1. Chronic Time Abuse Chicara Mayes Johnny Warren “Ordinary time-management techniques simply don’t help some people. But if you understand the four distinct varieties of time abusers and the inner conflicts that distress them, you can find ways to work more productively together.” October 13, 2011 Partners In Learning 1

2. What is Time Abuse? Time abuse is different from time management Time abuse results from psychological conflicts Abuse is generated from brittle self-esteem & unconscious fears You must eliminate the source of the Abuser’s anxiety October 13, 2011 Partners In Learning 2

3. Four Types of Time Abusers Preemptive People Pleaser The Perfectionist The Procrastinator October 13, 2011 Partners In Learning 3

4. “Let me do it” Rarest time abuser Compulsively races the clock Often first rate work Stems from being raised in a highly disruptive environment Seldom considered team players Fails to consider the needs of the group October 13, 2011 Partners In Learning 4

5. Dreams do Come True! People Pleaser Can’t say NO! Commits to unproductive projects Stems from unappreciation of childhood feelings Puts aside their desires for the sake of others Time abuse= venting for anger October 13,2011 Partners In Learning 5

6. “ “All or Nothing” The Perfectionist – Rachel Glee First rate work Must have absolute control Abuser resembles an OCD suffer Fears criticism Emotionally isolated Flooding Technique October 13, 2011 Partners In Learning 6

7. “It can just wait” Resemble perfectionist Stems from being praise too early in childhood Resents being trapped by unrealistic performance expectations Refusal is not always the problem Justification for producing inferior work October 13, 2011 Partners In Learning 7

8. How Does this apply to Us Service Learning Hyper Kids Shy Kids Bossy Kids Brown nosers Groups Over achiever Bootlicker Perfect Patty Johnny October 13, 2011 Partners in Learning 8

9. Tips for Managing Time Abusers Promote- Make preemptive feel in control by putting them in charge of other people Flood- Expose perfectionists to frequent low doses of evaluation Praise and protect- praises people pleasers for their regular work so they don’t take on others’ work to get praise Attack the fear of failure- Force procrastinators to confront their fears of failure October 13,2011 Partners In Learning 9