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Cfd 250 chapter 13
- 1. Chapter 13
Parents by Adoption and
Parents by Reproductive Technology
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CFD 250
Parenting in Contemporary
Society
- 2. Adoptive Parenting
Lecture 13.1
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- 3. Many Changes in Adoption in Last Two
Decades
Changes in:
Who adopts – more single, older, gay/lesbian, disabled
Who is adopted – more children from foster care, more international adoptions
Openness of adoption – birth parents more likely involved with their children and
adoptive parents as children grow up
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- 4. Transracial Adoptions within the
United States
Children growing up in transracial families appear to have few behavioral
and emotional problems
When interviewed as adults, they describe 3 main advantages:
Increased ability to relate to people of other races
Becoming racially open with others
Good educations
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- 5. Transracial Adoptions within the United
States cont.
When interviewed as adults, many wish parents had done more to connect
them with their ethnic group
Wanted to be in situations where they could feel like everyone else and not stand
out
Wanted parents to empathize with pain of discrimination even if they did not
understand it or had not felt it in their own lives
Felt they had difficulties explaining their experiences to those of their own ethnic
group who saw them as different
As adults, many of these people live in urban areas where they have a
diverse group of friends they share experiences with
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- 6. International Adoptions
As number of infants available for adoption has decreased in US, people
have turned to other countries, but these countries can be very restrictive
on who can adopt babies
Many children coming from other countries have been in orphanages of
varying quality for varying lengths of time
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- 7. Effects of Institutionalization Depend on:
Quality of the early physical and medical care, nutritional level, and the
consistency and responsiveness of the caregiver
The length of time in such care – the longer the time, the more likely effects
of it, over 6 months in other studies over 12 or 18, may have difficulties
Age at which the child is assessed
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- 8. Deprivation-Specific Syndrome
Identified in some children who were in institutions that gave very low
quality care and consists of four difficulties
Difficulties in social understanding
Difficulties in social behavior with strong desires to connect and relate to others
Inattention
Cognitive difficulties
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- 9. Syndrome Related to Problems when
Children 11 and 15 Years
Peer problems
Emotional problems
Rule-breaking behaviors
Forerunners of these problems seen at earlier years but emotional and rule-
breaking were not seen until ages 11 and 15
Parents seem as sensitive and responsive as parents whose children do not
have Syndrome so early deprivation may have affected neural growth or
development
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- 10. Providing Cultural Socialization for
International Adoptees
Like children in transracial families, these children need connections to their
ethnic backgrounds
Families are most successful when whole family joins in connecting to the
new culture, celebrating holidays, learning the language and helping
children to join groups or engage in activities that teach them about their
countries of origin
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- 11. Helping Children Deal with Discrimination
Many middle- and upper-status parents have not experienced
discrimination and are not well-prepared to help children with it as children
in transracial adoptions in this country described
Parents are more likely to provide socialization when they themselves are
attached to the culture
Mothers of adopted Asian children provided cultural socialization and began
early in the preschool years, reading stories, getting them involved in
activities of their culture
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- 12. Helping Children Deal with Discrimination
cont.
They continued these activities through adolescence and put special
emphasis on preparing them for possible bias in early adolescence
Teaching children about cultural activities was related lo lower levels of
aggressive and noncompliant behaviors
Preparing children for bias was related to higher levels of aggressive,
noncompliant behaviors
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- 13. Talking to Children about Adoption
General advice is to:
Talk to children early in the preschool years when they learn they are adopted
though they do not understand exactly what that means but focus on the happy
experiences of parents having children and children having homes
By age 6, they understand there are 2 paths to parenthood
Between 7 and 11, they learn most children come into families through blood ties,
and they begin to wonder why they wee given up for adoption
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- 14. Adopted Children‘s Questions
Wonder whether their deficiencies triggered adoption
Worry if they were given up once, could it happen again
Wonder where the biological parents are, whether there are there other
relatives, brothers or sisters
In adolescence, wonder about their roots
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- 15. Children in Open Adoptions
Children may know more about their biological parents but still wonder
whether the adoption was necessary
Still may retain feeling of being different from other children who have not
been adopted
As rated by adoptive parents, children in open adoptions appear to have
fewer problems than other adopted children but this is not always
consistent finding
Children who had contact with birth relatives and birth father appear to
have fewer problems
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- 16. Searching for Birth Parents
Study of internationally adopted children in The Netherlands found:
About one-third were uninterested in searching for biological parents
Another third were interested in finding their parents but were not searching
About one-third were searching and half of them (14% of whole sample) had
found parents and (18% of whole sample) were still searching
Data available on sample in early and late adolescence and young adulthood
(ages 24 to 30)
In adulthood, members of 3 groups resembled each other in education,
professional status, marriage, and children
Adults differed from each other in experiences in adoption
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- 17. Searching for Birth Parents cont.
