher curiosity levels may mean better adaptation to changes, challenges and stress. DON’T MAKE MOBILE PHONE CALLS IN THE CARS (1-2 YRS) Everyday, people babbling on mobiles while driving crash. Each one-minute call shaves an average of 45 seconds of your life. THINK POSITIVE (2 YRS) A study of AIDS patient found those with pessimistic outlook died on average two years before more positive subjects.

17. HOW TO STAY YOUNG, HAPPY AND HEALTHY GO TO CHURCH TWICE A WEEK (7-14 YRS) An American study reported that, white people attending religious services more than once a week lived an average of 7 yrs longer than those who didn’t. Among black people, the figure was 14 yrs. Churchgoers have lower rates of smoking and drinking and strong social ties. BE ECCENTRIC (5-10 YRS) A Scottish neuropsychologist studying 1 000 eccentrics found they live longer than normal people. One reason: they are encumbered by the usual worries the rest of us fret over. (Problems will die a natural death)

18. HOW TO STAY YOUNG, HAPPY AND HEALTHY TO STAY YOUNG, HAPPY AND HEALTHY – HAVE AN ORGASM EVERYDAY! O – Orange Juice R – Ripe Fruits G – Grilled Fish A – All Wheat Bread S – Salt Free Foods M – Milk

19. SECRETS OF SHARING: MANAGEMENT OF LOVE L – Live with: a. Wisdom – sum total of good judgment -- RTD – Right Thing to Do or Do the Right Thing b. Prudence – Early warning device; watch out for a change. It is the skill and good judgment in the use of resources. c. Fortitude – “Lakas” – ability to pursue with determination and strength of temperance.

20. SECRETS OF SHARING: MANAGEMENT OF LOVE O – Outlook – Your management is always affected by your attitudes, values, behavior, objectives and ethics which are practical approaches to all the things we do coupled with self-reliance. V – Virtues – Good outlook will have a strong will and management. We have the faith, hope, charity, sacrifice and love in government. E – Effort – Help from people (goodness and justice). Do these and you can get things done fast.

21. SERVICE GOVERNMENT IN THREE (3) SECRETS Diligence – “sipag” – not diligencia Reputation – “prestige” – not reputation Innovations – “improvement” – not bilitation If you serve with: JOY – you have done Justice to Others and to Yourself. But if you invert it (YOJ) – you served Yourself first for personal interest – then serve Others, then you go to Jail for you forgot your Jesus – Your God.

22. TEN COMMANDMENTS OF CLIENT RELATIONS The client is the most important person in our business. The client is not dependent on us – we are dependent on him / her. The client is not an interruption of your work – he / she is the purpose of it. The client does us a favor when he / she calls – we are not doing the client a favor. The client is not to argue or match with wit.

23. TEN COMMANDMENTS OF CLIENT RELATIONS The client is the person who brings his / her needs. It is our responsibility to fill those needs. The client is part of our business – not an outsider. The client is deserving of the most courteous and attentive treatment we can give. The client is not a cold static. The client is the person who makes it possible to pay our salaries.

24. THE POWER OF PERSONALITY What makes one person rush forward, eager to experience the world, while another holds back? PERSONALITY! Unraveling the mysteries of your behavior patterns can help you discover ways to enrich your life and relationships and work more effectively. Personality and temperament also affect how we perceive the world and get along with others. Therapists, leadership development gurus, and other professionals use type and temperament models to help people learn more about themselves, appreciate differences in others, and improve family and work relationships.

25. THE POWER OF PERSONALITY You are the main thing that makes your office unique. Use this to your advantage. Connect with people for connection. Let them get to know you. Share the past of yourself that makes you who you are. Share a tidbit of your life so they know that you are a real person and they can connect with you. Treat everyone with respect and courtesy. You have to remember we are all in this world together, so let us treat each other, as we want to be treated. Be as helpful as you can. Offer your expertise advice and support whenever possible. This will help form a strong bond. Let your passion and spirit come through. Let your love for your work shine through and you.