The defences are there to protect the ego persona against undue stress and ward off pressure and anxiety. Kevin Martin offer a combination of psychological and spiritual guidance, helping the individual gain enough ego strength and awareness to embark on the Hero’s journey of spiritual development. I offer one to one face to face sessions at my home in Windsor or I can work on multiple online platforms like skype, zoom, What’s App etc.

1. Email: kmartin1406@zohomail.eu
Fb: www.facebook.com/kevinmartin1406
Web: https://www.conjunctio.co.uk/
The defences are there to protect the ego
persona against undue stress and ward off
pressure and anxiety
EGO DEFENCES

2. About Kevin Martin I offer a combination of psychological and spiritual guidance, helping the
individual gain enough ego strength and awareness to embark on the
Hero’s journey of spiritual development. I offer one to one face to face
sessions at my home in Windsor or I can work on multiple online
platforms like skype, zoom, What’s App etc. I offer a variety of ways to
work with me.
1. Assessment – a Compulsory one off one-hour session to evaluate
suitability, goals, relational patterns and health.
2. One off Consultation - Arrange one-off sessions from time to time to
discuss present problems and difficulties you are facing.
3. Teaching – we can work on a monthly basis exploring and developing
spiritual techniques and ideas, cultivating and integrating a deeper
spiritual practice through disciplined commitment, meditation and
acceptance.
4. Ego, Shadow and self-Activation – weekly sessions based on an
allocated space which you will own, helping to widen one`s awareness
and capacity to contain our negative emotions as we finally start to
separate emotional and psychological from our parental influences and
relational patterns.
https://www.conjunctio.co.uk/

3. EGO STRUCTURE
The ID- pleasure principle and the satisfaction of bodily needs,
instinct and drives, acting unconsciously. The pleasure is the
source of the libido and fuels the primitive behaviours, acting
selfishly with no thought for others or the demands of reality:
childlike, pleasure-driven and orientated pursuits with no ability
to delay gratification with a great sense of entitlement.
The superego– the place of societal and parental rules and
injunctions. We have internalised what is deemed good or bad,
constructed from our relationship dynamic and experiences in
life. Aiming for perfection and admiration, with a subjective moral
compass if not working with their conscience.
The ego -the mediator between id impulses and the super ego-
imposed rules always in conflict. The facilitator of meeting long
term needs and avoiding harm may mask reality to resolve
temporary anxiety, giving immediate relief against the onset of
ego collapse

4. The id is the horse wanting to go everywhere. The ego is
the driver of the cart but never has full control, powerless
to stop a stampeding horse. The superego is the driver,
telling the ego how to manage the horse and developing
better methods to keep the horse happy and content.
The driver has the choice to listen to the advice or suffer
the consequences when they avoid the straight and
narrow path. Three common scenarios
1. Id impulses in conflict with each other
2. Id impulses in conflict with the super ego’s value and beliefs.
3. The existential threat is posed towards the ego
IMPULSES

5. Four indicators of
Abnormality
The level of inappropriateness, frequency of
incidents and intensity determine the level of
abnormality. The defense mechanisms are
embedded with inextricable pain, where the
pain must be realised to change the ego
defenses.
• Deviance -behaviour and thoughts judged
unacceptable or uncommon to the
culture.
• Distress – having negative feelings that
impact everyday living, functioning
leading to depression, agitation and
anxiety.
• Dysfunctional – maladaptive functioning
that impairs one’s ability to operate daily
• Danger – violence directed at others or
against oneself with poor judgement,
hostility to one`s wellbeing.
Mental Illness

6. • Condition you to expect affection so I can later withdraw it
• Lower your defence and make you more susceptible.
• Openness and interest with your life’s problems lead to seduction, exploitation and knowledge of weakness.
• Creation of the golden period – where the victim is always trying to recreate and is used against them
• Signal to the discarded and devalued old love object I have met someone new, and I am happy without you.
LOVE BOMBING
The aim is to win your confidence, over riding cautionary instincts and critical thinking.