Were preoccupied with adoption
Felt less positive about adoption experience, feeling they were intellectually
and psychologically different from adoptive parents
Were older at time of adoption, boys had experienced same amount of
abuse as other boys but more early abuse
Even as teens, were interested in searching and wanted to have close
relationships with them
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- 18. Searching for Birth Parents cont.
Had more worries and problems in adolescence
Continued to describe themselves as being more nervous and depressed
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- 19. Nonsearchers
Felt positive about their adoptive experiences
As teens, were uninterested in finding biological parents
As adults, felt they were similar to adoptive parents both psychologically
and intellectually
Had more contact with adoptive parents as adults
As teens and adults, reported fewest worries and problems of the three
groups
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- 20. Nonsearchers cont.
Girls more preoccupied with searching, but did not necessarily do more
searching than boys
When searchers found parents.
They became less preoccupied with searching
Were satisfied with reunion but still reported worries
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- 21. Effects of Searching on Searchers
In another study following adolescents into young adulthood found that
contact with biological family members spurred more conversation with
adoptive parents about the adoption process, how it occurred and what it
means in teens’ lives
Contact with biological family may be beneficial because it spurs
conversation and thinking about adoption and what it means to teens so it
may help teens construct a more integrated sense of identity
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- 22. Parenting Behaviors of Adopted Parents
Though they may come to parenting with feelings of sadness at not having
biological children, studies show they are effective parents who do not differ
from naturally conceiving parents
Adoptive parents without depression are able to rear children at risk for
depression so they do not show signs of toddlers at reared by mothers with
depression
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- 23. Family Communication Patterns and Teen
Problem Behaviors
Four Patterns and percent of teens showing angry, noncompliant behaviors
Consensual Patterns – Parents and children are warm and expressive, listening to
each other, and acting to support family goals -7 percent of adoptive families and
4 percent of nonadoptive (3% of adoptive and 0% of nonadoptive teens had
problems)
Pluralistic Patterns in which parents and tens were cool and distant and did
little to persuade other members to adopt their beliefs – 30 percent of
adoptive and 30 percent of nonadoptive families (17% of adoptive and 12%
of nonadoptive teens had problems)
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- 24. Family Communication Patterns and Teen
Problem Behaviors cont.
Protective Pattern – parents did not encourage open communication of
views but insisted children meet their standards and do what parents
wanted, 20 percent of adoptive and 26 percent of nonadoptive families fell
here (18% of adoptive and 4% of nonadoptive teens had problems)
Laissez-faire – nobody in the family spoke or listened or tried to influence
each other so there was neither conversation or encouragement to agree,
41 percent of adoptive and 40 percent of nonadoptive families fell in this
pattern (27% of adoptive and 8% of nonadoptive teens had problems)
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- 25. Family Communication Patterns and Teen
Problem Behaviors cont.
Both adoptive and nonadoptive teens had fewest problems in consensual
pattern which is similar to authoritative parenting
Adoptive teens had most difficulties and were most sensitive to the neglect
in laissez-faire families and they had moderate levels of problems with the
over control in protective families and the detached discussions in pluralistic
families
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- 26. Family Communication and Adopted Teens’
Anger
In another study of adopted teens and their adoptive parents’
communication patterns, observers noted that even when parents were
warm, sensitive, and supportive, adopted teens showed less warmth to
parents than nonadopted teens, and there was more conflict in interactions
with teens and adopted parents than in nonadopted families. There may be
stresses specific to adoption that increase tension and are discussed in the
next lecture.
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- 27. Adoptive Parenting and
Parenting of ART Parents
Lecture 13.2
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- 28. Importance of Communication in Adoptive
Families
Children whose parents use consensual communication characteristic of
authoritative parenting have fewer problems with anger and
noncompliance, yet few families use this pattern though it is more frequent
in adoptive families (7% of adoptive families and 4% of nonadoptive
families)
Between 60 to 67% of families use either laissez-faire or over controlling
patterns of communication
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- 29. Importance of Communication in Adoptive
Families cont.
Many adopted searching children in international study reported distress of
feeling different psychologically and intellectually from their adoptive
parents
Effective communication in families can reduce this feeling because no
matter how different we are, underneath there are many more similarities
from being human and truly expressing feelings and thoughts on common
topics shows us that
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- 30. Adopted Children’s Feelings of Loss
Counselors of adopted children point to numerous feelings of loss these
children experience
Loss of biological parents and relatives when adoption is not open
Loss of culture and language when children are adopted from distance
Loss of their medical history that may be very important loss in modern medical
care
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- 31. Adopted Children’s Feelings of Loss
Parents’ sensitive and responsive care of children at all ages can help
children deal with feelings of loss
Interventions with parents to encourage secure attachments with adopted
children has had success
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- 32. Social-Emotional Adjustment of Adopted
Children
Few problems noted in young adopted children
In school years, emotional problems noted and adopted children make up
more than their share of patients in psychiatric clinics (5% compared to
being 2% of population)
May be that adoptive parents are alert to difficulties and get quick treatment
May not be surprising in light of early life experiences and sense of loss
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- 33. Social-Emotional Adjustment of Adopted
Children cont.
