Looking at ways to empower parents and students to recognize their feelings and manage their reactions.

1. Parent Coffee,
November 28, 2014
Kelso in Action - Resolving Conflict at RIS

2. Program Goals:
● To help young people learn a lifelong
conflict resolution tool.
● To help young people develop and sustain
the belief that they are brave enough,
strong enough and smart enough to
resolve their own minor problems.

3. We begin with 2 main ideas:
1. Small problems vs Big problems - small
problems are SAFE. Big problems are
UNSAFE.
2. Verbal and Nonverbal solutions.
DIFFUSE EMOTION first!!

4. The Kelso Wheel and Video

5. Non Verbal Solutions
1. Wait and Cool off: Calming down - take deep breaths,
count back, think calming thoughts, positive self talk.
2. Walk Away
3. Go to another game
4. Ignore it - purposeful body language

6. Verbal Solutions - Teaching the language of problem
solving
1. Talk it over
2. Make a deal
3. Share and take turns
4. Tell them to Stop
5. Apologize

7. Talk it over ….
__________ I feel ________ when
___________. I need __________.
“I Care” language.

8. Make a Deal and Share
Kids know what to do! Empower your
children to solve small problems!!
1. Rock, Paper, Scissors
2. Setting a timer
3. Allowing for creative solutions - kids can
try!

9. Tell them to STOP…
Important lesson!
1. Body language, tone of voice
2. Expectation that the student is listening -
CHECK!
3. I CARE messages!!!
4. Wait for a response…..

10. Apologize - WORDS AND ACTIONS
_____________, I am sorry that I
_______. If I feel like this again, I plan to
_____________. Is there anything I can
do for you now?

11. Kelso “rap” up.

12. Questions?
Thank you!
crystale@rism.ac.th
Crystal Ellis, School Counselor