7. The love bombing phase is an avalanche of desire
and affection with a tsunami of love, saying only
good things, helping you piece together your core
wounds and raising your self-esteem. Why is love
bombing so effective
• No time to think
• Removal of benign influences
• Creation of false impressions
• Masking of the truth
• Promotes the establishment of the
relationship
• Most sought after emotion and experience
• Isolation via total support, being ever-
present, keeping others away
LOVE
BOMBING

8. REFLECTION
Perfect mirroring you and become everything you want and desire. The
conversation at first is all about you and your needs, allowing you to pour you,
heart, out to them. Always gathering information about your emotions, family
dynamics, who and what you like, ideas and beliefs.
The method to send you back to childhood traumas and experiences, full of rules
and prohibitions, causing you to be deeply engrossed in something you have
fervently tried to avoid in the past. You are to blame for how they feel, and it’s all
your fault. The guilt brings you back to learned behaviours and functioning your
manipulator is far too aware of to use against you, for instance. Do not answer
back or you will be punished and abandoned, you need to apologise and don’t do
it again.
GUILT

9. INTIMIDATION
The use of a third person used to split your experience into the
real or the imagined, based on the third party’s perspective.
The creation of an imaginary authority figure, mentor or
competitor who may know more, look better or earn more
money than you. The manipulator brings them into the
conversation to confuse and destabilise your experience. You
want to blame me, but the 3rd party agrees with me, he can
see what you can’t, you must be wrong. Please listen; I am
trying to help.
The use of continuous bullying and threats, where you will be
punished for inappropriate behaviour or attitude. The threats
work as plausible deniability, as you are the problem, not them.
You will continue to appease the bullying and try and recreate the
golden period, which was an illusion. You are reading too much
into this; you are overreacting, you have an active imagination.
TRIANGULATION

10. OBESSESION
A heightened state of anxiety leads to obsession as you begin to
analyse every word, movement and behaviour, hypervigilant and
paranoid, all induced during the devaluation phase. You become
fixated, trying to solve the problems, unable to see reality and seeking
the golden love bombing again as your core wounds are being
reopened and exposed. Continuous worrying over something you have
no control over, can be exhausting and draining, making you weak,
more dependent on the abuser for reassurance and validation
During the first stage of devaluation, the abused will
seek validation from an external source. Still, the
manipulator will bring in their own adviser; this might
even be a family member or friend who has bought into
the false image and demeanour or your manipulator.

11. 1. They will open the door to heaven again and re-establish the love-bombing
phase.
2. Glimpses of attention by spending your money on you, be it holidays,
clothes etc.
3. The promise of something good Is about to happen, which will never be
delivered or fulfilled.
4. I want to change for you, bare with me as I work towards it even though
there is no change in behaviour or actions.
PROMISED GAINS

12. They are envious of anything real and need to manipulate your identity, sometimes taking on
your interests and traits, merging your identity. As they cannot relate to the feelings
encapsulated in your activities, they become envious as you trigger their feeble, fragile sense
of self. They must devalue the thing they envy, to bring back their illusion of superiority, by
belting and demeaning your interests. They will roll out the smear campaign and tell as many
people as possible as they can to isolate, demean and devalue your behaviour, ideas and
beliefs.
CHARACTER ASSASINATION

13. one, telling lies.
DENIAL
A defence mechanism used to help you cope with a trauma or emotional shock, until you are able
to work through the event. I will experience pain because of my behaviour which caused the
event, and I do not want to acknowledge the behaviour as I will have to re-experience the pain.
Denial is a belief you have done something wrong and is projected outward to avoid the inner
pain. The final act of denial is to walk away and withdraw, cut off any further conversations or
chances of closure. Always trivialising what they have done and will justify the behaviour as it
was necessary, and you deserved it..
PROJECTION
They put the negative and unacceptable behaviours onto
others, and they see it belonging to someone else, absolved of
responsibility as they are superior to you. They are aware of the
bad, unacceptable behaviour , but avoid feeling themselves and
the experience of a fragmented self. The pain they feel if they
experience a dose of truth and reality can be overwhelming and
will accuse others of the exact thing they have just committed.
You are the dishonest one , telling lies

