Some practical tips on how to be a supportive parent

1. WHAT TO DO IF SECONDARY
SCHOOL IS MAKING YOUR
CHILD MISERABLE
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2. It all seemed so exciting back at the end of
primary school, with open days, visits and talks of
wearing safety glasses in the science labs.

3. However, the big day has come and gone and
we’re a week or so into the new term and the
shine has definitely gone off the experience.

4. The step up to secondary school is enormous, so
it isn’t surprising that some youngsters find the
adjustment very difficult and seem to be utterly
miserable for the first few weeks of term.

5. If your child claims to hate school or just seems
out of sorts here are a few suggestions.

6. LISTEN PATIENTLY
Take their concerns seriously but don’t be in too
much of a rush to offer advice.
For some people all it takes is time.

7. LET THEM REST
A new environment is exhausting.
Make allowances.
Plenty of sleep can work wonders – as can making
sure they’re eating properly.

8. HELP THEM GET ORGANISED
Secondary pupils have to take responsibility for
themselves – where they are supposed to be
and which books and equipment they are meant
to have with them.
For some this comes easily, but others will find it
a huge strain.

9. HELP THEM GET ORGANISED
Help them learn how to be organised, for
example getting into the habit of sorting out
everything the night before.

10. MAKE SURE THEY HAVE THE
KIT THEY NEED
It might be their lives will be easier if they have
certain things.
A watch, for example, helps if you have to be
places on time, or a mobile phone if they are
anxious about travelling to and from school.

11. SUPPORT THEIR HOMEWORK
As the pace increases, so does the homework.
Some children can find it helpful to have a calm
place and time set aside to do their work.
Plus a gentle reminder to get on with it.
Encouraging them to do it as they get it rather
than waiting until the deadline can ease some
pressure too.

12. WHAT IF SOMETHING GOES
WRONG
Talk through what might happen in the event of a
minor mishap, such as missing the bus.
If your child knows who to ask for help or where
to go, it can make them feel much better.

13. LET THEM KNOW THEY DON’T HAVE TO
GROW UP BEFORE THEY ARE READY
Some youngsters find being surrounded by older
children terrifying.
The idea that they will soon be expected to act
like the fifth and sixth year pupils can be
incomprehensible.

14. LET THEM KNOW THEY DON’T HAVE TO
GROW UP BEFORE THEY ARE READY
All they need to know is that they are fine as they
are and not to try to rush, by the time they are
old enough it will come more naturally.

15. SPEAK TO SCHOOL
While most teething troubles are just that, don’t
hesitate to contact school if you have real
concerns.
They have seen it all before and should be able to
help with your son or daughter’s problem.

16. KEEP TALKING
I know this was at the start of the list, but this is
crucial.
Keep giving your new secondary pupil a chance to
let you know how they are feeling and reassure
them that you are there for them.