Meta-analysis of 101 studies of problems and mental health referrals for
internationally adopted children and teens, drawing on 25,000 adopted
children and 80,000 controls found
Most adopted children doing well despite the medical and psychological
adversities in early life
While they received more mental health referrals, differences in their adjustment
compared to that of controls was modest
Adopted children studied in adulthood appear similar in functioning to
those reared in biological families
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- 34. Social-Emotional Adjustment of Adopted
Children cont.
Comparing adjustment of adopted young adults with adjustment of friends
revealed:
Two groups similar in life satisfaction, purpose in life, intimacy with others, substance
abuse
Self-esteem was 1.5 points lower
More depressed feelings reported (30% adopted reported depressed feelings
compared to 19% in friends)
They formed relationships with others but reported more discomfort than friends
Adopted children do well in many ways, and they function better than those
children who are their natural controls – living with parents who did not want to
rear children, children in institutions or children who remain in foster care
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- 35. Parents Who Use Assisted Reproductive
Technology (PART)
Studies find few differences between ART parenting and parents naturally
conceiving children (PNC)
Parents using sperm and egg donors were more emotionally involved with
children than PNC and had more positive parent-child relationships – in one
instance observers rated fathers in families using donor sperm more distant
in discipline but mothers and children did not see any differences
Comparisons of children reared in families using ART and children in PNC
were similar in levels of functioning when they were rated and observed by
others in school settings and evaluated psychiatrically
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- 36. Parents Who Use Assisted Reproductive
Technology (PART)
Parents in families using egg donors and surrogacy were as warm and
sensitive but mother-child relationships in these families were rated as less
mutually responsive and cooperative than controls
Thought it might be due to lack of genetic connection
But mothers who had told children re donations were similar to controls in
behavior mutuality
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- 37. Telling Child
Finding in previous study that keeping secrets may change mutuality of
relationships reinforces belief it is important to tell children about donations
use of ART
Ethics Committee of American Society of Reproductive Medicine
recommends that prior to donations, all parties get counseling and agree on
the release of donor information to the child Committee encourages parents
to tell children
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- 38. Reasons for Telling
Major reasons given by parents who plan to tell was
The child’s right to know the biological parent and parent’s medical history –
“Everyone has a right to know about their origin.”
Not wanting to lie to the child
Not wanting family secrets
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- 39. Not Telling Child
People give three main reasons for not telling the child
Fears that the knowledge will stigmatize the child in some way
Fears that the knowledge will change or lessen the relationship with the parent
who is not a biological parent
Not wanting to complicate functioning because family is dealing with another
stress like illness
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- 40. Most and Least Likely Parents to Tell
Most likely to tell
Parents who know children are likely to find out because many know there was no
pregnancy
Gay/lesbian and single parent
Those parents who do not feel shame
Least likely to tell
Heterosexual couples when no one knows about sperm or egg donations, yet
most of these people have told at least one other person
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- 41. Process of Telling Children
Similar guidelines are suggested as for adoptive families
Begin to tell early, reading first about many different ways of forming families
Talk in terms children can understand – children understand the concept of
helpers who help parents have the children they want so donors and surrogates
can be described to young children in those terms
As children get older, they are more curious, and may want to meet the
donor, as happened in the film, “The Kids Are All Right.”
When children learn when they are older, they may be angry, feeling
deceived as the young teen in Box 13.3 described
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- 42. Importance of Biological Ties
In becoming a parent, some parents want very much to have that tie, e.g.,
Holly Finn in Chapter 4, whereas other parents do not care, e.g., David
Marin.
Medical science has identified a new group of fathers, fathers who thought
their children were their biological children, and then through DNA testing,
sometimes in the process of a divorce, discovered someone else was the
father
Reactions vary. All men suffer a great deal and some find it hard to continue
a relationship with the child so the child suffers, others fight hard to stay in
the child’s life and consider themselves fathers
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- 43. Importance of Biological Ties cont.
Nonfathers’ distress may be complicated by feelings of being deceived or by
child support payments that are required because he is the father of record
Author of article (Ruth Padawer, “Losing Fatherhood,” New York Times
Magazine, November 22, 2009 describes many different reactions
All the research on adoptive and ART parents suggest that the way that one
becomes a parent matters very little in terms of the relationship and the
child’s functioning. It is the process of caring for children that makes a
parent as Michael Lewis said in his book, Home Game: An Accidental Guide
to Fatherhood.
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- 44. Questions to Consider with ART
Should there be upper limits on the ages of people who are served by ART
given recent findings of greater risks, though still small, for autism and
other psychiatric disorders for older fathers and because of the limited life
span for mothers in their sixties?
How can we have a smaller role for money in the matter of adoptions and
use of ART?
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- 45. Chapter 13
Parents by Adoption and
Parents by Reproductive Technology
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CFD 250
Parenting in Contemporary
Society