IPMA-HR Annual Conference 2022 Do you suspect that your company might be guilty of rewarding toxic masculine behavior? Are you celebrating the brilliant jerk at the expense of the team and the bottom line? ​ A lack of empathy, compassion, and shared humanity in many industries towards their employees lead to the Great Resignation. We find ourselves at a crossroads, having to choose between the "old boys club" style of management of the past and a future of work where we foster leaders who understand the value of balancing feminine and masculine leadership. ​ This session is for organizations who want to rise above the antiquated Mad Men way of managing; for the executive who understands that they need to address systemic workplace issues (e.g. toxic masculinity, misogyny, racism). This is a call-to-action - a BS Meter - for any company claiming that they care about their staff. Is your company ready to follow through on the values written in your mission statement and plastered on your walls?

1. Dudes, Do Better: Dismantling
Toxic Masculinity At Work
Jeff Harry
Positive Psychology Play Speaker
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2. Visual That Toxic Person At Your Work
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3. Visual That Co-Worker That You Admire

4. Topics We Are Covering
Reflect On
The Past
How Much Is
Toxic Masculine
Leadership Costing Us?
What Is Effective
Leadership?
Provide Solutions
For Every Level of
The Workforce
Identify Actions
That Can Be
Implemented
Immediately
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5. Who Needs To Change?

6. Who Needs To Change?

7. Our Current Work Culture
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8. The Work Culture We Desire
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9. Who Am I?

10. Who Am I?

11. Who Am I?

12. Who Am I?
• Play (No Business Plan)
• Intuition (Picked Fun People)
• Prioritized relationships over
short-term profits
• Followed Our Curiosity
• Focused On Inspiring Staff

13. What Words Describe Toxic Masculinity?
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14. Toxic Masculinity Is Not Anti-Men

15. Anyone Can Exhibit Toxic Masculine Leadership
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16. Definition of Toxic Masculinity
Toxic masculinity is a narrow and
repressive description of manhood,
designating “being a man” as
defined by dominance, aggression,
individualism & lack of emotion.
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17. Toxic Masculine Leadership Traits
• Bullying
• Avoid losing at all costs
• Restraining one’s emotions
• During conflict, showing strength
through aggression
• Exhibiting dominance masking
insecurity
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18. We Celebrate Toxic Masculine Leadership
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19. Toxic Masculine Leadership Drove The Great Resignation
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20. Toxic Masculine Leadership Drove The Great Resignation
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21. Toxic Masculine Leadership Drove The Great Resignation

22. Toxic Masculine Leadership Drove The Great Resignation

23. Toxic Masculine Leadership Drove The Great Resignation

24. Toxic Masculine Leadership Drove The Great Resignation

25. Toxic Masculine Leadership Drove The Great Resignation

26. Toxic Masculine Leadership Drove The Great Resignation

27. How Is Toxic Masculine Leadership Affecting Us Internally?

28. Triggers & Impact
• What Triggers You About The Toxic Person At Work?
• How Does The Presence Of This Toxic Person Affect Your
Work?
If you are currently not dealing with toxicity in your workplace, refer to a previous experience.
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29. Toxic People Make You Stupid
•Performed
25% worse
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30. Toxic People Make You MEAN
• Performed
25% worse
• 9 Times Less
Likely To Help
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31. Assumption: Toxic Masculine Leadership
Produces Higher Profits
Data Does
Not Lie
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32. Assumption: Toxic Masculine Leadership
Produces Higher Profits
Data Does
Not Lie
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33. Reality: Toxic Masculine Leadership Costs
Companies Billions Each Year
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34. Reality: Toxic Masculine Leadership Costs
Companies Billions Each Year
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35. How Much Can Toxic Masculinity Cost Your Company?
Lost Revenue /Employee
In Productivity $14,000*
*Michigan State University Study: How incivility spreads in the workplace
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36. How Much Can Toxic Masculinity Cost Your Company?
Lost Revenue /Employee
In Productivity $14,000*
*Michigan State University Study: How incivility spreads in the workplace
Cost To Recruit &
Train New Staff $30,000 - $45,000*
*SHRM Study Found It Cost 6 - 9 months of an employees salary to replace them
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37. How Much Can Toxic Masculinity Cost Your Company?
Lost Revenue /Employee
In Productivity $14,000*
*Michigan State University Study: How incivility spreads in the workplace
Cost To Recruit &
Train New Staff $30,000 - $45,000*
*SHRM Study Found It Cost 6 - 9 months of an employees salary to replace them
Cost To Defend An Employee
Lawsuit $75,000 - $150,000*
*Litigation Cost Survey of Major Companies - USCourts.gov
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38. Diversity of Perspective
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39. Diversity of Perspective
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40. What Traits Does Your Team Currently
Have?
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41. What Traits Are Missing From Your Team?
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42. The Traits Teams Need For Success

43. Determine The Primary Motivations
& Drivers Of The Organization
• What Are The Main Goals Of Your Organization?
• What Are The Values Of The Organization?
• What Are The Main Drivers Of The Decision Makers?
• What Are The Primary Motivations Of The Toxic Staffer?
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44. For Dealing With The
Toxic Person At Work

45. Solutions For Dealing With Toxic
Staff
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46. Solutions For Dealing With Toxic
Staff
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47. Solutions For Dealing With Toxic
Staff
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48. Solutions For Dealing With Toxic
Staff
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49. Who Has Power?
CEO

50. Entry Level & Junior Staff
•Find allies & employees who have
similar issues
•Gather data/documentation on toxic
staffers
•Recognize the leverage and access
you have
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51. Mid-Level Management
•Explore why staff are quitting
•Ask employees about how they were
treated the past 2 years
•Focus on your circle of influence
•Experiment with new ways of leading
staff
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52. Executive & C-Suite Level
•What is the worst behavior you are
tolerating?
•Reassess what metrics you are
measuring success by
•Fund your committees & resource
groups
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53. Strategy & Implementation
• What Are Your Goals In Addressing This Toxicity At
Work?
• What Are The Initial Steps You Can Do To Begin?
• Who Are Your Allies That Can Help Implement This
Strategy?
• What Are The Obstacles That May Get In Your Way?
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54. Who Will Choose The Future of Work?
Pre-Pandemic
Leadership
Post-
Pandemic
Leadership
Shared
Humanity
Collaboration
Inspiration
Intuition
Individualism
Control
Ego
Competition

55. Who Will Choose The Future of Work?
Recap of What We Covered
Learn From
The Mistakes
of The Past
Outline The Cost of
Toxic Masculine Leadership
Give Examples Of
A Healthy Masculine &
Feminine Leadership
Pick A Solution
That Works For
Your Team
Take Immediate Action
& Practice
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56. Let’s Dismantle Toxic Masculinity
Together
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