The document discusses the traits of a Proverbs 31 wife based on verses from Proverbs chapter 31. It describes her as virtuous, capable, trustworthy, hardworking, wise, kind, charitable, and as one who fears the Lord. It suggests her apparent calmness comes from carefully considering decisions through prayer and not taking on too many responsibilities at once so as to avoid stress.
2. Intro
• Topic:
– Proverbs 31 wife seems calm & in control.
She’s not stressed out of her tree!!
3. Proverbs 31 Traits
• V 10
– Who can find a virtuous and capable
wife? She is more precious than rubies.
• Valuable
• Capable
• Virtuous
• V 11
– Her husband can trust her, and she will
greatly enrich his life
• Competent
4. Proverbs 31 Traits
• V 12
– She brings him good, not harm, all the
days of her life.
• Builds her man up
• V 13
– She finds wool and flax and busily spins it.
• Manufacturer
5. Proverbs 31 Traits
• V 14
– She is like a merchant’s ship, bringing her
food from afar.
• Resourceful
• V 15
– She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast
for her household and plan the day’s work for
her servant girls.
• Cook
• Organized
• Manager
6. Proverbs 31 Traits
• V 16
– She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with
her earnings she plants a vineyard.
• Business woman
• Manages money well
• Realtor
• Farmer
7. Proverbs 31 Traits
• V 17
– She is energetic and strong, a hard worker.
• Hardworking
• V18
– She makes sure her dealings are
profitable; her lamp burns late into the
night.
• Brings in money
• Watches for bargains
8. Proverbs 31 Traits
• V 19
– Her hands are busy spinning thread, her
fingers twisting fiber.
• Hands are not idle
• Seamstress
• V 20
– She extends a helping hand to the
poor and opens her arms to the needy.
• Charitable
9. Proverbs 31 Traits
• V 21
– She has no fear of winter for her
household, for everyone has warm clothes.
• Plans ahead
• Budgets
• V 22
– She makes her own bedspreads. She
dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
• Royal
10. Proverbs 31 Traits
• V 23
– Her husband is well known at the city
gates, where he sits with the other civic
leaders.
• Respected
• V 24
– She makes belted linen garments and
sashes to sell to the merchants.
• creative
11. Proverbs 31 Traits
• V 25
– She is clothed with strength and
dignity, and she laughs without fear of the
future.
• Rooted in God
• V 26
– When she speaks, her words are wise, and
she gives instructions with kindness.
• Wise
• Kind
12. Proverbs 31 Traits
• V 27
– She carefully watches everything in her
household and suffers nothing from laziness.
• Driven
• Aware
• V 28
– Her children stand and bless her. Her
husband praises her.
• Good mother and wife
13. Proverbs 31 Traits
• V 29 - 31
– “There are many virtuous and capable women
in the world, but you surpass them all!” Charm
is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a
woman who fears the Lord will be greatly
praised. Reward her for all she has done. Let
her deeds publicly declare her praise.
• Fears the Lord
• Find a woman who had more than beauty
• Her achievements are a result of her Godly
lifestyle.
14. Woman of Valor
• Eshet Chayil
– Jewish Men sing the poem to his wife every
Sunday before eating the Shabbat evening
meal.
– Meant as a tribute to their wife, a blessing.
– The poem is an acrostic poem: each line
begins with a letter of the Hebrew alphabet.
15. Woman of Valor
• Eshet Chayil
– Eshet = woman
– Chayil
• to be firm or endure (Job 20:21)
• Physical strength (Ps 18:40)
• Moral strength (Ps 18:32)
• Army (Ex 14:4)
• Wealth (2 Ki 15:20)
16. Woman of Valor
• The eshet chayil in Proverbs 31 is wealthy
• The other eshet chayil in the old testament
is Ruth: poor and a refugee
• Boaz says to Ruth:
– “And now, my daughter, don’t be afraid. I will
do for you all you ask. All the people of my
town know that you are a woman of noble
character (an eshet chayil).” Ruth 3:11
• Cared for Naomi and worked hard in the fields.
17. Considers
• Proverbs 31:16 AMP
– She considers a [new] field before she buys
or accepts it [expanding prudently and not
courting neglect of her present duties by
assuming other duties]; with her savings [of
time and strength] she plants fruitful vines in
her vineyard.
18. Considers
• “considereth” (2161)
– Hebrew: Zamam (Zaw-mam)
• To have a thought, devise, plan, consider,
purpose.
• To consider, fix thought upon
• To plot (of evil intent)
– (The KJV old testament Hebrew Lexicon)
19. Considers
• It is more than inspecting the land
• It is also knowing how the purchase
will affect her life and the lives of her
family.
• It is committing the matter to prayer
before jumping in.
• Could this be our connection to her
apparent calmness?
20. Considers
• When we take on too much, we can
start to get stressed out. When we try
to keep up with the people around us.
When we let the world dictate what we
need to do with our lives. Perhaps she
seems calm is that she doesn’t rush
into a decision, and she carefully
considers how anything new will affect
her and her family.
21. She is busy, not idle
• Proverbs 19:15
• 2 Thessalonians 3:6-12
• 1 Timothy 5:11-15
22. Remember to rest
• Psalm 127: 1-2
• 1 Peter 5:7
• Mark 6:31 (Jesus actively seeks out rest)
• 1 Peter 3:4
• Psalm 131:2 (learn to calm & quiet
ourselves)
• Philippians 4:6-7
23. Balance
• Balance
– Not too busy, not too idle.
– To carefully consider all things without
anxiety, weighing it to scripture, surrendering
it to prayer.
24. Conclusion
• Topic:
– Proverbs 31 wife seems calm & in control.
She’s not stressed out of her tree!!
25. Conclusion
• Being calm, in control and not stressed out
comes from prayer, petition and
thanksgiving. Then you will experience
God’s peace, which exceeds anything we
understand. His peace will guard your
hearts and minds as you live in Christ
Jesus. (phil 4:6-7)