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Book review - How to enjoy your life and your job
1. Book Review of
How To Enjoy Your Life
and Your Job
- By Dale Carnegie
Presented by
Yashank H M
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2. Introduction
• This book is the compilation of selections from the Bestselling-
• “HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE”
(in 1936 by Dale Carnegie)
AND
• “HOW TO STOP WORRYING AND START LIVING”
(in 1948 by Dale Carnegie)
• This book will help you create a new approach to life and people
and discover talents you never knew you had.
3. Parts of the Book
• The book consists of four parts
Excerpts from “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”
• Part One : Seven Ways to Peace and Happiness
Excerpts from “How to Win Friends and Influence People”
• Part Two: Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
• Part Three: Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking
• Part Four: Ways to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
4. About the Author
• Name: Dale Harbison Carnegie
• Born: November 24, 1888, Maryville, Missouri, United States
• Died: November 1, 1955 (aged 66), Forest Hills, New York City
• Occupation: Writer, Lecturer
• Spouse: Lolita Baucaire (m. 1927; div.1931)
Dorothy Price Vanderpool (m. 1944; his death 1955)
• Children: Donna Dale Carnegie
• Carnegie was a poor farmer’s boy, the 2nd son of James William Carnegey
and wife Amanda Elizabeth Harbison.
• Got education at the State Teacher’s College in Warrensburg.
5. About the Author…
• Developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking and
interpersonal skills.
• His first job after college was selling correspondence courses. He moved on to selling bacon, soap, and lard
for Armour & Company.
• Quit sales in 1911 in order to pursue a lifelong dream of becoming a lecturer. He ended up instead attending
the American Academy of Dramatic Arts in New York, but found little success as an actor.
• From 1912, he got the idea to teach public speaking. In his 1st session, he had run out of material.
Improvising, he suggested that students speak about “something that made them angry”, and discovered that
the technique made speakers unafraid to address a public audience and hence the Dale Carnegie Course
evolved.
• Served in the U.S Army during World War I.
• Dale Carnegie Course is represented in more than 90 countries. More than 8 million people have completed
Dale Carnegie Training.
6. Rules from
How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
1. Do not imitate others.
2. Apply these four good working habits:
a) Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.
b) Do things in the order of their importance.
c) When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts necessary to
make a decision.
d) Learn to organize, deputize, and supervise.
3. Learn to relax at your work.
7. Rules from
How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
4. Put enthusiasm into your work.
5. Count your blessings- not your troubles.
6. Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment.
7. Do the very best you can.
8. Rules from
How to Win Friends and Influence People
1. Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.
2. Give honest, sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
4. Become genuinely interested in other people.
5. Make the other person feel important- and do it sincerely.
6. Show respect for the other person’s opinions.
Never say, “You’re wrong”.
9. Rules from
How to Win Friends and Influence People
7. Begin in a friendly way.
8. Get the other person saying “Yes, yes” immediately.
9. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
10.Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
11.Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
12.Let the other person save face.
10. My Learnings from the Book
• Uncover your hidden assets- you can fill each day with excitement and a sense of
satisfaction.
• Even if you love your work, you probably have days when almost nothing goes
right. This book shows how to make every day more exciting and rewarding- how
you can get more done, and have more fun doing it.
• The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
• If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
• Begin in a friendly way.
11. My Learnings from the Book
• Let the other person do the great deal of the talking.
• Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
• Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas.
• Dramatize your ideas.
• Smile in the face of criticism – you’ve done your very best.
12. Other Books from the Author
• 1915: Art of Public Speaking, with Joseph Berg Esenwein
• 1920: Public Speaking: the Standard Course of the United Y.M.C.A schools.
• 1926: Public Speaking: a Practical Course for Business Men.
• 1932: Lincoln, the Unknown.
• 1934: Little Known Facts About Well known People.
• 1936: How to Win Friends and Influence People.
• 1937: Five Minute Biographies.
• 1944: Dale Carnegie’s Biographical round-up.
• 1948: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.