Introduction to Interpersonal Arguing

1. Interpersonal
Argumentation
It is OK
to Lose

2. Types of Argumentative Behaviors
Nonassertive
Passive, with limited
self confidence
Agrees to what others want
Lose/Win Situation

3. Types of Argumentative Behaviors
Hostile, who will focus only
this person getting what he
or she wants regardless of
others’ feelings
Short term solution
Win/Lose Situation
Aggressive

4. Types of Argumentative Behaviors
Cooperative, finding solutions
that work for all involved
Long term solution
Win/Win Situation
Assertive

5. Types of Argumentative Behaviors
Aggressive Assertive Nonassertive
Indirect Aggression Whiners
Win/WinWin/Lose Lose/Win

6. Defining Argumentation
What do you think of when you hear the word
Argument

7. Types of Conflict
Simple
Pseudo
Ego
Subject or Topic oriented
Communication breakdown
Personality differences

8. Defining Argumentation
Constructive arguing is the key
to a successful relationship
“Communication that seeks to
resolve conflict.”

9. All Couples Argue
Over the Craziest Things…….

11. Male/Female Communication
It’s Not About the Nail

13. Relationship Argumentation
Unresolved Issues
Common Traps
Failure to stick to issues
Garbage Bagging
Winning at all costs

14. Relationship Argumentation
Arguing tied to
our self esteem
Why Can’t We Lose?

15. Relationship Argumentation
It is ok to lose an argument
Why Can’t We Lose?
This is how we Grow

16. Unit Summary
The purpose of engaging in interpersonal arguing is to win.
Successful relationships know how to argue constructively. Yes
No
Assertive people see conflict from a win-win perspective. Yes
What are the two types of aggressive behavior? Direct and Indirect
A weakness is displayed when a critical thinker
changes his or her mind.
No.
Why is it useful to lose an argument? We learn and grow