14. GASLIGHTING
• Induced high levels of doubts in your mind, no longer able
to trust your judgement, eyes and experiences, dismissing
your self-esteem and core sense of self. The confusion stops
you from being able to rationally and critically think. I will
remain absolutely convicted to my perspective, saying this is
the truth, questioning your position and beliefs. I will say one
thing and then deny it, as long as I win and remain superior. I
will move the object around and deny moving them, rendering
you beaten and unable to fight, therefore complying with my
needs and demands. The end justifies the means, as my reality
is the correct one regardless of contrary evidence, knowing
you will surrender before I do, as I never will give up. All this is
used to deflect responsibility, as I want to leave you confused
and frustrated, going mad and wanting it all to end, coming
back to me begging with open arms.
• Induced high levels of doubts in your mind, no longer
able to trust your judgement, eyes and experiences,
dismissing your self-esteem and core sense of self. The
confusion stops you from being able to rationally and
critically think.
• I will remain absolutely convicted to my perspective,
saying this is the truth, questioning your position and
beliefs.
• I will say one thing and then deny it, as long as I win and
remain superior.
• I will move the object around and deny moving them,
rendering you beaten and unable to fight, therefore
complying with my needs and demands.
• The end justifies the means, as my reality is the correct
one regardless of contrary evidence, knowing you will
surrender before I do, as I never will give up.
• All this is used to deflect responsibility, as I want to
leave you confused and frustrated, going mad and
wanting it all to end, coming back to me begging with
open arms.
GASLIGHTING

15. SILENT
TREATMENT
The silent treatment is very effective and devastating when the abused is
trying to make contact or connect to resolve or find out what is wrong. This
gives me total control and ability to give and take at my own discretion. You
start to question what you might have done wrong and how you annoyed
me, looking for a way to fix it and change. They don’t have to do anything,
walk away, and you will come chasing like a madman.
The anxiety created by the distant can be overwhelming, creating paranoia,
vigilance, unable to settle and looking for triggers. They may withdraw sexual
pleasure and activity as a punishment, where you have mistaken sex with
love and affection, you become increasingly frustrated. You may manifest
arguments with more withdrawals and devaluing.

16. I prey on Your endless compassion to help others, to keep reaching out, giving enough love to me, and eventually, it will all work out. I
will play the victim if necessary, to guilt-trip you into submission, feeling sorry for me whilst I get my needs and demands met. I am
always suffering more than you and need more attention, as I can’t stand being on my own and need to be looked after. I need you all
to myself, focused on me and nobody else, as no one is as good as me and good for you. The isolation reduces third parties coming to
rescue you, give you advice or a differing outlook or opinion. I will identify the weakness in your friends and family and explain how
they all exploit you and don’t really care about you .this drive a wedge between you and your friends, where I am always making you
choose me, or I will leave and it’s your fault. I will stop you engaging in any social activities, like the gym or work, and you will have to
as my permission to do anything.

17. BRINGING UP THE PAST AND
RAGE
• You are never allowed to bring up my past, past behaviour
or beliefs and I can bring up all your mistakes.
• I have an amazing power of recall, be it distorted and
limited, highlighting the main areas of your errors what
really effect your core self.
• I continually through grenades and ammunition at you,
leaving you defenceless am ashamed of your weak
behaviour.
• I can be on the attack via rage outbursts, devaluing you
and even physical violence as long as I get my way.
• I keep an ever-present fear around, making you walk on
eggshells, terrified to make a mistake or upset me.

18. Thanks
For
Watching
Email: kmartin1406@zohomail.eu
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Web: https://www.conjunctio.co.uk/