Demonstrating dialogue in mentoring relationships webinar Tuesday 15 November 2022 APM Mentoring support webinar series The link to the write up page and resources of this webinar: https://www.apm.org.uk/news/demonstrating-dialogue-in-mentoring-relationships-webinar/ Content description: Candid conversations occurred as we brought together mentees and their mentor. This webinar on Tuesday 15 November was an opportunity to learn from individual mentees and ask questions of both mentees and mentor. APM Mentoring Network is an established contact point for mentoring/reverse mentoring. This webinar provided an opportunity to hear from some of those who’ve met through this initiative. Gemma and James gave their insights to their approach to a mentoring relationship, their perceived and actual benefits. Sheilina hosted the discussions with Gemma and James; sharing our approaches, observations and learning across our mentoring relationships. The focus for this webinar was on the mentee perspective, their preparation and intentions of mentoring. Sheilina shared her a mentor perspective. Every interaction can provide opportunity for mentoring and reverse mentoring – by sharing our experiences we invite others to benefit from mentoring relationships. We invited questions from everyone attending and gave candid and professional responses. The premise upon which our relationships are built and sustained are ably summarised by Ms Maya Angelou: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

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Demonstrating
Dialogue in
Mentoring
Relationships
Sheilina
Gemma
James
“To realize value, mentoring
partners must create relationships
where both mentor and mentee
can show up fully and
authentically.”
Lisa Fain, The Mentor's Guide: Facilitating Effective Learning Relationships
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2. KEY TOPICS FOR OUR WEBINAR
 Introductions
 Seeking a mentor
 Being a mentor
 Top tips
 Mentee
 Mentor
 Q&A
 Closing
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3. GEMMA DREVER
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4. JAMES BUTCHER
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5. SHEILINA SOMANI
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6. COMMONALITIES
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Trust
Relationships
Priorities
Exploration
Travel
Self
Awareness
Challenge
Honesty

7. WHY SEEK MENTORING?
 Objectives?
 Expectations?
 Steps you took to find a mentor?
 Criteria
 Considerations
 Concerns
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BENEFITS OF MENTORING?
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Network
Self discovery
Learn
Evolve
Adapt
Change
Grow
Explore
Perspectives

9. WHY BE A MENTOR?
 Opportunity
 Role of a mentor
 Time commitment
 Values
 Considerations
 Concerns
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“Mentoring brings us together –
across generation, class, and often
race – in a manner that forces us to
acknowledge our interdependence,
to appreciate, in Martin Luther King,
Jr.’s words, that ‘we are caught in an
inescapable network of mutuality,
tied to a single garment of destiny.’”
Marc Freedman
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10. TOP TIPS AS A MENTOR
• Ensure you’re prompt and present
• Remember each mentee is an individual
• Be flexible on timings
• Professionalism at all times
• Balancing mentoring boundaries
• Discretion
• Confidentiality
• Availability – phone, email, WhatsApp etc
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11. TOP TIPS AS A MENTEE
GEMMA
 Define your "why" - why am I asking
someone to invest their time and
energy in me
 Come prepared
 Take a moment to reflect post session
 Be open to honest feedback
 Challenge comfortably
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JAMES
 Know your success criteria
 Be open minded
 Ensure you have time
 Be a good listener and absorb
diverse thoughts
 Value informal advice from outside
your organisation

12. REFLECTIONS
This was our first collaboration as a team
 Observations?
 Applied Learning?
 Expectations vs outcomes?
 Next steps?
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13. QUESTIONS?
May we
answer any
additional
questions?
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14. THANK YOU!
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We appreciate your
 Attention
 Contributions
 Time
“A lot of people have gone further than
they thought they could because
someone else thought they could.”
Anonymous
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