2. OUT LINE
• What is conflict?
• What is marital conflict?
• What is the different between conflict resolution &
conflict Management?
• What are the possible causes marital ?
• Prevention/ resolution/management skills
• Peace building
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3. Luke: 17: 1
• Conflict is part and parcel of
the human the human
existence. It is inevitable.
• Jesus said it will surely come.
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4. What is conflict?
• Is the unfortunate coincidence or opposition,
a violent collusion, contest or war.
• It is a mental or emotional struggle.
• It means to fight, contend to clash; to be
unfortunately simultaneous
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5. What is marital conflict?
• Is the Collision on incompatible forces within a
“life – space”
• In marriage setting the relevant “forces” could
cover range eg. Inherent in the “gender”
factor differences that is masculine/ famine
co-existence and implicit psychological,
emotional social cultural dimensions.
6. • Marriage being basically two individuals
interacting within the limited confines of the
bond holding them together, for the purpose
of achieving a mutually accepted GOAL, it
become almost inevitable that some points of
conflict can rise between the two.
7. • Most likely sources of marital conflict may
include:- Respectable family background
• Personal values
• - Role perception and
• - Personal expectation
8. • - Behaviors in terms of upbringing of children
• - Personal attitudes towards money,
• in –laws etc.
• Sexual intercourse
9. • Inordinate pride on part of either partner for
example if one to social origins or financial
status one feels superior to the other, this
pride could develop into a tendency to
magnify the perceived faults on the -
weaknesses of the other
Problem of ambivalence that is latent hostility
and the love-hate factor.
10. NEED FOR RESOLUTION MEASURES
• Any conflict is potentially destructive at many
different levels and degrees of importance.
• The problem becomes even more serious
when one partner can gain only at the
expense of the other.
11. • NB: This becomes a sum – zero game in which
there must be a loser. This can be very
precarious in a marriage because any WIN-
LOSE proposition is band to generate conflict.
12. • Conflict generates perceptional error and
biased judgments; and if allowed to reach the
boiling point it will be difficult to cool it off
therefore.
13. OVERCOMING CONFLICT
• Marriage partners must understand that,
combined; they form one superior entity (Eccl.
4:9) for instance, if they have some important
task to do together OR to face some common
crisis requiring their combined effort.
14. • If a Win – Lose conflict leaves no room for
COMPROMISE or MERGER, then a MERATOR
may have to impose a solution
( a family elder, respectable Minister, chief etc)
• NB: Role of a MEDIATOR can be truly
depending on how he “performs” Either the
couple in conflict will see him as practical, fair
open – minded, impartial, honest etc
15. Matt.: 18: 15-17
• One to one
• Two to one
• You & the church to one
• Drop the issue, leave it
16. Eph. 4: 26-27,29, 32
• When you sin do not sin
• Don’t let the sun go down on your anger
• Your words should Gracious (Full of
Grace)
• Remember you are one
• Walking in love, kindness, tender
heartedness, forgiveness and so on
17. Peace building
It is much better
• To foresee it
• To read it off
• Not to require either partner
to lose face
