Physiological - food, air, warmth, sleep, sex Safety - security, law, order, protection, stability Belong - family, friends, peer groups, work groups Esteem - status, responsibility, reputation, achievement Self-actualisation - persoanl growth, fulfilment Live our life to the max in the moment without regret for the past or calculation for the future. Investing heart and soul in the moment Rich person may be unhappy Poor man maybe happy if well intgrated personality
Learn self control - baby anytime, anywhere, anyhow Potty trained Eat - If I don’t eat NOW will I die? No. Learn time, place, manners, self-limitation Sleep - If I don’t sleep NOW will I die? No. Learn time, place, clothing, rituals, Is it easy?
There are universal sense of wrong. Taboo
Not just emotion but living for that person wholeheartedly Emotion Intellect will
Unique - love a person as they are, not as you think they should be. Warts and all. Not as a black, white, christian etc. You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her. Absolute - absolute vodka. Single minded. Pure. No ulterior motivation. Unchanging - not affected by moods. Stable. Constant. Reliable. Sickness and health Eternal- lasts forever. Don’t change mind. Next world too
Love oneself. ‘I love you because you make me happy’. Don’t take time or care to find a gift for a ‘person’ but just give anything Mixed motivation Moody
1. Intensity -preach love but don't practice=intensity zero -willing to give one's life for another=high intensity -spectrum in between 2. Duration -Soldier may rush into enemy fire to save comrade but few hours later may be his selfish old self again. Dustin Hoffman in Hero -Love between married couples which lasts forever, through sickness and health, good times and bad times. 3. Extension -love broad is your love? Self—family—neighbour—different race/nationality/ religion/class etc. 4. Purity -do we love a person for who he is or what he can do or what he has? -a person should not be treated as a means to an end 5. Adequacy -how appropriate is our love? -poor parental love —> pampered and spoilt child -'tough love' or discipline needed too
Children - worship parents Sibling, friendship - choose friends, like to have a lot. Sibling - blood relation. Don’t necessarily like Conjugal - only want 1 wife/husband. Don’t want to share with others. Sexual Patental - unconditional - doesn’t need/expect to receive anything back. Take care of disbabled child