2. about alex I have worked for years trying to better understand people and their lives. I have done both the Americorps and Peace Corps volunteer programs and have worked in a number of non-profit organizations and school systems. I have a bachelor’s degree in journalism and a masters degree in sociology. For the past several years I have worked as an ethnographer, which means I have traveled the U.S. and the world to spend time with people and learn about their lives so that companies can learn more about the people who buy their products. I have been lucky enough to make a living asking open-ended questions, practicing engaged listening and observing the world around me. You can check out some of my work and what’s going on in my life at http://alexandrawills.wordpress.com. Thank you for having me.
3. why are professional communication skills important? A survey by Peter Hart Research Associates and reported in USA Today revealed: 89%of employers think colleges should emphasize communication, both orally and in writing. 81%of employers think colleges should emphasize critical thinking and analyticalreasoning skills. “Observation skills are the most used, and the most overlooked, of all critical job skills.” ACT workforce development
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5. Understand the difference between closed and open-ended questions and how using open-ended questions can lead to more effective communication in the workplace
6. Understand how using affirmations contribute to effective communication in the workplace
7. Understand how using “I” statements contribute to effective communication in the workplace
31. what objects are in the room – who is using them and how?Photo courtesy of freefoto.com
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33. “People watch” in a park or shopping plaza
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36. To make it full screen, click on the 4 arrows on the bottom right corner of the video. To exit full screen, press “esc” on your keyboard or click on the 4 arrows on the bottom right corner of the video
37. Watch the video. Count how many times the white team passes the rubber band ball.
45. help lead to positive change – big or smallThere is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. Nelson Mandela Thanks to National Health Care for the Homeless Council for this great content on open-ended questions and affirmations!
62. The partner tells his or her story in less than two minutes. The person who asked the question practices engaged listening.
63. After the partner shares his/her story, switch.
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Ask participants what they want to get out of the webinar: and note it – if at the end a topic isn’t covered we will talk about it but likely most will be covered
Ask participants what they want to get out of the webinar: and note it – if at the end a topic isn’t covered we will talk about it but likely most will be covered
exercise 1 minute – every person makes a list of what their positive communication skills – gets them to acknowledge what they already do well – so they are thinking about it as we go through this and can build upon those strengths (ie., I listen well, I don’t yell, etc.)
exercise 1 minute – every person makes a list of what their positive communication skills – gets them to acknowledge what they already do well – so they are thinking about it as we go through this and can build upon those strengths (ie., I listen well, I don’t yell, etc.)
About inquiry – talk about my job really getting people to open up and share their lives – learned more than I ever dreamed possibleIt’s inductive [upside down triangle] – instead of going into a situation thinking we have the answers and we are ‘looking’ to prove or disprove what we think we know, we enter a situation with open eyes and open ears – without expectation or thinking we know the answer.We all have bias – lens – seeing the world a certain way and acting towards people and situations based on how we ‘think’ they areReference bias – assuming others are making decisions in their situation the same way we would in the that same situationIt’s about connecting with the other person. This is called rapport. Finding what we have in common with another person and using it to feel comfortable and get connected to one another. We live in a diverse world – people of different cultures, races, ages, neighborhood, socioeconomic backgrounds – we actually have a lot more in common than we think.
It’s about understanding context – nothing happens in isolation. Two people, same place, same thing – two totally different versions of what happened! Walking a mile in someone else’s shoes.Practice: go to askix.com/ava/ - click on optical illusion – click on my wife and my mother-in-law – what do you see? How do you know?
It’s about understanding context – nothing happens in isolation. Two people, same place, same thing – two totally different versions of what happened! Walking a mile in someone else’s shoes.Practice: go towww.askix.com/ava/ - click on optical illusion – click on my wife and my mother-in-law – what do you see? How do you know?
Talk about how I do my job as ethnographer
Engaged listening – some call it active listening - listening without thinking about what you will say next or thinking about all those other things you have to do, it’s really listening!It’s hard!Tires you outBe comfortable with the uncomfortable silence – we always aim to fill that silence – if you wait a few seconds someone will say somethingWhen you don’t understand something ask!Observation – seeing before speaking% of communication that’s nonverbal [UCLA – 93% - 7 percent by the words used, 38 percent by voice quality, and 55 percent by the nonverbal communication – studies by Albert Mehrabian (Mehrabian, 1972). [debates now in the works – academic departments dedicated to studying this!]How many times have you been involved in an argument or conflict because of things that were NOT said?
[talk about what I do in observation] – youtube video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xAFfYLR_IRY - Test Your Observation Sklills – stop at :33 to get people’s counts and then go on to the gorilla part
[talk about what I do in observation] – youtube video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xAFfYLR_IRY - Test Your Observation Sklills – stop at :33 to get people’s counts and then go on to the gorilla part
Asking open-ended questions and affirmations An open ended question invites people to be the expert and tell their storyAn open ended question helps you minimize bias and listen moreAn open ended question gives you more and better information, which helps you make a more informed decision
Go through handout on open-ended questions/affirmations
Owning our feelings helps us process them and allows us to maintain professionalism – it’s ok to be angry or frustrated, it’s just about how we communicate that – we want it to be productive and lead to a solution
Practice: choose one activityWork in partners - give close-ended questions and have them create open-ended and then the other person answers them while their partner practices engaged listening. Aim for storyteller to use an affirmation in statement.– 5 minutes – 2 minutes each person – sharing and listening – choose an activityProcess: what was hard, easy, uncomfortable?Moving forward: Practicing KISS principle.
Practice: choose one activityWork in partners - give close-ended questions and have them create open-ended and then the other person answers them while their partner practices engaged listening. Aim for storyteller to use an affirmation in statement.– 5 minutes – 2 minutes each person – sharing and listening – choose an activityProcess: what was hard, easy, uncomfortable?Moving forward: Practicing KISS principle.